MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 2

martafdz

Oh, mrsharworth I hope it was just one of those fussy days and tomorrow everything is again normal!

Thanks nutella and mrsharworth although I must admit I am dreading when she's fully mobile, I'll have to have eyes everywhere! until now, I was putting her on the mat and clean her bottles, watch tv or make tea without a worry.

Gillyx, I'm using the dummy for sleeping and sooth her when she's tired / crying. I had not thought that at some point I might have to go cold turkey, and the HV told me to use it at night until she was one year. Why do we have to stop using it after a year? What would you use instead of a dummy? Maybe I can start introducing that gently in the day.

Gillyx

A is 16 months so I don't know We haven't used anything but distraction! He does have a comforter but he's not that interested in it unless he's tired.

I wouldn't not use a dummy again, I definitely would, but I'd be more wary of using it every time he cried like we have done (not saying you do that btw) but it's made taking it away slightly more tricky, as he is now 16 months old and has no other way of calming down if he's sad/upset/frustrated as he's never learned any other ways if that makes sense.

Your littlie is really small so I wouldn't be worrying about taking it away yet, some just give them up themselves, mine was a dummy fiend and could sniff one out at 10 paces. He always had it in, constantly which is why we got rid as he's starting to talk and I feel it was hindering him.

Edit: The reason they say to stop at a year I believe is because after a year it becomes more difficult to get rid of it, they become more attached and I would say that was definitely true here. I guess they also believe that kids don't need to comfort suckle then but I'm not sure I agree with that train of thought.

fluffnutter

I'm in exactly the same position with my boobs, Gillyx. I know at some point I'm going to have to stop pacifying Freddie by whipping a tit out at the slightest whimper but it's hard, particularly as he still needs milk as a large part of his diet. It's difficult to differentiate between feeding and comfort suckling, but no doubt there's a bit of the latter going on. I don't want him hanging off my knockers when he's 12 so at some point we're going to have to tackle things...

Mrshaworth2b

It's funny, I was adamant I didn't want my lo having a dummy when I had him, now it's a god send for sleep, not for anything else because he's a screamer, if he wants to scream, a dummy will not stop him.

PurpleFairy26

Happy sunny Sunday everyone

Loving the photos of everyone. Just been lurking and not posting sorry back to wakeful nights which is exhausting, just as much as all the well meaning advice from other people - up her solids, give her hungry baby formula, do this, do that :mad: truth is she can sleep through, I know this as she has done it. She just needs to learn we have a happier house and baby when she does

I think the world is somewhat conspiring against me though. Have been trying to up b milk since week 5 after week solely on bottles due to illness. Have been at one a day for ages, thought it would always be. This week several days she has had none :T I thought. Then I go and get a milk blister :eek: so I feed through it as that it what is suggested. Yesterday evening it fills with blood whilst she is feeding (I didn't notice until she had finished as I obviously couldn't see it!) 5 minutes later she hacked up blood stained milk :eek: on the plus side, she had burst the blister but now its formed a scab and it hurts worse than when it was a blister :eek:

At 6 months I didn't think I'd still be having feeding issues. Oh well, if I remember back at 4 weeks I didn't think she'd be having any b milk by 6 weeks the amount of pain I was in so to come this far is good I guess. Anyway enough of me whittering

I hope everyone has a lovely day, were going to play in the garden and take dd1 out on her bike.

morocha

BF'ing is exhaustin jonno!

My baby will not take a dummy and i have tried 2 days ago to introduce formula to see if she goes for longer at night, shes acts like i am trying to poison her and will not have it after trying very hard, she will take 40ml which is almost nothing... 4 months of this and i am truly shattered now, DD1 used to sleep 12hs at 3 months old, i shouldnt compare but at least she was not a baby that slept 12 hs from newborn...
Since her jabs on thursday we have our old baby back, sensitive, cry for everything etc... stupid jabs... last app with the osteopath on wednesday, she seems a bit better today.


Marta, so cute ur baby crawling...

Bamama i hope i didnt upset you with my comment, i am sorry, but OH and I play this way, we joked like these between friends in Argentina xx

Mrs, i Hope baby is better today

martafdz

Sleeping through the night? What's that? my baby has been on formula since week 3 and only once we got a 7h chunk of sleep. Formula is not magic, your baby might or might not sleep through the night, no matter how much food you put in his/her tummy. During the day my baby has been on breastfeeding schedule, feeding every couple of hours or so. At night, it depends of the stage she's in. At 3 months she slept 7pm-1am and then 1:30am-7am, it was awesome. At 4 months, she woke up every 2-3h, like at 10pm, 1am, 4am, 6am and 8 am for the day, it was exhausting. At 5 months, she just does not have a schedule. She wakes up often not for feeds, but for comfort, she might wake up every 2-3h but I give her my hand through the cot bars or put the dummy and pat her, and she goes down again. I feed her more before bed at 7pm, then around 2-3am when she wakes up, then when she's up for the day. I've done so for the last month or so, therefore I don't think she wakes up hungry at night, since she has never complained or cried when I gave her the dummy or my hand, instead sighting and cuddling against the hand and going back to sleep. My point is (before I derail completely) that formula or solids does not always equal better nights in my opnion, you might be fighting for her to take formula and she might do still the same. My sil is bbreastfeeding, and my mil was telling me how easy I had it because I was on formula and I just wanted to say !!!!!!! My baby has no better schedule, and whilst my sil at night can just put her bra up and feed, I have to go through the process of a screaming baby whilst I get it ready. Plus all the costs involved in formula, bottles, sterilizer, electricity... I'd love to be able to breastfeed as well, I truly believe it's better and I was upset I couldn't do it. But each method has its advantages and disadvantages, do not think formula is going to change your baby, because it might not be the case. I consider it a good night when she has slept four hours without waking up at all after midnight. On Friday she woke up every two hours and a half like a clock, and up for the day at 6. I just hope it's a phase, I know she can sleep for longer, she's done it before.

I haven't seen *Ro* or turtlemoose for a while, or even cake, are they alright?

martafdz

My lo has been napping now for 2h and 20 minutes, she usually has 40min naps only. Should I wake her up? It's 4pm now, I worry she won't sleep at night. Or is she changing the pattern and having longer naps now? *fiddles with thumbs* what to do... what to do...

EDIT: She just woke up

Mrshaworth2b

martafdz wrote: »

My lo has been napping now for 2h and 20 minutes, she usually has 40min naps only. Should I wake her up? It's 4pm now, I worry she won't sleep at night. Or is she changing the pattern and having longer naps now? *fiddles with thumbs* what to do... what to do...

EDIT: She just woke up

I read in Jo frosts book (I think or the baby whisperer) that the better they sleep during the day... The better at night, however my lo has always been poo at sleeping during the day but amazing at night! That's why I let him off being a little poo at naptimes!!

Bamama

Don't be silly morocha. You didn't upset me, I'm just rubbish at posting!