To tell or not to tell?

duchy

If I'd discovered my son's girlfriend was nosey enough to pick up my prescription and read it in detail ........ I'd be wondering what else she was nosing through and wouldn't be welcoming her in my home ....or at the very least making sure she was never in a position to rummage. If I discovered my boyfriend had done what you did with my Mother's prescription ..... I'd be reassessing if I wanted someone who behaved so inappropriately in my life.

Mind your own business and stop reading stuff that is nothing to do with you in other people's homes.

laeli

I guess I should have explained that my boyfriend lives with his parents and there's usually not many secrets in that house. And he does tell me everything going on in his life that is affecting him, the same way I do (and I know it's really everything because of that thing called 'trust')

This said, I decided not to tell him, because some said the medicine could be used to cure something else (she entered menopause recently, and told me herself). Just to be clear, I wasn't meaning to be spiteful, but was generally concerned about his mum, as depression is something I never had to deal with myself and wanted to make sure she is ok before we announce we are planning to move in together (so my bf moving out) next month.

But thank you all for taking time to reply - I did take a decision at the end!

aliasojo

laeli wrote: »

And he does tell me everything going on in his life that is affecting him, the same way I do (and I know it's really everything because of that thing called 'trust')

Just for the record, his Mum's 'issues' are hers and they may not have affected him in the slightest so there is nothing to tell.

Anyway, glad you've decided.

Pollycat

laeli wrote: »

I did take a decision at the end!

I personally am 100% convinced that the decision you made is the right one - so well done.

Ziggazee

Ladyhawk wrote: »

Why have you all assumed that OP is considering telling her bf to be spiteful, judgemental or to stir up trouble? Maybe her bf has been ashamed and doesn't know how to bring it up? Not that there is any shame in it? Maybe Mum left it out on purpose because she wanted them to know but didn't want to actually say it.

Because it's naff all to do with the OP. Most people would never nosy at someone else's prescription. If the mother (or indeed her son) wants the OP to know about her medication then they will tell her themselves. The OP comes across as controlling, nosy and interfering tbh.

Why do you assume that the mother left the prescription out on purpose??

System

Look at the woman not the tablet.

marleyboy

OP - Its really NONE of your business, particularly that your making assumptions that could be completely out of context. My Doctor prescribed me anti-depressants, of which I am not depressed, he prescribed them for my restless legs, it would seem the drug also works on people who have restless leg syndrome (hot feet flushes).

To think someone like you could walk into my house, pry into my medication and come up with completely the wrong conclusion and telling my Mother "Your Sons a depressive wreck on meds", I might find insulting, certainly enough for me to boot you out of my house and my life for good.

duchy

The right decision -especially as it wasn't your boyfriend's place you saw it but his mother's HOME . If it came out you'd nosed I suspected they might not be comfortable you'd been so "curious" about what is essentially their business (after all you hardly just glanced at it -but read it and then researched what drug it is and what it is for). Suppose in the future you and your BF decide to start a family but have fertility issues -and chose not to tell his parents ....how would you feel if his Mum as a guest in YOUR home saw your prescription for fertility meds and then went off to research what you were taking ?