Fed up of Mother's Day already!

MissMoneypenny

Stop making yourself a victim. Give them a countdown to whatever day you want something and let them know what you want. "Going into town?" "Don't forget it's x day in the next 2 weeks and I would love x, just in case you are stuck for ideas."
//sweet smile//

Or text if they don't live with you and allow time for postage (of your present).

Then when they get back "should I be hiding while you walk in with my present and card?"
//grin//

Or if they don't live with you, text something trivial and then add as an after thought "did you manage to find x" Then add the kiss at the end of your text.

Repeat as necessary.

Then when they give the present to you "ohhhh......thanks
/gush//
it's just what I wanted" and try to force a tear to the eye.

Family are like dogs; they need to be trained to get the desired behaviour: just don't let them know you are training them or it won't work. I trained mine years ago:D

Don't get angry or upset because they didn't do what you wanted this time; that is your fault. Work on training them for the next time:D

koalamummy

My Mother's Day consisted of being taken out for lunch at a location picked by my children and paying for it too. I also got taken shopping and ended up buying lots of things although none of them for myself. I had a great time and loved every minute of it. Except for being a bit hungry as a large diet coke is not all that filling! :rotfl:

Bennifred

MissMoneypenny wrote: »

Stop making yourself a victim. Give them a countdown to whatever day you want something and let them know what you want. "Going into town?" "Don't forget it's x day in the next 2 weeks and I would love x, just in case you are stuck for ideas."
//sweet smile//

Or text if they don't live with you and allow time for postage (of your present).

Then when they get back "should I be hiding while you walk in with my present and card?"
//grin//

Or if they don't live with you, text something trivial and then add as an after thought "did you manage to find x" Then add the kiss at the end of your text.

Repeat as necessary.

Then when they give the present to you "ohhhh......thanks
/gush//
it's just what I wanted" and try to force a tear to the eye.

Family are like dogs; they need to be trained to get the desired behaviour: just don't let them know you are training them or it won't work. I trained mine years ago:D

Don't get angry or upset because they didn't do what you wanted this time; that is your fault. Work on training them for the next time:D

This made me laugh!:rotfl: You are right about the training - and don't forget some offspring are faster learners than others.
DS1 made a full roast dinner (beef, home-made yorkies - yum!), DS2 made a delicious raspberry cheesecake. DS3 (away at uni) was texted every day this week by OH saying "at least send a card!". No card, but a sheepish phonecall was lovely....

ps REALLY glad I wasn't expected to do the washing up - they haven't yet grasped the concept of clearing up as you go!

*Louise*

Everyone knows that Facebook is full of whatever is happening that day - so I don't understand why people bother logging in/ reading the feeds if they know it's going to upset them?

eg. I lost my Dad last year but when Fathers Day came round I didn't feel bitter or complain about 'smug people going on about how amazing their Dads are'. I stayed away from it all. It's the internet - it switches off.

Mrs_Ryan

Unfortunately I have had to log onto Facebook today as I am on a course with a colleague tomorrow for which we have had to make travel arrangements. I have no contact number for her so Facebook messaging is the only way I have been able to contact her and while clicking through to my messages I have seen whats going on on my timeline. If it werent for that I would have stayed well away!!!!!!

FavDaughter1

I've still got my Mum who I love. But, for me my Nana was my Mother - sadly she passed away with breast cancer.

I sent my Mum a small Amazon voucher - £ is v tight,we did a Full & Final IVA a couple of yrs ago (my parents lent us the money & we're paying it back,it's been so hard). Mum normally expects larger gifts but seemed touched we'd sent anything with how things are:).

We took a small donation of just £5 to the hospice Nana died in, in her memory - comforts me a bit. I felt embarrassed & sad when they opened it in the hospice in front of nurses because it was such a small donation:(.

Our eldest came back off tour in Afgan before Christmas - thank God. His friend was killed out there a couple of yrs ago. Our eldest gave me a beautiful little silver cross with a card. He's being posted again soon.
Our youngest didn't send a card,i was a bit hurt. Then i thought of our eldest's mate & how his Mother must be feeling today & I just felt grateful that both our son's were live & well. Still a little hurt but it's ok.

Mothering can bless us even more when given by someone other than Mum. My Nana was under 5ft tall but she was one of my life's biggest blessings.

burtha

glad to see i am not the only one who is fedup of today, no horid cards or naf bunch of half dead flowers....my kids / hubbie no better ...people think i am odd because i dont like all the rubbish that goes with mothers day or birthdays ..my small kids made cards,big kids were nice and wished me a nice day . something i never expected from ds21 . no wasted money on rubish i don't want or need or feel i have something to prove to other so called friends. enjoy today is thats what you want,but you don't have to get sucked into it, its up to you.....if you were let down by your kids,tell them, otherwise how are things goig to improve ? sorry if i seem a bit sad, i'm not ....just glad todays over birthday and mothers day all rolled into one

Torry_Quine

FavDaughter1 wrote: »

I've still got my Mum who I love. But, for me my Nana was my Mother - sadly she passed away with breast cancer.

I sent my Mum a small Amazon voucher - £ is v tight,we did a Full & Final IVA a couple of yrs ago (my parents lent us the money & we're paying it back,it's been so hard). Mum normally expects larger gifts but seemed touched we'd sent anything with how things are:).

We took a small donation of just £5 to the hospice Nana died in, in her memory - comforts me a bit. I felt embarrassed & sad when they opened it in the hospice in front of nurses because it was such a small donation:(.

Our eldest came back off tour in Afgan before Christmas - thank God. His friend was killed out there a couple of yrs ago. Our eldest gave me a beautiful little silver cross with a card. He's being posted again soon.
Our youngest didn't send a card,i was a bit hurt. Then i thought of our eldest's mate & how his Mother must be feeling today & I just felt grateful that both our son's were live & well. Still a little hurt but it's ok.

Mothering can bless us even more when given by someone other than Mum. My Nana was under 5ft tall but she was one of my life's biggest blessings.

I'm sitting here with a lump in my throat. Truly lovely.

suki1964

As a mere stepmother of course my contribution to the rearing of the next generation was totally ignored as usual


As a cook, I spent the day making sure lots of other mums had a stress free day


End of the day there were a few bunches of flowers left ( we gave them to all mothers ). The one mother I worked with tonight was given one, and two co workers were given one for their mums

I was overlooked


I don't actually tend to mind, till I read threads like this to be honest

Torry_Quine

suki1964 wrote: »

As a mere stepmother of course my contribution to the rearing of the next generation was totally ignored as usual


As a cook, I spent the day making sure lots of other mums had a stress free day


End of the day there were a few bunches of flowers left ( we gave them to all mothers ). The one mother I worked with tonight was given one, and two co workers were given one for their mums

I was overlooked


I don't actually tend to mind, till I read threads like this to be honest

have a hug from me instead.:grouphug: