Fed up of Mother's Day already!

coolcait

Mrs_Ryan wrote: »

Unfortunately I have had to log onto Facebook today as I am on a course with a colleague tomorrow for which we have had to make travel arrangements. I have no contact number for her so Facebook messaging is the only way I have been able to contact her and while clicking through to my messages I have seen whats going on on my timeline. If it werent for that I would have stayed well away!!!!!!

I'm sorry for the pain you feel at this time of the year.

However, on a practical note, I regularly travel with colleagues, and I don't do Facebook.

So, we always have contact numbers.

I would do that anyway, because business travel arrangements are not appropriate for facebook timeline fodder.

All the more so if I wanted to avoid generic Facebook chatter on a date when it might upset me.

dktreesea

I have so much stuff, the thought of anymore coming into the house, rather than going out, fills me with dread. My children ask what I want and get annoyed when I say nothing. I'm not into cards - I think they are a waste of money. I like things that don't take up any space (hugs qualify :-) or don't exist for very long (like pancakes with maple syrup).

One of my children told me today they don't plan to be a mother like me - they are going to remember events like mothers day and "not deprive their children of the pleasure of buying their mum lots of nice things", to make up for all the stuff she hasn't been able to buy me! She got a bit nippy because she wanted to go out and have a meal and Celebrate !! whereas I wanted to stay in and make a roast. Weellll....it's freezing outside.

BugglyB

As another 'desperately wants them but can't have them' non-mother. I have to say its not the sight of mums enjoying their mothers day that upsets me. They deserve it!

More its the huge Tescos banner saying 'Mums are the best!'. Its getting an email from my zumba teacher saying 'mums dance for half price today' (sorry, not in the club). Its the many cards that say 'a mothers love is the only one you can count on' - you only have to read the numerous threads on here about narcissistic mothers to see thats clearly not true!

I was lucky enough to spend the day with my mum and grandmother, we had a lovely time and I still feel very lucky. It does sting though.

margaretclare

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Step mums (and dads) do sometimes get overlooked. My step dad is my dad as far as i am concerned and always makes sure he know i appriciate what he's done for me, and my first stepmum too, she always looked after me and treated me like her own when she was with my dad. I once forgot to send my stepdad a card on fathers days and i felt terrible about it Never missed it since. Will say nothing bout 2nd stepmum..(that could be a thread of its own).

My stepdaughter is - now - the only one who remembers. I spoke to her yesterday and thanked her for making the effort, knowing what she'd said a year ago that 'Mothering Sunday' cards were becoming increasingly hard to find. She said that, by contrast, this year there were lots of them so the word must be getting around.

My one surviving daughter, of the 2 that I had, refers to me as 'that woman'. Her sister, when alive, always sent a 'Mothering Sunday' card.

Smoked salmon and scrambled egg - that's what DH and I always have as a 'treat', usually on Christmas morning. He made it for me the day after I got out of hospital recently.

BTW Mothering Sunday is traditionally on the 4th Sunday of Lent. You can imagine it being a bit of lightness in the grim time that Lent used to be. The North Americans have it on a different date.

margaretclare

mountainofdebt wrote: »

Now I always thought it was because servants (mainly young girls I guess) were given a day off during Lent to see their mums

That too. Lent was a particularly grim time in previous centuries and servants - the only possible job for many - would have welcomed anything to break the gloom.

Listened to the Classic Serial on Radio 4 yesterday on our way back from lunch. 'Esther Waters' written in the late 19th century. I couldn't listen to all of it - too harrowing. And that was about servant girls.

mumps

JanCee wrote: »

Couldn't agree more, stop all this "I don't want a present" nonsense & make it known that you expect & deserve a card and a gift.

I watched a programme a couple of weeks ago, I think it was called Martha and Mary and was about people dying of malaria in Africa. I asked my four to make a donation to Red Nose day instead of buying me a present. They all either saw me or phoned me yesterday and told me the donations had gone off. Made me alot happier than some over priced flowers.

Torry_Quine

mumps wrote: »

I watched a programme a couple of weeks ago, I think it was called Martha and Mary and was about people dying of malaria in Africa. I asked my four to make a donation to Red Nose day instead of buying me a present. They all either saw me or phoned me yesterday and told me the donations had gone off. Made me alot happier than some over priced flowers.

I just watched it today and was very moved by it.

koalamummy

I have read this thread with great interest, especially the posts from ladies who as step mums feel under appreciated on Mother's Day. In our family we have this situation almost in reverse. My MIL is my husbands step mum but in reality is the only mother he has ever known as his biological mum died when he was very young.

Whatever we buy for her is never good enough and she has no qualms with explaining exactly why! It is never good enough, big enough, shiny enough, but most constantly is a poor excuse for a gift compared to what we gave my mother for the same occasion. This part is in itself accurate, however the fact that my mum has 7 children who all club together to get her something that she would never buy for herself is always ignored. I put a lot more time and effort into MILs gift and usually more money too than with my own mum yet there has never once in all the years I have with my DH been any pretence at happiness or pleasure regarding anything we have done or bought.

mumps

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I just watched it today and was very moved by it.

It was moving, made me realise that my four being safe and sound is all I need. Maybe the mosquito nets they buy for my present will keep some little ones safe and save their mothers alot of heartbreak. I hope so anyway.

System

I forgot to say yesterday, but i saw my cousin mention it was the first year wit out her mum (my aunt) who we lost last year Made me think a lot. I did go through phases of not talking to my mum for ages (not on purpose i just didnt make time) but now i make sure i ring her every week at least. You never know when you might lose the ones you live so treasure each day.