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Annoying (pregnant) friend
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colleensims wrote: »Thats it..... so draining!!
She has a couple of good friends (who I dont know) but only really sees them every few months where as I see her a few times a week.
Yes, feel like I am being talked at. She asked how I was the other day (I have not long started a new job) I began to tell her how good it was when she started telling me about her job and maternity leave
ARGH! Colleen... poor you! You have my sympathy. She probably has no idea either!Man plans and God laughs...Perhaps travel cannot prevent bigotry. But by demonstrating that all people cry, laugh, eat, worry and die, it introduces the idea that if we try to understand each other, we may even become friends.0 -
colleensims wrote: »I was and still am happy for her!!
I dont mind a few months of her obsessing about it, its just I sense it could be more like a few years rather than months!!
Its not the fact shes pregnant either. If she got a new car and constantly went on about that for months I would be just as irritated!! Or anything similar to be honest.
No, it's not going to be a few years, it is going to be a lifetime.0 -
colleensims wrote: »I was and still am happy for her!!
I dont mind a few months of her obsessing about it, its just I sense it could be more like a few years rather than months!!
Its not the fact shes pregnant either. If she got a new car and constantly went on about that for months I would be just as irritated!! Or anything similar to be honest.
Yeah, babies and cars are a bit different..."Growth for growth's sake is the ideology of the cancer cell" - Edward Abbey.0 -
fluffnutter wrote: »Yeah, babies and cars are a bit different...
A car was just a mere example. Like I said it could be anything. If someone goes on about one subject enough anyone would get bored:D0 -
Your friend is going through something very momentous. She is probably feeling really excited, overwhelmed, daunted, scared and just on cloud nine all at the same time right now. Her hormones will be all over the place too, which might make her less focussed on you and more on herself for a while.
I think it says alot about the strength of your friendship that you are the person she has chosen to share this incredibly special time with. It will all settle down again and your friendship will revolve around other things in time.
I am sure that I drove my friends mad when I discovered I was pregnant with my first. Those people who I shared that magical time with are still amongst my very closest friends. Our relationships strengthened from that point, grew and developed. Go with it and enjoy it all.The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own, no apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.0 -
If she's the type to obsess about her baby, and you can't deal with that, then time to wave bye-bye to the friendship, quite honestly. You're going to think she's unreasonable and she's going to think you are, and both of you have (fairly) good reason. The fact is, some things can drive a wedge into even the closest of friendships, and if you don't see eye to eye on babies, then that's about as divisive as you can get."Growth for growth's sake is the ideology of the cancer cell" - Edward Abbey.0
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I'm one of the few women in my social group to not yet have babies, and whilst I love all of my friends and their children so much, when every conversation turns to babies/nappies/labour stories etc it can be a bit much, so I know how you feel.
Same here, doesnt interest me at the moment. Maybe I should pick a random subject and make it my duty to talk non stop about that for the next year.0 -
colleensims wrote: »Same here, doesnt interest me at the moment. Maybe I should pick a random subject and make it my duty to talk non stop about that for the next year.
And if your friends really loved you, no doubt they'd listen."Growth for growth's sake is the ideology of the cancer cell" - Edward Abbey.0 -
aww, your friend is just excited right now. let her enjoy it.
when I was pregnant with DS, we were out one night and he was kicking so hubby was touching my bump to feel the kicks, he said to our friend 'ooh baby is kicking' for our friend to say 'oh, is that all, been there, done that' thanks that made me feel great...not!'Children are not things to be moulded, but are people to be unfolded'0 -
sorry - but it seems to be entirely normal! I think I was the same on my first pregnancy - it filled my mind so completely there was no room for anything else! Then you have the baby and the birth becomes the topic du jour. then its the baby - you will share every little moment! sorry, I am exaggerating (a bit). until you find out that YOU are pregnant you wont really understand how momentus it is. she will probably be able to talk about other topics in a few weeks (months).
Oh, and when its your turn - you do know who is going to share in your fascination don't you?0
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