Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! Part 3

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amyloofoo wrote: »

Glad to hear the scan went well (even if confusing) for Sam and that things are equally positive for Lily.

As I've been off work for a little while with the good old HG I had an informal meeting with my manager today to discuss things. It's something that's needed to be done under work's sickness policy and is more of a box ticking exercise for the managers than anything else. Today I've been really tired and could be sick at any moment, but I made an effort to stay awake, get dressed appropriately, put some make-up on and turn up early so I wasn't just rushing in and was able to say hello to colleagues.

With the exception of the receptionist, no-one said hi to me or even acknowledged my presence beyond a raised eyebrow or a glance - and I walked past about 8 or 9 members of a team I've worked with for almost a year. I was a little taken aback by the coldness of my reception, but made my mind up to be friendly and to go to talk with them after the meeting.

The actual meeting itself was fine, generally talking about when I hope to be back (the answer is as soon as I can spend a couple of hours without vomiting or fainting), problems that may arise in the future and how I'm being cared for during the pregnancy. I was nearly sick in the office and had to pull out my emergency stash of nappy bags but fortunately managed to pull myself back from the brink.

Afterwards I went to say hello to the other team members, and started with the two who do the same role as me. I considered myself to be friendly with both, although one is very brusque with everyone and can be a very abrasive person. I was told that my illness was preferable to working on the ward, that things were !!!!! and then she walked away - the other team member was a little more communicative, but said the bare minimum and then said she was looking for another job. None of the others in the room even acknowledged I was there.

Now I gather that there's been quite a bit of sickness absence across the team and that things have been difficult. However this ward is regularly like this and it's often in the past been me that's been covering for others. I feel that they're treating my illness as being less severe than their own (without even asking me what was wrong) and have decided to make me a scapegoat. When others went in after extended absence people said hi, and even if they'd whinged about having to cover for them, they would sympathise with their illness and wish them well.

I know some of it's probably hormones and tiredness and generally feeling pants, but they've really got to me. I genuinely loved my job and now I'm terrified of how I'll be treated when I go back. I've just cried and cried since I got home. I just feel so isolated and as though I have no friends - they've all worked there much longer and are friends socially, around the same age and are friends on Facebook, etc - none of which they've included me in.

ETA: sorry for the extended whinge, needed to vent.

It seems to me some people who have had good pregnancies with just a bit of nausea think that it's the same for everybody when it really isn't. Very few people realise how nasty HG makes you feel, your work colleagues are bang out of order!

mincepiemonster

Samtoby thanks for the update. Been thinking of you. I have heard of people having those sacs of blood but boy oh boy I bet it gave you a fright. Glad bean is looking nice and strong :T

Amyloofoo your colleagues are being out of order, but I wonder if you maybe visited at a really bad time? Like, perhaps they'd just had a b*llocking over something else and were all feeling grumpy?! HG is a real illness - when I worked on a gynae ward there were women who lost several stone during pregnancy, and had to come in for regular saline drips just to stay hydrated. It's something completely different to the "morning sickness" most people have but is so misunderstood. At least my morning sickness goes away when I eat! I sympathise with you and hope you feel better soon :kisses3:

Lily glad your scan went well, catch up with you on the other thread soon!

AFM: Well I had my booking in appointment this morning and I have my scan date as 27th June 2013 I did tell the midwife I thought I'd only be 11+0 but she said they can only go by LMP which puts me at 10+6 today and 12+0 on the scan date, and I'll still be able to have the NT screen as long as I'm 11 weeks. Can't wait to see baby again

Gopppers

Just a quick one to be asked to be taken off list. I've miscarried

Eta: best wishes to all you lovely ladies, enjoy the rest of your pregnancies xx

Birdie85

Oh I'm so sorry Goppers. Massive hugs. Hope you're not away for too long.

amyloofoo

So sorry to hear your sad news gopppers :grouphug: I hope you're being looked after and would love to see you back very soon :grouphug:

TeamLowe

Gopppers so sorry to hear your news

Forgot to say as i had a horrible migraine last night- i had my booking in yesterday too and my scan is Monday 22 July which is soooooo far away! but by their calculations i'm twelve weeks on the saturday so considering it's 08:30 it really is the first time so i suppose i should be greatful for that plus it's two days before my birthday so if it's good news i'll be able to tell the extended family then

Had lots of decision letters to do from appeals so i've been dragging myself to work this week (wouldn't be nice to keep the parents waiting and i only i can write them) but they're done and in the post now and I've boxed off my other jobs so feel more comfortable that if i do get too sick i can take time off.

luckily atm if i get up and leave quickly, i can still drive to work and the nausea only really kicks in once I'm here and i have lots of polos :rotfl:

firefly369

Goppers - :(So sorry:( I hope you have lots of support around you at this time. Big big hugs.

samtoby

Goppers - so sorry.

Hugs. xx

fran-o

Goppers, so sorry to hear this news, be kind to yourself and let yourself be taken care of. Will be thinking of you.
Went for reassurance scan this afternoon, thankfully all ok. Was greeted by male trainee doctor which worried me but he was great and his colleague too. The bean is 16mm and they dated it at around 8 weeks, so my 12 wk scan is likely to be put back a week. Was such a relief to see all well this time, now four worrying weeks to go!

Faerie

Goppers, sorry to hear your news Thinking of you at this awful time.

I'm 6w 3d and still don't have many symptoms, it doesn't feel real yet so I keep thinking it'll be bad news when I have my scan.

I got a letter in the post today saying I've got a telephone appointment tomorrow where a clinician will review my info sent from my GP. At the end of the letter it says I have to ring the antenatal appointment office to arrange an appointment based on the assessment. I'm really confused, it sounds like a telephone appointment and then they'll book me in if I pass?!

I haven't actually seen anybody yet. My GP referred me from a telephone appointment, then I've got my appt tomorrow, maybe I'll have my ultrasounds through the phone too!