The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12

WantToBeSE

jo1972 wrote: »

Pretend it's Thursday, it's been a funny couple of weeks anyway not having a clue what day it is! X

I like your thinking

Top_Girl wrote: »

A sober Friday night. Different. Is there anything on TV?

I plan on curling up with a book and a cup of tea and maybe a DVD

judi24 wrote: »

I'm on day 3/31 of the CRUK Dryathlon . I am having a really difficult time - I have just split from my partner of 7 years after he gave my DS a black eye about 4 weeks before christmas! I am facing a child protection case conference in the next few weeks. I have been drinking too much for months.My older girls nag me all the time about drinking too much - i don't get drunk but definately drink most nights. I thought the Dryathlon was a good incentive to get me started and have lots of sponsors already - but last night was hard - I have a lot of drink in the house left over from a New Year party and me buying drink like I was still part of a couple! I didn't drink lots at Christmas but certainly drank something every day! Last night I so wanted a glass of wine - but resisted and had a hot chocolate instead - I went to bed late as I am not sleeping anyway and managed to sleep ok - but I am still so tired!!!
Tonight is going to be even harder - my younger 2 kids will be at thier dads and the older 2 probably won't be home at all! I will be feeling miserable and scared and lonely- but need to resist the temptation to drink!!!


Hopefully will be able to focus on other things tonight

Sorry to hear about your relationship breakdown. I agree with Jo, i'd throw it all down the sink and start making plans to do something. Maybe go to a friends house, have a long hot bubble bath, pamper yourself a bit?
Good luck



So, i went to tesco and was sooooooo tempted to buy a bottle of wine..but am really pleased to say that i treated myself to a new book instead. Was only £3, my normal bottle is £7 plus all the junk food i buy when drinking too, it's normally £20 on a Friday night So i bought the book and put £15 into my bank account.

gwithbag

judi24 wrote: »

I'm on day 3/31 of the CRUK Dryathlon . I am having a really difficult time - I have just split from my partner of 7 years after he gave my DS a black eye about 4 weeks before christmas! I am facing a child protection case conference in the next few weeks. I have been drinking too much for months.My older girls nag me all the time about drinking too much - i don't get drunk but definately drink most nights. I thought the Dryathlon was a good incentive to get me started and have lots of sponsors already - but last night was hard - I have a lot of drink in the house left over from a New Year party and me buying drink like I was still part of a couple! I didn't drink lots at Christmas but certainly drank something every day! Last night I so wanted a glass of wine - but resisted and had a hot chocolate instead - I went to bed late as I am not sleeping anyway and managed to sleep ok - but I am still so tired!!!
Tonight is going to be even harder - my younger 2 kids will be at thier dads and the older 2 probably won't be home at all! I will be feeling miserable and scared and lonely- but need to resist the temptation to drink!!!


Hopefully will be able to focus on other things tonight

Well done Jude! It's so difficult to get out of an abusive relationship, but, perhaps, that's for another thread. Also for the social services, they're so scared, work with them. In any event, good luck with tonight!

new_year_new_start

jo1972 wrote: »

Pretend it's Thursday, it's been a funny couple of weeks anyway not having a clue what day it is! X

I love this comment, it's all in the mind isn't it? All nights will be hard but I think Sat will be my worst. I haven't had a dry sat night in 30 years :eek:

However that's tomorrow, there's still tonight to get through yet. As 365 said each day, each hour, each minute, each second, at a time. I'm glad 365 shared that, it gives me strength. The next 3 hours will be the worst for me 5pm till 8pm.

Greytcatlady

Please would you accept me for the January list. I would like to attempt 31 AFDs and so far I'm 2/31. I would like to call today already but as NYNS says, the evening isn't over yet.

Bums I can't make things big and red on an ipad:o. I'll be back to edit later so I show up for Shaggy....

Thank you.

365days

Fantastic to see the forum buzzing.

It was this forum that highlighted my drink problem for me. I owe it an awful lot.

I am an alcoholic, I too know that one drink will not be enough, so therefore I don't have that one drink. Simple as that.

If I don't have that one drink I don't need to worry about the second, third, fourteenth.

I went 'home' for new years. I went to my old local on New Years Eve. What a tragic and grim experience that was. Same old faces, same old drunks, same old hangovers no doubt. I was home by 10.30.

It did me the world of good to realise that I am missing out on absolutely nothing.

Please post how much you raise fro Cancer research when the time comes. It's a cause very close to my heart at the moment.

I will be going in for major surgery on Thursday. Hopefully I will be able to get on the internet while recovering.

My signature has made me think......if you were to substitute the word addiction for cancer it still fits perfectly. I don't know exact figures but I do know both cancer and addiction kill.

If someone you knew had cancer and was in denial and refused to get help you would think they were bonkers. I don't have to spell out what I'm thinking about addiction surely.

Blog has all latest stuff.......http://helloverajuice.wordpress.com/


Keep on keeping on.

365days

new_year_new_start wrote: »

I love this comment, it's all in the mind isn't it? All nights will be hard but I think Sat will be my worst. I haven't had a dry sat night in 30 years :eek:

However that's tomorrow, there's still tonight to get through yet. As 365 said each day, each hour, each minute, each second, at a time. I'm glad 365 shared that, it gives me strength. The next 3 hours will be the worst for me 5pm till 8pm.

Thanks....happy it helps.

When I was drinking, days had a connection to drinks.

Now I am sober they are just days....Friday night can be anything you want it to be......shopping night, pamper night, love making night, baking night, decorating night, slobbing in front of the telly night, study night, early bed night, take a walk night, volunteer night whatever!!......There really is more to friday nights than getting slaughtered.......Find out what works for you...experiment......there are millions of things to do other than drink.

WantToBeSE

AF #3 today Once i had decided that tonight was definitely going to be AF (half way round tesco!), i felt better. Am home in my PJs so no sneaking back out to get any

afoolwithmoney

Please count me in day 3/31 want to see if I can manage the whole month alcohol free (even though its my birthday month). Been hanging around all these sites for along time & although I feel I haven't done too badly in the last twelve months. I really need a kick to keep me going!

365days

Sorry just had to add this.....I follow a lot of rehab/recovery sites of fb and twitter and this just came on my feed........

Betty Ford Centre 'Two things alcoholics hate: Change and the way things are'

Priceless.

judi24

Thanks for your support guys - I am keeping the alcohol thats in the house for my DD2's 21st in Feb - so just need to stay strong - it will save me money as we are having a house party on a budget! Tonight hasn't been as bad as I thought - My DD1 is at home so although she is asleep on the couch its enough to stop me pouring a glass of wine!!!


I have had £65 of donations so far for Dryathlon with a promise of another £75 to come - aiming to raise £150 so doing quite well I think!