Feeling very frustrated (rant)

aileth

Joons wrote: »

Nah this would annoy me too, is he a bit hyperactive by nature? At 30 it's about time he settled in a job, what about a company pension, if he keeps moving jobs he isn't achieving much job security, he's been very lucky in this climate but perhaps it's time to say, this time, is the last time!

Actually he's rather docile! I'm quite worried about his CV, because if I were a prospective employer and had a choice between someone who flit between jobs and someone who had worked somewhere for 10 years, I'd want the person more likely to stay and be dependable.

I sent him a message saying that I was looking into a career advisors and whether he'd like to see one and I got 'Yeah' in response :undecided. I suppose that's better than "I don't need one because I'm going to be a wizard this year."

Joons

aileth wrote: »

Actually he's rather docile! I'm quite worried about his CV, because if I were a prospective employer and had a choice between someone who flit between jobs and someone who had worked somewhere for 10 years, I'd want the person more likely to stay and be dependable.

I sent him a message saying that I was looking into a career advisors and whether he'd like to see one and I got 'Yeah' in response :undecided. I suppose that's better than "I don't need one because I'm going to be a wizard this year."

You make him sound like a lazy old dug, haha. To his credit, he's ambitious, possibly crazy but hey, he might surprise you one day!

1886

Some people stay in a job for years and years that they hate, they moan about the job all the time but they never do anything about it. IMO, they can't hate it as much as they make out...

I think that it's a good thing that your OH is prepared to do something about not being happy. I agree the money side of funding his ideas/courses is an issue. An adult careers advisor is a good idea, I get the feeling they're a bit hit N miss though. I went to one once and found it no use whatsoever. There must be some good ones out there

Spirit_2

I would be a bit concerned about random investments in 'courses various' coupled with not looking for a specific career path. If there is a relatively fast course that gets people high paying jobs without underpinning experience I would think there would be a lot of applicants.

If his wanderlust is because he is unfulfilled would he (and you)commit to a long term career change and if necessary doing an Access course then going to University or HE. He could still work at least part-time alongside doing this.

Someone I am very fond of has had a number of different jobs and ambitions which have been pursued whilst his parent subsidised his life. He is in his early 30's. His parent can no longer afford to underpin him and be his insurance against doing a job he does not like/does not use his potential.

In the last two years he has had to support himself and has settled for doing self employed what he likes (that is seasonal and uses a vocational qualification he has although it is not essential ) and having a second employed job that only requires a driving licence. If he had a partner who could 'support him' I do not think it would occured to him to have got the second job.

heartbreak_star

Has he ever considered the OU? With an Open degree he can do loads of modules in different things to keep his interest piqued

HBS x

aileth

Well, I don't know if it's even possible to pique his interest! I bet even if there was a module on female breast anatomy he'd end up sat in front of the TV after a week. I'd like to think it's because he hasn't found his niche yet, but...

heartbreak_star

I work to live - I found my niche with a hobby (I love it, but it's no moneyspinner!).

Does he have hobbies?

HBS x

aileth

Not particularly. He has always been very much a sheep, so Friend A decides to go climbing, he goes with them, loses contact with Friend A so stops climbing, or Friend B decides to go mountainbiking etc.

He is very much into IT/video games (as I think most blokes are), but the course that we paid two grand for is an IT course. Then he decided to get into programming, read one web page and didn't look it up since, after announcing to his whole family he was going to do it.

He only seems to have a hobby if someone else has a hobby, and he really isn't interested in mine!

suki1001

aileth wrote: »

Actually he's rather docile! I'm quite worried about his CV, because if I were a prospective employer and had a choice between someone who flit between jobs and someone who had worked somewhere for 10 years, I'd want the person more likely to stay and be dependable.

I sent him a message saying that I was looking into a career advisors and whether he'd like to see one and I got 'Yeah' in response :undecided. I suppose that's better than "I don't need one because I'm going to be a wizard this year."

I get the impression though that because he can flit from job to job, that he must have quite good skills at interview stage. I was always warned about this and it did concern me to some extent, but I've never been out of work despite working for 18 years and having had more jobs than I care to remember. I think the main thing to concentrate on is finding a career path where he's not likely to give it up in a year.

I have been exactly the same as this (bar the qualification attempts). My choice was to find a job that was very changable so it's a mix of going out and into the office. Everything is completely different when I go out and it keeps the boredom from setting in. I find doing the same thing where lots of routine was required very difficult. I also have the chance to do paid for qualifications.

londonsurrey

I'm concerned that he doesn't even respect the money spent enough to at least finish the course, even if he flunks it.

Is he very much into The Next New Thing, be it the next phone, tv, game, gadget, hobby, that according to him is terribly wonderfully good, and life is incomplete without it?