Annoying (pregnant) friend

colleensims

That is also true. I literally cannot contribute to the conversation as i know nothing about babies or children. I just nod and smile!!

Takeaway_Addict

Just tell her you are bored of the same conversation day in day out.

You don't have to sit there and listen to it all the time and she should be considerate to you as you have been to her.

Yes your friendship maybe lost but thats her issue not yours

Agutka

I say she's lost to you. But may come back one day. She will have had enough, wanting to go back to her old self. These baby things are terribly absorbing, especially the first ones

ClareEmily

Sorry but once i was pregnant it was ALL I thought about for the whole nine months honestly, it filled my every waking moment and everything else seemed to fade into the background.

I became a normal human again when baby was about a year.

balletshoes

I think most women who are pregnant with their first are baby bores at some point through their pregnancy and birth. I'm sure I was too. We do get over it eventually though .

Cherry_Bomb

I wonder how many "so anyways" you could fit into a conversation before she took the hint?

How close are you? Close enough to tell her you're very happy for her but but the baby talk is beyond boring now?

If you're were never that close to begin with then I'd just put up with it for the sake of it. If you don't have to see her much the its only a few baby related conversations to endure.

TeamLowe

OP you say she's only just found out, it may be that at the minute there's only a select few people who know (most people wait to see a healthy 12 week can to tell the world) so she can only talk to them, so you're getting concentrated baby talk.

Once the whole world and his wife knows you might get less. orr you might get more. how much you can stand is up to you. but in these situations i always remind myself of my dad's saying 'the definition of selfish is someone who talks about themselves when you want to talk about yourself'

She's happy and it's easy to nod and smile and tune most of it out. if you love her then you'll want to make her happy and indulging the baby talk is the easiest way ever
but be prepared for lots of this in the years to come from all your friends, life events are always going to be the main topic of conversation for them, wedding talk can bore the hind legs off a donkey too lol

ninadam

i actually really do sympathise with you.
My friend of 13 years is like this over anything thats going on in her life.
Every conversation we have revolves around what ever is going on in her life at the time and any other conversation you have some how reverts back to:
her wedding
her new car
her new house
her holiday
......and she's planning to have a baby next year!
I will be very happy for her but it is very draining. i feel very talked at. its not even a conversation.
she never texts to ask how i or other friends are... only ever to tell you about something that has happened in her life so i really do feel similar to you OP, as much as i like her (wouldnt have been friends with her for 13years otherwise) she can be very self absorbed.

I wish i could offer advice but i cant as the only thing i have been able to do is distance myself from her a little (used to live in each others pockets)...but i know thats not right, id have liked to have been honest but i just dont feel she would take it the right way and i would hate to hurt her feelings!
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ChopinonaBudget

I can sympathise - although I doubt it'll change when she has the baby. I did a stint for a while as a supply LSA last year, and another of the supplies talked endlessly about her son, and I do mean endlessly. It was all she could talk about. I have a daughter, and I talk about her too, but I have other subjects in my life to discuss with people. It got to the point where her opening line went something like this ... "oh mhy little X is just so Amazing, I love him so much, he is my absolute WORLD. Is your daughter your absoute WORLD? Is she? Is she your everything? My X means everything to me. I don't know what I'd do without him. He's my everything"
Me, - "This cup of tea looks nice"

Half the time I think she was overcompensating for a lack of confidence in her parenting skills. The other half I think she was plain bonkers.

I hope your friend calms down

P.S. Most of my friends have kids, we talk about all sorts of stuff, including and not including our children.

1886

I don't get why some people have to go on and on about their children. It's your kid, I'm not interested.