To tell or not to tell?

grass_is_greener

laeli wrote: »

Thank you for all the responses so far.. we do tell each other everything so I am sure he doesn't know, which is why I find it hard not to tell him, although my instinct does tell me that I should mind my own business instead.

I researched the drug and it seems to be mainly used for anxiety, but really don't know what to think about it as she always appeared as a content middle aged woman...

People on antidepressants don't walk around with a sign on their hed saying they are depressed, she may well not be now as the meds are working!! There are so many reasons for being on antidepressants, whatever the reason is, its not anything to do with you.

I don't get what business it is of yours or your boyfriends, why would it effect either of you?

And how do you know he tells you everything? There is no way of knowing that. he may tell you everything he thinks you need to know, it doesnt mean hes keeping secrets if he doesn't, but I'm sure there are things he feels you do not need to know. In my opinion, no one tells their partner EVERYTHING (and usually that's for a very good reason).

fluffnutter

laeli wrote: »

Thank you for all the responses so far.. we do tell each other everything so I am sure he doesn't know, which is why I find it hard not to tell him, although my instinct does tell me that I should mind my own business instead.

I researched the drug and it seems to be mainly used for anxiety, but really don't know what to think about it as she always appeared as a content middle aged woman...

So don't think anything. And why are you researching her medication? Honestly, respect her boundaries and stop being nosy.

an9i77

So what if his mum suffers from depression / anxiety? Is that really such a big deal?

Attitudes like this help to keep mental illness stigmatised.

C_Mababejive

Not read it all. My advice is to keep it to yourself. Its not as if shes hitting up on Heroin or anything. They are prescription meds and there should be no stigma attached to possible psychological conditions. If you had seen a tube of Voltarol cream that she rubs on her aching leg,you wouldnt have given it a second thought.

Anyway ,son may be well aware.

If she does have issues,the last thing she needs is to hear that you have been "spying" on her.

So dont. Be nice to her. Bring her flowers, spend time and chat with her. Just having a good natter with a cup of tea can brighten anyones day.

Lord knows in this world,and in this country,i would not be surprised if they put anti depressants in the water supply soon for us all!

CH27

laeli wrote: »

Thank you for all the responses so far.. we do tell each other everything so I am sure he doesn't know, which is why I find it hard not to tell him, although my instinct does tell me that I should mind my own business instead.

I researched the drug and it seems to be mainly used for anxiety, but really don't know what to think about it as she always appeared as a content middle aged woman...

Mind your own bloomin business.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

I'm imagining that her son's girlfriend spying on her would help any depression no end.;)

Bella73

laeli wrote: »

Thank you for all the responses so far.. we do tell each other everything so I am sure he doesn't know, which is why I find it hard not to tell him, although my instinct does tell me that I should mind my own business instead.

I researched the drug and it seems to be mainly used for anxiety, but really don't know what to think about it as she always appeared as a content middle aged woman...

Why on earth did you research her medication? I mean its one thing glancing at something and thinking oh I didn't know that but quite another to be really nosey and research it :eek:

Blimey I wouldn't want you at my house if you glance and things then research them and then to make things worse blab about them.

Would you want her to do the same to you?

Fro his Mums point of view if I found out what you had done I wouldn't be inviting you around for a long time as you obviously can't be left without snooping.

Dollardog

If it was on view in the kitchen, your bf probably knows anyway. Why would it be anything he felt he had to discuss with you anyway? It was his mum;s prescription, nothing at all to do with your relationship. You don't know what she is taking it for, it might even have been the first time she had been prescribed it and he hadn't had time to mention it or he thinks its not that big a deal, even so, its her business, not yours. If it had been something they had wanted to hide from you, they would not have left the prescription lying around when you were coming. If I had a son/daughter, I wouldn't want them discussing my private life with all and sundry, even if you have been together for years.

aliasojo

laeli wrote: »

Thank you for all the responses so far.. we do tell each other everything so I am sure he doesn't know, which is why I find it hard not to tell him, although my instinct does tell me that I should mind my own business instead.

I researched the drug and it seems to be mainly used for anxiety, but really don't know what to think about it as she always appeared as a content middle aged woman...

I read this thread earlier and was going to post that you were just being a nosy git and to keep your nose out of something that was not your business but I didn't.

I went away and thought about it, I tried to balance the thought that you were just being a nosy git, with the thought that perhaps you were trying to show concern in some way.

BUT, as you say, 'she always appeared as a content middle aged woman...', so there really is no cause for concern and no reason at all for you to even think about this at all.

So....I'm going back to my original thought. Stop being a nosy git, put it out of your mind and leave the woman to her own business without you sticking your neb into that something that doesn't concern you.

EpsomOldie

Aliasojo and others, you have expressed what I think far more articulately and politely than I could have. I have started to reply to the OP four times now and simply could not contain myself.

OP, to put it as politely as I can, if you have had a boyfriend for years you must be at least in your mid-late teens and therefore not a immature child.

In my opinion, you sound a right piece: a gossip and a trouble-maker (but in a really caring way - not).

And while I'm at it, a bit thick too - "Omg my boyfriend's mum is taking antidepressants!" So ****** what?

Butt out, grow up and get out more.