Uncommitted partner

cat_smith

I'm lucky too. DH will eat anything I put infront of him. Will quite happily eat cheese sandwiches 5 days a week, and is loving my GC. He's slowly getting used to the slightly strange combination of menus I dish up to use leftovers. If it stands still for long enough it ends up in the freezer!

Hannah the eggs will last for a long time. As Alibobsy says, they don't get laid with a use by date. Mine normally survive at least a couple of weeks past their stated date.

Reverbe

No offence but is it a male thing? They say women spend /waste money shopping but years ago before the recession when I worked at a Govt Dept which was housed in several clustered large office buildings with no shops of any kind nearby - none of which had a canteen but all of which had kitchens on every floor with fridges, cupboards, kettles, microwaves, tables and chairs and water machines- nearly every woman took a packed lunch and nearly every man spent about #5 upwards on sandwiches from mobile units- and thats not to mention the coffee, chocolate and snacks from when the coffee chain mobiles used to show up a few times a day.

at the time a decent branded loaf(value didnt exist then locally) cost about 50p...so while they spent approx 10 quid a day on food I had lovely hM meals , not always butties , sometimes HM or leftovers for pennies

It seemed to be a male ego stigma thing about taking packed lunches.. is this still generally the case? I have to say I live seconds from a towncentre and most of the ppl i see in shops buying lunches seem to be men...Is it that they just have more disposable income than women cos of things like they dont tend to buy clothes etc??

flutterbyuk25

Reverbe wrote: »

No offence but is it a male thing? They say women spend /waste money shopping but years ago before the recession when I worked at a Govt Dept which was housed in several clustered large office buildings with no shops of any kind nearby - none of which had a canteen but all of which had kitchens on every floor with fridges, cupboards, kettles, microwaves, tables and chairs and water machines- nearly every woman took a packed lunch and nearly every man spent about #5 upwards on sandwiches from mobile units- and thats not to mention the coffee, chocolate and snacks from when the coffee chain mobiles used to show up a few times a day.

at the time a decent branded loaf(value didnt exist then locally) cost about 50p...so while they spent approx 10 quid a day on food I had lovely hM meals , not always butties , sometimes HM or leftovers for pennies

It seemed to be a male ego stigma thing about taking packed lunches.. is this still generally the case? I have to say I live seconds from a towncentre and most of the ppl i see in shops buying lunches seem to be men...Is it that they just have more disposable income than women cos of things like they dont tend to buy clothes etc??

I totally agree with you on this.

I work with 4 males, I joined the place 2 years ago and have always brought in my own lunch at least 4 days out of 5. The men always went out each day and spent at least £5 on lunch each per day. They used to think I was odd bringing in my own lunch, especially soups of leftovers to be re-heated (I don't like sandwiches). But they would always ask what I had, and would often jokingly ask me to make them salads cos mine looked so nice. I have to say that I have noticed in the last 6months that they are getting better and now bring packed lunch a few days per week, but only ever sandwiches not anything else.

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BitterAndTwisted

I used to take my own lunch into work in Central London for reasons of extreme penury. Nearly every single person I worked with looked down on me and were scornful about my lovingly prepared lunches while they were paying upwards of a fiver every day and nearly all of them were women. Single women. I paid no heed and enjoyed my food. Once I could afford to buy my work lunches I continued taking my own in. I put it into language that they could understand: those expensive handbags they were so fond of slapping onto their credit-cards I could afford to buy after a couple of months with cash.

sp1987

Is he offended at the eggs or offended that you are using the 'need to use' food on his lunch? Or would he rather not come back for lunch at 12 and get it en route to work? I think I am unclear on his actual issue with it.

I find if I tell my partner I am using what needs using, it is less desirable. If I just make it and stick it in front of him, or ask for him to make it, he has no problem with it at all. I do not think I would particularly like being told I was having x or y because it needed using. Maybe it is just a mental thing. I automatically make something using what needs using so I do not really even tell myself directly 'you are using this because it is going to go off soon'. Maybe if I did even I would not want it, lol. The other night, had I said 'this bacon is going off, so I am going to make something with bacon in for you' he would have 'not fancied it'. I stuck it in an omlette and because he had not had an omlette for a while and fancied one, he thought that was ideal. He probably knew deep down I was ridding myself of this everlasting bacon (because he knows most of the things I say before I say them) but because it was not raised or discussed he had no reason to be disappointed.

Can you, baby and dog eat the eggs and associated bits and bobs?

I agree with your problem, but I cannot say I disagree with his mindset either, just his inappropriate reaction. Is he generally stressed and some eggs have just pushed him over the edge? It sounds like he is moaning about not having enough free time.

sp1987

Plus, these eggs do not seem to have been committed to being boiled yet (unless I am too late to save them, lol). Could they change their destiny into scrambled eggs/fried eggs/omlette etc for a bit of variety. Maybe he does not fancy boiled eggs? I would not today for no real reason. But I do fancy scrambled egg.

Reverbe

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

I used to take my own lunch into work in Central London for reasons of extreme penury. Nearly every single person I worked with looked down on me and were scornful about my lovingly prepared lunches while they were paying upwards of a fiver every day and nearly all of them were women. Single women. I paid no heed and enjoyed my food. Once I could afford to buy my work lunches I continued taking my own in. I put it into language that they could understand: those expensive handbags they were so fond of slapping onto their credit-cards I could afford to buy after a couple of months with cash.

Exactly.I used to get US Glamour mag several years ago( now can't find it anywhere far better than the UK one) and they had a mini feature every month if you dont buy this you can save up to buy this.. just to show how much you spend on lunches, lattes etc.. they also did one you can eat all this for the same calories as this which always used to stun me..

McKneff

Oh's are the way they are because you allow them to.

I know its too late now but the ground rules should start as soon as you start to make your life together.

You have all allowed them to do it from day one, so its not all their fault.

THIRZAH

My DH is hopeless at using things up. He'll open a fresh packet of something because he "fancied" it rather than use up the opened packet in the fridge

BitterAndTwisted

Ground-rules often need to be changed if our circumstances change. I suspect a nice, calm chat might be in order for the OP and her OH once they're both much less angry with each other. Perhaps it was all based on a misunderstanding about time rather than about waste and money.

I'd be tempted to keep a little note-book of every single penny of expenditure and ask the OH to do the same for a month. Those £5 lunches would be humping out of their own accord once they're in black and white.