Fed up of Mother's Day already!

ellie99

nickyhutch wrote: »

Have you told them how they've upset you by not giving a card or staying in to eat with you?

No, well not yet, because they're both out.
One was here this morning and washed my car for me, so I was happy he'd done that, and told him so. It's the younger one that's upset me more...he's at his girlfriends and will have watched her giving her mum a card and whatever, does he not get the hint? Yesterday I even showed him the flowers I'd bought for my own mum, and told him they were my favourites...couldn't really drop a bigger hint!

lolavix

I've found it pretty tough this year - after 5 years living with OH I've now found out he doesn't want anymore kids - at all. It's left me with some very tough decisions to make. Add to that the whole of yesterday hunting around the shops for a present for his son's mother and helping little one write the card I feel like I'm being torn apart!

Still, there's people worse off out there...

ellie99

Seanymph wrote: »

In our house that's called 'bunch of flowers'.

If someone gives you an unasked for bunch, it's lovely, and you get the warm and fuzzies.

if you have to say 'I want a bunch of flowers' and you get one ok, you get the flowers, but it does not feel as nice as an unasked for bunch. It just doesn't.

It's all a bit 'bunch of flowers' if you've had to ask for the *insert here whatever you have had to ask for because no one gave you enough consideration to think about it*

This is it exactly, I couldn't put it any better. We just want someone to give us some consideration.

Desperado99

Seanymph wrote: »

In our house that's called 'bunch of flowers'.

If someone gives you an unasked for bunch, it's lovely, and you get the warm and fuzzies.

if you have to say 'I want a bunch of flowers' and you get one ok, you get the flowers, but it does not feel as nice as an unasked for bunch. It just doesn't.

It's all a bit 'bunch of flowers' if you've had to ask for the *insert here whatever you have had to ask for because no one gave you enough consideration to think about it*

Cor, that reminds me of one year (circa 1980's I was certainly under 10) when my mum spent the weeks in the run up to mothers day wandering around the house saying 'don't get me any daffodils for mothers day, I DONT WANT ANY DAFFODILS for mothers day' so being young and not understanding the art of hinting we didn't............ until we'd spent the day being yelled at. When we arrived with daffs the next day we got 'Well, it's not the same NOW!' :wall::wall::wall:

After that she ALWAYS got daffs...............

TeamLowe

The ladies who haven't got anything this year will have to sacrifice their dignity and go absolutely ape doo doo so next year it'll be 'son, you'd better get mum a card, you know what happened last year'

Also I do think saying 'I don't want a present, I just want to be appreciated' is setting yourself up for a fall, cos I know my husband for one would think 'well I do appreciate her. So job done' and put his feet up.

Not that we've been blessed yet, this should have been my second mother's day but instead I'm wondering I'd I'll ever have a forever baby. So I hope all the mothers are appreciating just how lucky they are, as I'm sure your children know they're lucky to have you x

mountainofdebt

avogadro wrote: »

The history of Mothers Day (or Mothering Sunday) is interesting. Here in the UK we celebrate Mothers Day in the middle of Lent while other countries such as Europe, the U.S. and Australia celebrate it in May. For us it was based on a church tradition of people returning to the mother church on the 4th Sunday in Lent.

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Now I always thought it was because servants (mainly young girls I guess) were given a day off during Lent to see their mums

Alchemilla

lolavix wrote: »

I've found it pretty tough this year - after 5 years living with OH I've now found out he doesn't want anymore kids - at all. It's left me with some very tough decisions to make. Add to that the whole of yesterday hunting around the shops for a present for his son's mother and helping little one write the card I feel like I'm being torn apart!

Still, there's people worse off out there...

I know what I would do.

Hugs though. Horrid situation to be in.

dragoneye454

counting_down_the_days... wrote: »

It's all over my face book news feed 'happy mother's day' pictures of what everyone's been getting for mothers day.

I'm happy for these people. I have two children, and a Husband who will have got me something, as he'll feel obliged to give in to the commercialism, but what's the point? The kids make a card at nursery, that's fine for me, I'm happy.

I just can't help but feel for people that aren't mums for one reason or another, and have all this rubbish forced onto them.

I don't know why we need specific days to show the people we love, that we care. Tomorrow might never come, make sure your loved ones know how much you love them everyday, not just when hallmark want to sell some extra cards.

Anyway, sorry for the early morning rant! Hope everyone has a lovely day x

Thank you for this. I really mean that. I thought it was only me that thought like that.
My mum deserted me just over two years ago and I can cope with this most days. Today is the hardest. Everywhere you see mothers who love their kids and would do anything for them. You see all these messages about amazing mums and it does honestly hurt. There is no escape.

But then saying that, it's fathers day in june, the same day as my birthday and I am so grateful that I have a dad as great as him.

mountainofdebt

well I have to admit Junior has yet to get it right ....

....offered to give me a lie in as it was my turn to walk the mutt this morning - however I hope he doesn't father a baby anytime soon as his plan was to walk it when he (naturally) woke up rather than when the mutt decided his bladder needed emptying.

...bought a bunch of flowers which I had on friday to the words hope you like them as that's all you're getting (thanks son!)

.....howeve he did buy one of those novelty planter thingies which wouldn't have been too bad if it hadn't been in a colour that matches no decor in any of the rooms in our home

But and this is a but, I guess at least he's still around and alot of sons and daughters - for whatever reason aren't.

And I do think appreciating your mum is an age thing - some of us come to appreciate her at an earlier age than others - its a bit like a lightbulb moment for debt reducing - no-one can force you to appreciate her, you have do it on your own terms

JanCee

TeamLowe wrote: »

The ladies who haven't got anything this year will have to sacrifice their dignity and go absolutely ape doo doo so next year it'll be 'son, you'd better get mum a card, you know what happened last year'

Also I do think saying 'I don't want a present, I just want to be appreciated' is setting yourself up for a fall, cos I know my husband for one would think 'well I do appreciate her. So job done' and put his feet up.

Couldn't agree more, stop all this "I don't want a present" nonsense & make it known that you expect & deserve a card and a gift.