To tell or not to tell?

scottishchick27

Me and my OH tell each other everything but I don't think he'd be interested in what prescription drugs my mum takes so why would I tell him? Why would your OH tell you? It's none of your business really and not your place to tell him if he doesn't know.

ellay864

Totally agree with scottishchick, it's good you tell each other everything that concerns each of you, but his mum's medical history has got nothing to do with you. Does he tell you what time she went to bed the previous night? What she had for breakfast? I'm guessing not as there's no reason to. Keep out of it, it's her business and if he knows that doesn't make it your business

Amanda65

If the prescription was on the side in the kitchen I doubt that it is a secret from anyone in the family and would assume that your boyfriend just didn't feel it was a big deal - or maybe not any of your business!

Another one here whose mother was described Amitriptyline for pain relief for sciatica - don't jump to conclusions !

koalamummy

I may have misinterpreted what the OP has written but is it possible that the lady may have been prescribed this medication to help with some of the less pleasant symptoms of menopause? I can't imagine many ladies in this situation would be overly comfortable discussing it with their adult children, let alone an adult child who she knows discusses everything with his partner. I would think it would be best to leave well alone and say nothing. Otherwise you could albeit unintentionally causing an uncomfortable situation for both your OH and his mother to be in.

Torry_Quine

I have to agree that in this instance discretion is the best position to take. If she wanted to tell you then it would be up to her. As has been said you don't know why she is on this and speculating isn't going to help

spongebabs

Why on earth would you say anything?? That's like finding tampons in her bathroom and rushing to tell your boyfriend 'oh oh your mum has periods' its nothing to do with you just keep out of it.

Pollycat

TBH, I can't believe you felt the need to even ask this question on here.

It really is none of your business and you were out of order in even reading the prescription in the first place.

If he already knows and you tell him, he may think less of you for looking at the prescription and feel you are talking about his Mum behind her back.
If he doesn't know and you tell him, it may open all sorts of cans or worms and sour the relationship between him and his Mum and, as a knock-on, the relationship between you and his Mum.

I hope you take the (almost) unanimous advice to leave this alone.

FBaby

Why would you expect him to have told you before that his mum might suffer from depression? That's a bit of a strange conversation to have unless you happen to discuss her relating to an event, or someone else who suffers from depression. The fact you tell each other everything (and it might be a case that you do he doesn't, you wouldn't know), doesn't mean that he would be expected to have told you about this.

Keep out. If the mother left it out by mistake and doesn't want her family to know, how do you think she would feel if she learnt you snooped (because you had no reason to read it), told her son, who told maybe his dad etc... How would you feel if it was you?

helphelphelphelp

I took amytriptline for migraines. This is an old medication for depression and often the newer antidepressants are prescribed for depression with this being used for other conditions. Would I tell anyone? No, as it's nothing to do with me.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

laeli wrote: »

Hi all,

It's the first time that I post in this section.. I have a dilemma

I was at my boyfriend's house tonight and casually glanced over a prescription left on the kitchen counter, which turned out to be for anti-depressants (I know the name of the medicine as someone else I know takes it as well) in my bf's mum name.

Should I tell my bf or should I mind my own business? Me and him have been together over 3 years and are very close and I really struggle keeping any secrets from him!

Thank you in advance
E

:eek::eek::eek:

Person has a prescription in their own house. Shock horror.

I think you should perhaps stop casually glancing at things in people's houses, or perhaps not leave your own if you can't cope with what you might find.