Weekly Flylady Thread 4th February2013

Valli

Bossy

that (to me and I may be wrong) sounds like a little boy who misses his daddy and is maybe trying to make sense of it all and who is probably secretly worrying you might go too - and it won't hurt him if he doesn't love you if you see what I mean - he is, in his 4 year old mind, trying to cope with the hurt and the what-if.
You are a fanatastic mum, bearing a very tough burden and you ARE doing the very best for the Bossy brood. But you can't work miracles, unfortunately,

The hugest hugs.
This isn't meant to hurt you or upset you; merely a suggestion why he said such a thing. At 4 they are really too young to have the emotional literacy to cope with the loss of a parent and to understand how they feel IYSWIM.

bossymoo

Thanks Valli :A

It must be so hard for them to understand. Hell I'm 37 and I don't understand. I wasn't too worried or upset, when I collected him from nursery he pounced on me and said he'd missed me. I'm thinking something made him cross. He gets a bit muddled between cross and sad sometimes (don't we all )

Anyway, it's all forgotten, at bedtime he wanted to talk about boats (every night he says "can we talk about something" and tonight it's boats haha) which ended up an elaborate tale about jellyfish and pirate treasure. So he's gone to sleep with his head full of nonsense, which is exactly as it should be, when you are four!

I do feel a little low low tonight. DH would have been 37 tomorrow and I'm not liking that I am getting older and he isn't IYSWIM. Gawd if I last another 20yrs I'll be pushing 60 but my husband will be forever 35 what a muddle.

Think I ought to go to sleep and think about jellyfish and treasure.

Night x

Dustykitten

Oh Bossy sweetie it is all still so new and your brain is probably letting you take more of it in now the initial shock is over. You are doing brilliantly and are helping your children so much when it must make your own pain even more acute. I hope tomorrow is bearable, it is still a day of 24 hours and will pass like all the rest do. Lots of love to you and your DH parents too.

nicki_2

Evening all.

Happy Birthday Momof2

I've had one of those days where the time has just flown by and I don't seem to have achieved much at all Tomorrow has to be more productive as I'm working Thursday and need to run errands Friday.

Tue:
Grocery Shopping - Mr A delivery (1-3pm)
Laundry (lights, dark, towels)

Monday Madness- Bathroom and Study/Pc Area
Level One
Clean floors in these rooms
Level Two
Dust PC and desk and wipe off those cup rings!!
Wipe keyboard, house phone, sockets, switches and mouse etc

Extra mission: Pick whichever you want to attempt:

• Wipe the skirtings, door and window frames in these rooms
• Wipe down the doors and frames in these rooms.
• clean the radiators in these rooms

Tuesday ~ Kitchen
Level One
Sweep, vacuum and mop floors
Declutter and wipe worksurfaces
Shine that stinky sink
Level Two
Clear out a cupboard.. The one with baking supplies or the one with pans and plastic boxes.. GO!! Or you could, if you have one, clear the pantry!
Wipe and replace small appliances.. Clean one thoroughly!
Clean out any spills or grots in fridge!
Level Three
Wipe units and large appliances.. don't forget kickboards!
Wipe the insides of all the cupboard doors!

Extra Mission - Choose one or more of:

• HHI .. bit of a catch up!!
• Empty the cutlery drawer.. clean it out, wash the cutlery tray, chuck those baby spoons you don't use any more.. how many medicine spoons do you actually need? get rid of everything you don't use and make the drawer look nice again!
• Wash the brushes, mops, dustpans etc.. how gross do these get?

Please can we keep a candle alight for LL so that she doesn't suffer too much and can keep on fighting

I need to get all the ironing done tomorrow as DD's PE kit & blouses for the rest of the week are in it so I'll do that first thing while watching a film so its out the way before the shopping arrives. Kitchen is looking pretty good from last week except for the floor where I noticed DD has split tea maybe all over the rug, floor, cupboard fronts...I think I preferred it when she had coffee in the mornings :rotfl:

Going to finish watching NCIS then I'll go potter in the kitchen while I wait for my phone to finish charging Night all :wave:

decogecko

bossymoo wrote: »

I do feel a little low low tonight. DH would have been 37 tomorrow and I'm not liking that I am getting older and he isn't IYSWIM. Gawd if I last another 20yrs I'll be pushing 60 but my husband will be forever 35 what a muddle.

