Dating site logging you in?

the_pink_panther_2

I was accused of being logged on a dating site, when I wasn't. Almost lost the relationship as a result. I think that what had happened in my case was that someone was logged onto a computer which I had at some stage been using to check the dating site. The computer wasn't even at my house. It is a bit odd though that the icon went to 'off-line' as soon as you texted him, not that that's conclusive though.

Wellyboots6

He is still continuing to hide his phone from me when he reads texts

I think the decision has been made

aileth

katy721 wrote: »

He is still continuing to hide his phone from me when he reads texts

I think the decision has been made

This is very odd. My OH was only using his phone when he went to the toilet, never around me, passworded etc. However, I end up asking him about it and he seemed totally clueless what he was doing. Now he has given me his password and whenever he gets a beep, he gets it out and looks in front of me, is actually on it when we're on the sofa, not just using it away. He could be as clueless as my OH, but if you've raised it with him and he's still doing it, alarm bells for me.

UsernameAlreadyExists

There's plenty of fish in the sea (no pun intended) ... good luck in finding someone else that's prepared to honest and open with you.

Wellyboots6

aileth wrote: »

He could be as clueless as my OH, but if you've raised it with him and he's still doing it, alarm bells for me.

I asked him why he never read texts in front of me etc when we had the 'big talk' and he said I was just being daft.

So I have not actually asked to look at his phone or told him I want to know what he is doing.

I walked behind him last night as he was typing a text and he shut his phone and put it in his pocket. I commented on why he felt the need to hide his texts and he just said that he had finished sending the message. I was so tempted to ask who he was texting but didn't want to be a nag.

I also had opportunity last night to go through his phone but I didn't as I don't want to be that sort of person.

The fact I really wanted to though but was quite scared of what I would find suggests that I really don't trust him. Which I guess means things can't work

Claree__x

It's possible that he was going to another website starting with "p" and clicked onto it by accident - I do it all the time.
Just a thought

Joons

katy721 wrote: »

I asked him why he never read texts in front of me etc when we had the 'big talk' and he said I was just being daft.

So I have not actually asked to look at his phone or told him I want to know what he is doing.

I walked behind him last night as he was typing a text and he shut his phone and put it in his pocket. I commented on why he felt the need to hide his texts and he just said that he had finished sending the message. I was so tempted to ask who he was texting but didn't want to be a nag.

I also had opportunity last night to go through his phone but I didn't as I don't want to be that sort of person.

The fact I really wanted to though but was quite scared of what I would find suggests that I really don't trust him. Which I guess means things can't work

Go with your gut, it's never wrong.

aileth

katy721 wrote: »

I asked him why he never read texts in front of me etc when we had the 'big talk' and he said I was just being daft.

So I have not actually asked to look at his phone or told him I want to know what he is doing.

I walked behind him last night as he was typing a text and he shut his phone and put it in his pocket. I commented on why he felt the need to hide his texts and he just said that he had finished sending the message. I was so tempted to ask who he was texting but didn't want to be a nag.

I also had opportunity last night to go through his phone but I didn't as I don't want to be that sort of person.

The fact I really wanted to though but was quite scared of what I would find suggests that I really don't trust him. Which I guess means things can't work

That seems really, really weird to me personally. By itself it'd be strange, but combined with the PoF account it's even stranger.

As someone said above, your gut feeling is right a lot of the time, and you're obviously very suspicious of him (rightfully so). There is Plenty more Fish

scooby088

katy721 wrote: »

I asked him why he never read texts in front of me etc when we had the 'big talk' and he said I was just being daft.

So I have not actually asked to look at his phone or told him I want to know what he is doing.

I walked behind him last night as he was typing a text and he shut his phone and put it in his pocket. I commented on why he felt the need to hide his texts and he just said that he had finished sending the message. I was so tempted to ask who he was texting but didn't want to be a nag.

I also had opportunity last night to go through his phone but I didn't as I don't want to be that sort of person.

The fact I really wanted to though but was quite scared of what I would find suggests that I really don't trust him. Which I guess means things can't work

Why should he read texts in front of you, if he does do you have the right to know the content of the texts? Does it mean he's cheating? No. Why do you need to know? Is it any of your business who he is texting? Are you secure enough within yourself to actually believe him/trust him.

rachel90

Personally, I don't think I would worry about it. There are so many little things that could be the reason why he was showing as online. I used to have facebook. One day, myself and my (now) fiance made the decision to delete our accounts for various reasons. One evening I had a phone call from him, upset and asking me why I had been on facebook as his brother had seen me pop up on the chat window. I said I had not been on there, as far as I was aware my account had been deactivated as I had followed all the correct steps. I should not have existed on there. I have no idea why it did it. No one knew my password or would have been able to guess. I logged in to see if it worked etc which it did. In the end I just changed my password and bashed about on the keyboard for a while so he knew that if I showed as online again, it would have been a glitch as I had no idea what the password was.
Neither of us show eachother our messages. Sometimes we'll say "who are u texting?" just to show an interest rather than being jealous and insecure. We don't feel that there is any need for us to see eachothers texts.

Obviously, go with your gut. It sounds as though there is a bit more to it than just the texting and POF thing. It sounds like people need to earn your trust. Have you tried explaining your concerns? Why you can't trust easily etc?