MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 2

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fluffnutter wrote: »

I've made a bit of a decision. I'm not going to go to any more mums and babies/mums and toddlers groups. I've tried and tried, but I can't abide them and I figure it's not much fun for Freddie if I'm on edge. I've met some lovely women through my post-natal pilates and we hang out together with our babies. Similarly I've met some of you from here and I'm always keen to meet up if there's something nearby. I just can't cope with those groups where you don't know anyone, you drink bad quality coffee whilst everyone ignores you, or worse, you have to sing awful songs. What is it with wind the bobbin up?? Tuneless, dull, appalling!

From now on Freddie and I are going to chill together. I read a really liberating article from a woman who felt the same way and said that with her second child she didn't bother with groups and felt she bonded much better because they just spent time together. He'll go to pre-school and he'll see my friends' babies - I just ain't ever gonna sing wind the !!!!ing bobbin up again.

Good on you

Confession time. I've never been to one of those groups. They've never appealed to me - I accepted all the leaflets given to me by various health visitors, but had no intention of going and so never did.

But - I will defend 'Wind the bobbin up'. My little girl loves it. Whenever she's a bit miserable, and I know that she's not hungry or tired or has a nappy full of poo, there are three things to try: 1) cuddle, 2) dummy and 3) Wind the bobbin up. If we're out and about with the buggy and there's no one around, I go straight for option 3, and she'll start clapping. This morning we sat on our bed singing it at 4.45am. That song is like magic in this house

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Bamama wrote: »

OMG. First time !!!!!EVER!!!!! I put Dewi down awake and he actually went to sleep!!!

Yay! Well done Dewi! :j

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Mrshaworth2b wrote: »

Working ladies can you make me feel better, I'm going back to work in November (I know a bit off yet) but I already have anxiety about leaving my lo. I will only be going back part time but the thought of leaving him for 16hrs is absolutely breaking my heart. To the point I am looking for stay at home jobs, with less pay.

My oh thinks ill want to go back come November and that ill miss my job and will be giving up on a career but seriously I can't bear to think about leaving him. It's really bothering me!

I went back to work full time when my LO was eight and a half months, and I was very ready for it. Of course I loved spending time with her (I still do!), of course I love her to bits, of course she's the best thing that's ever happened to me, but I also like adult conversation, using my brain, drinking coffee whilst it's still hot, going for lunch without having to check if they have highchairs and sitting on the train with nothing to do but post on here or read the Evening Standard I work compressed hours, so I do full time hours in four days, with one of those days from home. So I still get to spend lots of time with my little girl, but I also get to eat hot porridge and drink hot coffee at my desk three mornings a week and spend time with people who don't talk about poo or sleep all day. It's the best of both worlds.

I do think it's incredibly important that you have childcare that you're happy with though. If you worry about whether your LO is OK, then being at work is going to be a lot harder. My LO loves her nursery - the staff are fab and I trust them 100%, and I know that if there's anything wrong they'll let me know immediately. I know that she's socialising with other children and having fun whilst learning new things - that makes me a lot happier about going to work. Besides, looking after a toddler all day is exhausting - my day 'off' is my busiest and most tiring!

You will be fine, as will your little boy. You might find it a bit hard in the beginning, but you'll both get used to it and get into a new routine, and you'll still have plenty of time together. My LO gets excited as we walk through the doors of the nursery, she runs off to play with her friends before I've even said bye and when I come to pick her up again she runs towards me for a cuddle. I'm convinced being with other children is good for her, and being with other adults is good for me

PS: As an aside - working from home is not as easy as it sounds once you have a toddler; your only productive time is likely to be when he's asleep

Bamama

I'm sooooo happy! He was fussing at the boob so I just put him down and he was happy. I left him there so I could eat and when I finished I checked and he was outters!

Fluff, I do play group. The kind you talk about. However, I go with my friends. I enjoy wind the bobbin up... And leg over!

martafdz

Congrats on sleeping without aid!!!! That's great!!!

Fluff, I have never gone to one of those groups and I spend 95% of my time with little Vic on our own, I only meet friends occasionally and nevertheless she's now very sociable all of a sudden and "chats" to anyone who approaches her. I might go to one and see how my local group is, but I'm not fussed. I wish they had an aquababy close to me, though I like the pool and V loves splashing. I'd love to meet people from here too... Talking of which... Where's savage?

Thanks Nutella, she's excited now and she pulls herself up anywhere, using the jumperoo legs, curtains, chairs, my legs, the sofa... But I have to have a hundred eyes now!!! A part of me wishes she'd like to sit and play with her toys, instead of crawling from room to room and grabbing anything at hand from the coffee table!! I felt incredibly tired this week, too much running after her carrying her because she cries as soon as I move away, and the bloody heat!!! I ended up going out for dinner almost every day because I couldn't face cooking... And I love cooking! DH said as we are not having holidays, he is happy to pay for treats out... But I wish the weather was cooler and my little one less demanding!! Although I'm sure if she were more independent, I'd be wishing she wanted more cuddles. Lol

fluffnutter

Bamama wrote: »

Fluff, I do play group. The kind you talk about. However, I go with my friends. I enjoy wind the bobbin up... And leg over!

Should you be doing that in front of the children?

martafdz

Lol fluff

Morning! After complaining about her lack of skills with regard to sleeping, she decided to sleep soundly 8:30pm to 5am, and then again 5:30am to 7:20am. A one off for sure but I felt a bit more like a person!!!!

Advice on mei tais: with the heat, my Stokke carrier feels like a thick vest, it's very padded and I end up in a sweat. My wrap doesn't support her enough and it covers even more. I'm thinking a mei tai might make me feel cooler and maybe it would be better around the house and hotter days. Has anyone got something like that and what would you recommend?

Bamama

Possibly not but good education for when he's older!

I'd think a more lightweight sling would be better and a carry with less passes (so less material on you).

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Morning ladies

Cute moment at the nursery this morning. My LO's best friend, a little boy who's a month older than her, has just moved to the next room up, so they don't see each other that much anymore. But this morning he was visiting his old room, and when my LO walked through the door he came over and gave her a cuddle, then handed her the toy he was carrying. So sweet!

The train I'm on is like an oven!

Mrshaworth2b

I've had a sleepless night, had a wonderful day with oh an lo yesterday, we went to Blackpool for a walk down the prom with a icecream. I got very sunburnt, which I hate.

Anyway, we went to oh parents for tea and came home for his last bottle and bed, when I brought lo upstairs I put him on the bed and he brought up some spit with a dot of brown in (I think it was blood) then when I gave him his bottle he brought some up with a streak of brown (again I think blood) we rang 111 and basically they said keep an eye on it and then go drs if its the same!

So i didn't sleep last night for worrying!

Given him his bottle this morning and he's fine. Been sick and no blood, still his normal self. I hate being a first time mum! I hate the worrying!