The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12

shaggydoo

stupotstu wrote: »

I heartily recommend a crispy autumn walk and a gawp in everyones house who haven't closed their drapes!
SPS X

Tee Hee I love doing this too

Just invested in some underarmour so I can carry on walking through the winter this year and 2 of the world's warmest hats!

shaggydoo

November :-

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF

= 28 days AF

= 30 days AF

= target achieved


AlexLK 6/18

AuntyCat 2/15
Barny1979 7/23

Fruball 5/17

Gien 2/25
Green Karen 10/30
Jess The Cat 7/20

Joanne109 /15

Katzen /25

Maman 4/10
Mummyto3boys 7/27

Munchin 6/20
MrsDee 10/25

NewStart 1/10

Pippi 2/25

Pozza 6/25
PriceySOS 8/24

RosePetal 3/21

Satchmo 3/20
Shaggy 10/17

SkintDad 6/30
Stupotstu 9/25

Sukeyboo 3/12

Tracy /10


Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

Please highlight your AFDs in Red

Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!

shaggydoo

jess_the_cat wrote: »

I may be being a bit daft but im so worried about december , how am i going to cope lol .

365days wrote: »

I can understand your worry about December and Christmas. For me, alcohol wise, I just think about one day at a time.

and have a plan....:xmassmile

365days

Re; Worries about future drinking December/Christmas

I read this article last night about dating anxiety:o

This bit below was really powerful for me and fits any situation.

Recognize that in fact you "really don't know" the future. Another simple but profound way to practice quieting your anxiety is to add "but I really I don't know" to every prediction of the future. Follow the thought "I can't manage this," "I need...," or "I am..." with "but I really don't know." The phrase "But I really don't know" challenges the seeming truth of everything we think. That phrase is another way of beginning to challenge the negative beliefs behind the anxiety.
Repeating the words "but I really don't know" allows us to question tightly-held ideas. Done thoroughly, "but I really don't know" can pull the rug out from under our most cherished limiting beliefs. All too often we don't question our beliefs. And, since virtually every train of thought has some implicit belief, when we question our thoughts, we question these beliefs. This is similar to the lessons in the Course In Miracles "My thoughts don't mean anything" and "I have given the meaning to everything I see".
The above practice of not-knowing is different from confusion and debilitating doubt. Confusion is not enlivening: the confused person is usually somewhat lost and removed from life. Then too, with doubt, the mind is on over-drive or contracted with hesitation and indecision. Both of these emotional states tend to obscure rather than clarify. Besides, confusion and doubt are generally automatic and not chosen. Not-knowing, as a practice, is a choice meant to bring greater peace.


Link to whole article here. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/your-zesty-self/201009/dating-anxieties-facing-the-unknown

Have a good day all!

sukeyboo

Morning all,

This thread seems to be 'on fire' at the moment - so many interesting posts from so many of you - it really does help to 'talk' things through :cool:.

AF for me last night so that is 4/12 please Shaggy.

stupotstu - I thought I was the only 'nosey' one around that did that.

I am aware that December is going to be a more difficult month to stay AF but I am really going to try to do as many days as I can AF and then also limit what I drink on non-AF days - I have come to realise that cutting down is just as important at cutting out

Have a great day everyone

maman

365days wrote: »

I can understand your worry about December and Christmas. For me, alcohol wise, I just think about one day at a time.

shaggydoo wrote: »

and have a plan....:xmassmile

My plan is to be as AF as possible on all the days when there are no festivities organised (and that goes for healthy eating too;)) and then be sensible when I've planned to drink.

stupotstu wrote: »

I heartily recommend a crispy autumn walk and a gawp in everyones house who haven't closed their drapes!

SPS X

I'm another who loves doing that. I call it 'urban walking'.

Someone asked yesterday how to quote parts of messages. Just quote the whole thing into the reply box and then 'cut' the bits you don't need.

It's turned into a beautiful, autumn morning here. So much easier to feel positive when it's not grey and miserable outside.:)

AlexLK

You are all making me envious of your urban walks, I've nothing to spot! Planning on driving to a residential area of the nearest town (7 miles) to walk around with our son nearer to Christmas so he can see all the lights other people put up.

mrsdee

I've been thinking about December drinking too. Having looked at my diary though, I see that I have the grand sum of - wait for it - ONE social event to go to so far!!
So actually it looks like it will be quieter than a usual month for me! DH and I usually go out for dinner once or twice a month but dont tend to in December because of the groups of office parties etc. I am looking forward to having a drink with some lovely meals on Christmas Eve, Christmas Day and New Years Eve. We have a family gathering at our house one day between Christmas and New Year - may allow that as a drink day. So will go with my usual plan of totting up the days of the month when I plan to drink (with my pre-planned limit of 3 glasses of wine), add a couple of contingency days, and make the rest AFDs. So it looks like my target will be still be something like 20+ days and not as scary or overwhelming a prospect as I thought it would be...

How's everyone else feeling?

I'm slightly more concerned about January when DH and I will be on holiday for a week and likely to have a drink (moderately!) every evening - it makes it a bit harder to stop when back at home, I find...

Barny1979

8/23 AFDs tonight

SkintDadUK

*Wanders back in*

Hello everyone! Looks like you all have been doing a fantastic job at staying off the sauce :T:T

I haven't been around for a few days because so much has been going on. I've just written about it on my debt diary so if you want to be nosy....

Anyway even though we had a little engagement celebration on Sunday I still stayed on the apple juice which means its 10/30 AFDs for me so far.

Keep on, keeping on as they say!

SD