How to stop 2 year old coming into mum and dad's room at night?

flower24

Nothing at all wrong with a gate on a toddlers door to prevent them from injuring themselves, not all staircases will accommodate a gate. My son never got out of his bed in the night anyway, he would just cry until we went in to him! It was just a precaution.

flower24

Not everyone wants to co-sleep. I know when my two sleep in my bed I end up with a very stiff neck the next day! I don't think it's fair to assume that co-sleeping will work for everyone.

notanewuser

lindseykim13 wrote: »

For info you can only use screw fixed stair gates on the top of stairs-the suction ones are for the bottom of the stairs i believe.

I know. We don't have any on the stairs, just a pressure mounted one on DD's room.

Somebody call social services! :rotfl:

Yorkie1

I commuted with someone who had two children, aged 8 and 5. She hadn't had an unbroken night's sleep since the first one was born.

They were still coming in to the parents' room every night, at those ages. I have no idea how she functioned, but she said if she'd known it would go on for so long, impacting so much on her alertness during the day, she'd have nipped it in the bud at much earlier ages.

lindseykim13

notanewuser wrote: »

I know. We don't have any on the stairs, just a pressure mounted one on DD's room.

Somebody call social services! :rotfl:

Just thought i'd point it out to anyone reading as on topic of stair gates as i made that mistake a long time ago, toddler and stairgate flying down the stairs was the most horrid thing i have ever seen. Luckily he was fine and laughed!
I am glad they have stopped calling them stair gates though.

lindseykim13

immynjoesmum wrote: »

Not everyone wants to co-sleep. I know when my two sleep in my bed I end up with a very stiff neck the next day! I don't think it's fair to assume that co-sleeping will work for everyone.

I agree but clearly the mum and dad aren't getting any sleep with a screaming toddler when he's taken back. They will either have to play the screaming game for a week or just let him sleep with them for an hour or 2.

My only other suggestion is one of the ready beds on the floor of mum and dads room, we have used them when weaning out of our bed at around age 4 for the odd night whilst they were growing out of it.

zaksmum

Thanks everyone for the tips. They have tried a stairgate on the little lad's door but the health visitor was horrified, saying it'll make him feel trapped and start hating his bedroom.

Putting a gate on mum and dad's door won't solve the problem because he will still be bellowing "Mummy!!!!!! Daddy!!!!!!!!!" at them all night, so still no sleep.

There's a gate at the top of the stairs to stop him falling down them in the night but mum and dad are like zombies - both go to work out of necessity and are like the living dead at the moment.

My grandson's shattered too because he's just not sleeping more than about three hours a night so he's fretful and whingey and wanting to cling to mum all the time.

shortdog

Is he getting cold? My son used to wander through for a cuddle when he was cold as he'd kicked off the covers, I popped him in a sleeping bag (one of the ones designed for kids sleepovers, not a camping one) and it didn't solve the problem, but it happened a lot less.

notanewuser

zaksmum wrote: »

Thanks everyone for the tips. They have tried a stairgate on the little lad's door but the health visitor was horrified, saying it'll make him feel trapped and start hating his bedroom.

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What utter bollox.

My DD loves her bedroom (even though there are no toys in it).

CL

We live in a bungalow and have a stair gate on our 2 year old's door, in case she wanders around the house at night and hurts herself. She loves getting into bed and has never tried to get out of her room before morning. Then we open the gate and either let her in with us, or take her to the kitchen for breakfast. The gate has never bothered her and it's for her safety, not our convenience, so hardly child abuse.