Help Me Win Back The Love of my Life

HeadAboveWater

Brilliant post 74jax

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Has he been arrested yet?

Padstow

74jax wrote: »

I'm now 23 and recently just got out of a long term relationship. I had been seeing someone since I was 17. We got on ok and loved each other however he refused to make any effort. Over the 6 years we had been together he refused to meet my family, didn't achnowledge special occasions etc and eventually I realised there was more to life than what we had.

Sadly we split, but remained friends. He took the split badly and did everything he could to make me change my mind. I know its silly but having been with him for 6 years, I thought we should at least give it one last go. He made big gestures, even met my Dad and funnily they got on great. However after 6 weeks he went back tohis old ways and as I had had a glimpse at being single, I knew that was what we should do, so several weeks ago we split for good.

I've been going out with friends, meeting lads at night and generally just having fun being single for the first time. i feel I have my freedom back!

However today, out of the blue, I received a valentines card (it's not even valentines day) from this guy, and he had written a song in it..................

I just wish he would move on, why won't he let me have the single life I want. I have told him that I am no longer in love with him. I do not wish to hurt him but he is creeping me out. I feel he is going to keep sending cards.

He had a second chance, why would I give him another. I want to move on. It's hard as we were together so long yet he is not helping matters.....

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Ah you mean an update from the OP:rotfl:

You forgot to add that you'd simply grown away from the guy. However when you tried to finish it, he nagged and nagged you for a reason. Feeling cornered, you mentioned he'd never bothered with Valentines Day.
Bet you wish now you'd said it was because he didn't go to the gym or something.:D

michael243

Will the OP actually come back and UPDATE :wave:

aliasojo

I seriously hope not.

If he says all is fine then he'll be accused of lying or told his girlfriend is an idiot.

If he says, she told him to get lost, then it'll be 'I told you so'.

Either way he can't win so why feed the nosiness? I wouldn't. :rotfl:

michael243

aliasojo wrote: »

I seriously hope not.

If he says all is fine then he'll be accused of lying or told his girlfriend is an idiot.

If he says, she told him to get lost, then it'll be 'I told you so'.

Either way he can't win so why feed the nosiness? I wouldn't. :rotfl:

So true, I just want to know what happened with the first card :rotfl:

marisco_2

Captain_Charisma wrote: »

I'm not going to let my sense of pride get in the way of my feelings, if I get hurt/ humiliated then so be it - it will all be worth it.

What if this girl you proclaim to love gets hurt and humiliated? Will all this be worth it then. Interesting that the only persons feelings you are focussing on are your own :cool:

Captain_Charisma

Thought id give you all an update, would those wishing to stick the knife in and kick a man whilst he's down please form an orderly queue...

As you know I hadn't spoken to my ex for about 10 days now, I sent the first card on Weenesday so she would have recieved it yesterday, I heard nothing, posted the 2nd one yesterday so she would have recieved it today, after posting the 3rd one this morning I couldn't resist texting her, didn't mention the cards it just said something along the lines of "I've been talking about you in work, reminded me how wonderful you are" - cheesy I know but I got a reply virtually straight away saying something like "hope you're ok, you know where I am if you need a friend" and that's where I should have left it. But stupidly I asked her would she let her friend treat her to tea tonight, anyway I got a cold response in a nasty tone about how I need to let her go and why aren't I getting it, now I've not got alot of patience at the best of time but she got under my skin with this as id asked her as a friend and given our history a simple no or I don't think that's a good idea would have been appropriate, cut a long story short we had an argument over text and any chance of a reconcilliation has gone. Now obviously im gutted at the mo but the whole drama of today has got me questioning my opinion of her and how she was so cold towards me when the split was ammicable, so im going to leave the past behind me and move on. So other than the card I had already posted this morning, there will be no more, no turning up at her work no nothing. She knows where I am if she wants me, but after today theres no saying that I'll want her.

Feel free to say I told you so and stick the boot in where neccesary...

Erinnire

Captain_Charisma wrote: »

Thought id give you all an update, would those wishing to stick the knife in and kick a man whilst he's down please form an orderly queue...

As you know I hadn't spoken to my ex for about 10 days now, I sent the first card on Weenesday so she would have recieved it yesterday, I heard nothing, posted the 2nd one yesterday so she would have recieved it today, after posting the 3rd one this morning I couldn't resist texting her, didn't mention the cards it just said something along the lines of "I've been talking about you in work, reminded me how wonderful you are" - cheesy I know but I got a reply virtually straight away saying something like "hope you're ok, you know where I am if you need a friend" and that's where I should have left it. But stupidly I asked her would she let her friend treat her to tea tonight, anyway I got a cold response in a nasty tone about how I need to let her go and why aren't I getting it, now I've not got alot of patience at the best of time but she got under my skin with this as id asked her as a friend and given our history a simple no or I don't think that's a good idea would have been appropriate, cut a long story short we had an argument over text and any chance of a reconcilliation has gone. Now obviously im gutted at the mo but the whole drama of today has got me questioning my opinion of her and how she was so cold towards me when the split was ammicable, so im going to leave the past behind me and move on. So other than the card I had already posted this morning, there will be no more, no turning up at her work no nothing. She knows where I am if she wants me, but after today theres no saying that I'll want her.

Feel free to say I told you so and stick the boot in where neccesary...

Glad you've got the message now, better now than to continue sending those cards and end up with the police on your doorstep.

All you need to do now is learn from the mess and do better next time.

onwards and upwards old chap!

74jax

Captain_Charisma wrote: »

Feel free to say I told you so and stick the boot in where neccesary...

No one is here to do that

You tried, it didn't work and you move on.

You will get over this, at least you know you tried.