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SkyBlue_2

Just discovered this thread.....and it all sounds so encouraging.

I need that. May I join in too?

I am angry with myself for doing a not very money-saving thing on Monday night. Talk about bad timing!

I was feeling horrible. Fat, flabby, unattractive. I browsed the internet for slimming ideas, thinking I really MUST try to lose this excess five stones...and found the Sun's online GI diet. It looked OK....so I signed up...got out my credit card there and then and coughed up twenty pounds! The low GI diet is fine (well would be if I could get into it) but there is little chat or motivation on the site, which I need.

How I wish I had discovered this friendly place first!

I think I might be a lost cause. I keep sabotaging my dieting efforts, knowing full well what I am doing. I'll have a good day....and then a good half day...and then eat something 'naughty' and feel a failure. Then I dislike myself for being weak...and feel resigned to being a fat woman forever. I used to be so slim and pretty.

I have a reasonable knowledge of nutrition and for all my daft splurges I do eat pretty healthily most of the time. (My OH says the diet isn't really the problem...I already snack on pitta bread and hummus...and bananas. I like fish, salads and vegetables. I am not much good at following food plans though...and I really have to discipline myself to plan ahead regarding meals. If I don't I can grab the first thing that comes to hand and eat it!

My main failure is movement. I have retired recently...and last year had to wait for what turned out to be a big abdominal operation. I was recovering from this in January when a post-operative abdominal hernia formed...and since then it's grown bigger and bigger. It's very uncomfortable and very noticeable. I don't feel attractive at all. My confidence has gone as I have beenpoorly for so long. I thought I'd be up and about this year and getting back into my old ways, full of life. The hospital consultant has me on a waiting list for a repair...(He'll have to re-open the ten inch incision across my middle which took three months to heal properly!)

So...I feel like a freakish, misshapen alien....my tummy protrudes and it hurts to walk or stand for long...although I do try to take a drive and a short walk every day. I am not happy being rather limited like this...and thought I could at least try to eat well, move just a little more each day (but not if it hurts, obviously) and try to lose a couple of stones of flabby middle before my op.

This week has been disastrous so far! I have a mental block now about following the Sun's diet plan, because I slipped up on day two and today all our family plans went wrong and daughter and her lovely man ended up getting fish and chips on the way home after a long, hectic and frustrating day....I of course tucked in....:rolleyes2 (I honestly haven't had fish and chips for dinner for over a year!)

I have fallen off the wagon..but tomorrow I am determined to start again, I have planned my meals for the day and I am not going to be my own worst enemy in terms of dieting.

I can get bigger...or I can do my best to lose weight slowly by eating healthily and spending less time in front of the TV or PC now I am crocked (temporarily!)

I have read your posts...and you all sound so positive and determined, which is lovely.

May I join you? I don't like myself much at the moment...but I think your enthusiasm will spur me on to believe I really can 'diet' if I put my mind to it. I do hope I can....I am not depressed exactly but my incapacity and failure to stick at a good eating and exercise routine...to give up easily...is getting me down.

I'll do my month (three weeks now!) with the Sun, but will pop on here to record my progress and read about your successes too...and offer encouragement if I can.

Onwards and upwards :-)



Night all..... :hello:

freebiehunter29

Hi and welcome SkyBlue. :hello: You will get lots of help and support from the lovely people on this thread. It sonds like you are going through a horrible time. :sad: I didn't like myself much when I started dieting but i was so happy yesterday when I lost my first stone.

Erlqueen_2

Morning all

Congratulations freebie and bindi. Brilliant that you've reached a stone loss. Great achievement :j :j

:T katmad99. I seriously could not have tackled my weight problem at the same time as revising and I didn't have to do half the work you are doing. Good luck in the last two exams.

Awwww... I want a yellow bar next to my name by the end of May! Note to self - leave the yumyums on Tescos shelf, not in your basket :mad:

victory

Thanks Lois very well put:D I asked my H about his self confidence/body image and he says it is completely different (you can disagree if you want Suggs and Puds) for men as they have problem areas or things they do not like but they just get on with it as they do not feel so bombarded with what they should look like and do not have the competition going on, H says he is what he is and cannot change that so gets on with it, oh the simple life;)

Welcome sky

Oh Erlqueen I used to love yum yums!!

petrichor

Good Morning All:hello:

You are more than welcome here Sky Blue, I hope that you are feeling a bit brighter this morning :grouphug: .