Think I ought to go to sleep and think about jellyfish and treasure.

Night x

Bossymoo - ((hug)) know how you feel, my late OH will be forever 36. I find his birthday and the date he died are the 2 days of the year I find difficult.

Natty68 wrote: »

Monday Madness- Bathroom and Study/Pc Area
Level One
Clean floors in these rooms
Level Two
[STRIKE]Clean baths, toilets, don't forget under the rim! and sinks[/STRIKE]
Clear any clutter from desk
[STRIKE]Dust PC[/STRIKE] and desk and wipe off those cup rings!!
Wipe keyboard, house phone, sockets, switches and mouse etc
Level Three
[STRIKE]Wash your bathroom mats[/STRIKE], nets, clean blind/curtains etc
Wipe down tiles in bathroom.. defragment your pc while doing this.
[STRIKE]Empty and clean out all the upstairs bins! (the proper bins not the rooms that look like bins!)[/STRIKE]
Clean shower screen/curtain if you have one/if required
Clear a mega hotspot!.. shred it.. and fling it.. or just burn it!
Extra mission: Pick whichever you want to attempt:

• Wipe the skirtings, door and window frames in these rooms
• Wipe down the doors and frames in these rooms.
• clean the radiators in these rooms
• Fling all those empty bottles and tubes - n/a done recently
• Replace sponges/flannels/toothbrushes that are in need - n/a done recently

Please can we keep a candle alight for LL so that she doesn't suffer too much and can keep on fighting.

No candle lit tonight but sending positive thoughts for her and her family x

Sunnygirl_2

Huge hugs Bossy. Sounds like its very hard on all of you. x

Had a sudden spurt of energy so I've got a fair bit done tonight. Think my increase in exercise is giving me a bit more energy. Long may it continue!

Will do a list tomorrow when I've got my laptop on., but the vast majority of Monday's jobs are done. Yay!
x

Valli

Bossy - you are very welcome, I'm glad you understood was I was trying to say.

Hope there are some smiles and happy memories for you for DH's birthday.

Have booked tickets to take DS to Manchester (to look at the University). Wwe can get there for a tenner, but it will cost us £20 to get back! :rotfl: have used the trainline, through Quidco (this time) to source cheapest tickets, and we have to catch 'particular' trains as opposed to any train but this makes it cheaper. I have swapped a workday with my jobshare. She (on the days I'm doing for her) will be on a jolly to Dubai.

Hmmm - day trip to Manchester or 5 star luxury in Dubai - how the other half live :rotfl:

Mumto5

Big hugs Bossymoo. You cope so well and have my utmost admiration.

Flying has consisted of washing and ironing ( it never ends ). Dailies have been done but kids had maccy d's for dinner as it was DS3's parent's evening.

DS1's antics have created a massive row between me and DH. My head is still spinning but I'm tired now and bed is calling. I NEED to sleep well tonight.

Narc0lepsy

Honey_Bear wrote: »

Just read your post Kazwookie thinking smugly that I've never had a problem with them, and changed the black cartridge on mine.

Anyone know how to get black ink off a hand?

It must be a bad time of year for them. I bought 3 "cheap" from a re-filling place, a company that I've used before with no trouble. The first one spat at me when I took it out of its bag then refused to spit anything on the paper. Then printed selectively, with an error message flashing at me all the time. Tried re-aligning everything, restarting etc and finally gave up. Got 2nd one out of its bag, spit spit. Ditto. Eventually gave up and put all 3 on Freecycle, had takers for them in minutes even having described them as may or may not work. Went out and bought a proper Canon one which worked perfectly first time.

bossymoo

decogecko wrote: »

Bossymoo - ((hug)) know how you feel, my late OH will be forever 36. I find his birthday and the date he died are the 2 days of the year I find difficult.

Aww sorry to hear that it's just so unreal, then sneaks in and bites me on the bum.