I'm sorry to read of your health problems but your story is reminiscent of many of us here, so stop beating yourself up!! You are not a failure. You are not a freak. You may have put some weight on but you are still pretty. We all fall off the wagon but we just climb back on, we call that 'the day one club' here, so you see you are not anything other than normal. There are others here who have restricted movement and I'm sure they'll be along soon to share their experiences with you.

Don't look on it as a diet or try to look too far ahead, please join our May challenge, I find it invaluable, and these mini successes are just the pats' on the back that we all like
I look forward to learning more about you, please stay with us :T

I'll be back later, those posts of Victory and Lois struck such chords with me, I wish I could be as eloquent

xxxx

Suggs

victory wrote: »

Thanks Lois very well put:D I asked my H about his self confidence/body image and he says it is completely different (you can disagree if you want Suggs and Puds) for men as they have problem areas or things they do not like but they just get on with it as they do not feel so bombarded with what they should look like and do not have the competition going on, H says he is what he is and cannot change that so gets on with it, oh the simple life;)

Welcome sky

Oh Erlqueen I used to love yum yums!!

Hi Victory, I will disagree it depends on the person, not on the gender of the person. My mum used to drag to the doctors when I was a boy and bemoan my weight. Out of four boys I was, and still am, the only one with a weight problem. So all the nit picking and moaning came in my direction. It still happens now, for all the work I do, every now and then she comes out with "Did you see the 50stone man on telly last night" but only to me!

I could go on but I wont

Right back to my revision exam tomorrow, traditition states I fail the first one trying to break the habit

Welcome Skyblue, thank you for your story, you will find a great many lovely ladies in here that will encourage you and help you along the way

Erlqueen_2

GRRRR – boss walked in while I was only half way through my earlier post but Yeah!! he’s gone again so to carry on where I left off

Hello Skyblue :wave: and I also hope you are feeling brighter today. Try not to beat yourself up for ‘falling off the wagon’ and eating unhealthily. It’s self defeating because then you’ll comfort eat (years of experience speaking here ) and it’s a downwards spiral from there. Enjoy the naughtiness, try to remember exactly why you ate what you ate to see if it is a situation you can avoid in future, curse about it and move on.

victory wrote: »

People blame my mother as she was my confidence breaker and have not been able to pick it up again, I am more like a little child that needs reassurance and am too old for that, far too old

Unfortunately no one is ever too old to need reassurance, I guess it is just part of human nature. Your H sounds like a wise person so listen to him! Find that something that makes you feel really good and you must learn to be comfortable and relaxed with who you are. This really is one of the things that life is too short to worry about.

(here comes the reassurance bit )

You are unique, you are a beautiful person and other people will ever only see that. :A

Suggs – are you related to victory or is this another confidence breaking mother? The next time your mother asks you a question like this you need to reply something along the lines of “wow really? he’s X times my size. No, didn’t see it. Too busy being fit, healthy and enjoying myself to watch such rubbish!”

Some kids have to put up with so much horror just coping with school but to get it from a parent as well beggers belief^^

Good luck with your exam tomorrow

Things about yourself to feel positive about? I'll start it off - my hair and my legs. Always had nice pins and hooray!! the micro mini is back although 'sheep in lambs clothing' does spring to mind these days :rotfl:

Right, now the boss is away again I'm going to sneak into the White Rose Shopping Centre and buy some new shoes. Anyone know how to get around that place WITHOUT having to walk past all the Cookie stalls? No? Guess I'll just have to take a deep breath and be strong :eek:

Erlqueen_2

Oh last thing then I'm really going

Kat - if you still need a Slimming World book let me know. If have two fairly new books so you can have one of those.

Also with regards to salad dressing - have you tried just plain cold natural yogurt. I prefer this to salad cream now and confess I got the idea 'cos I used to get it on my donner kebabs ><

CathChat

victory wrote: »

I think the lady that went down the catwalk in her undies was very brave but what struck me was how she put herself in the wrong position when told to stand in line, she had it out of proportion, her self confidence to the way other people see her and even she was surprised but in the end with a great deal of help and a very strong push she went down the catwalk, good on her:j :j

I do wish I had the confidance to do something like that, but I dont think any of the people on that show look bad when they do go down the catwalk and you can really see the confidance shining from them.

What day do you all weigh on to be on the chart. Is there only one day in paticular or do you just report progress as you weigh?

I usually weigh on a tuesday when Im in boxcersise but I missed it this week as work took us to the races for the day. (Slap across the wrist)

honey28

Havent really read all the posts sorry. I just came on for a hug as I really could do with one. Having "one of those days" where nothing is going right and can't stop crying. DH is at work and not answering his phone, parents are away on holiday and no-one else to talk to but my lose weight friends on MSE - where are you all