The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12

shaggydoo

Green_Karen wrote: »

As for just having a glass of wine and half a lager with a takeaway and stopping, that would be amazing for me and I really admire you.

PriceySOS wrote: »

I count AFDs and units (I'm another one who puts them on a spreadsheet!!)

Ditto I count units and AFDs and . Other posters use apps to count units. You can count units at Drinkaware.co.uk. Drinkaware is also good for calculating units (and calories!)

https://www.drinkaware.co.uk/understand-your-drinking/unit-calculator

Click on your drink, brand and amount and hey presto units and calories.

maman

AlexLK wrote: »

maman: Do I get an extra round of applause if I manage the AF Saturday that I'm aiming for tomorrow?

Definitely.:D

I find it really hard to be AF at weekends so I'm full of admiration.:)

Strange experience for me last night. When I have a drink the effect is usually to make me happy and sleepy! Last night I was really miserable with it. I started moaning at my poor DH for all the perceived injustices in my life going back years and none of them his fault! I don't know whether it was the alcohol to blame or just a bit of SAD syndrome that seems to have hit me since the clocks changed but I need to be conscious that whatever the problem, alcohol is definitely not the solution! Today I'm trying a bit of 'count my blessings'. Thanks for listening if you got this far.;)

gien

Were you drinking Gin Maman?
I always find that makes me feel morose. I know what you mean about the change of hour - I've found it difficult to readjust too.

ManPants

Managed another one last night :-)

Takes me to 7 AF so far...........

Have dinner out booked tonight but I do feel like I don't want to go as it will make it much harder to remain AF. Plus, I know I definitely will be AF on Sunday night as have gym on monday morning and sweating out a load of booze whilst there always feels awful, and am on call monday evening which means tonight is the only potential blip on what could be a straight run of 10!

On the other hand, OH & myself have always been good time boys with lots of social functions to attend, drinks in hand and I know he looks forward to us going out and having a few drinks together. His family have always been the middle class face of respectable drinking and he doesn't feel the need to abstain. Whilst he has the magic stop button and doesn't wake up the next day to find out he may be barred from certain bars, have put something awful on facebook or have to apologise to friends THEN lie in bed slowly dying from hangover all day; the reality is all those things happen to me without fail. I am now 40 and whilst I may look "good for my age" and have a wardrobe of trendy clothing the reality is "at my age" the aforementioned behaviour isn't really acceptable. Behaviour classed as youthful high jinx becomes embarrassing if carried on well into middle age! At the same time; there is an adjustment period going on between myself and OH have to get through between us because of my unhealthy relationship with alcohol.

Bah!! Now in my head i'm trying to justify a nice Argentinian Red for the sake of status quo with OH when we go out to a south american steak restaurant tonight!

Is anyone else feeling the strain of "habits/hobbies/pastimes" in common changing with their significant other or is it only me???


Stupotstu X

365days

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AlexLK

graemecarter wrote: »

I didn't go on big 3/4 day benders and sometimes COULD stop after a couple of drinks.
However, even if I wasn't drinking any more at the age of 32 compared to 22, the consequences were getting worse.
The hangovers got worse, I had more responsibility so a night on the tiles was causing angst at home. The self-loathing and self-pity after a big night out was worse in my 30s compared to my 20s.

So while my alcohol intake didn't progress that much, my alcoholism was progressing over time. Eventually, my drinking would have caught up.

No-one starts their drinking going on 3/4 day benders or drinking round the clock. They build up to that, and that's why I consider alcoholism is progressive. It gets worse without treatment, never better.

VIews my own - not saying anyone else is an alcoholic, just me.

Graeme: I can relate to a lot of what you are saying. My days of big nights out are generally over after becoming a father myself. However, I have to agree in regard to the consequences and glad I'm not the only one who seems to suffer worse hangovers than they used to.

maman wrote: »

Definitely.:D

I find it really hard to be AF at weekends so I'm full of admiration.:)

Strange experience for me last night. When I have a drink the effect is usually to make me happy and sleepy! Last night I was really miserable with it. I started moaning at my poor DH for all the perceived injustices in my life going back years and none of them his fault! I don't know whether it was the alcohol to blame or just a bit of SAD syndrome that seems to have hit me since the clocks changed but I need to be conscious that whatever the problem, alcohol is definitely not the solution! Today I'm trying a bit of 'count my blessings'. Thanks for listening if you got this far.;)

Well, this evening has been AF so far! Even managed to just drink a milky coffee without adding any Scotch, so looks like I might just make it.

I can be a miserable drunk, though having clinical depression, that's hardly surprising. I have found alcohol tends to exaggerate the mood I was in before I started drinking, or so my wife says.

stupotstu wrote: »

Managed another one last night :-)

Takes me to 7 AF so far...........

Have dinner out booked tonight but I do feel like I don't want to go as it will make it much harder to remain AF. Plus, I know I definitely will be AF on Sunday night as have gym on monday morning and sweating out a load of booze whilst there always feels awful, and am on call monday evening which means tonight is the only potential blip on what could be a straight run of 10!

On the other hand, OH & myself have always been good time boys with lots of social functions to attend, drinks in hand and I know he looks forward to us going out and having a few drinks together. His family have always been the middle class face of respectable drinking and he doesn't feel the need to abstain. Whilst he has the magic stop button and doesn't wake up the next day to find out he may be barred from certain bars, have put something awful on facebook or have to apologise to friends THEN lie in bed slowly dying from hangover all day; the reality is all those things happen to me without fail. I am now 40 and whilst I may look "good for my age" and have a wardrobe of trendy clothing the reality is "at my age" the aforementioned behaviour isn't really acceptable. Behaviour classed as youthful high jinx becomes embarrassing if carried on well into middle age! At the same time; there is an adjustment period going on between myself and OH have to get through between us because of my unhealthy relationship with alcohol.

Bah!! Now in my head i'm trying to justify a nice Argentinian Red for the sake of status quo with OH when we go out to a south american steak restaurant tonight!

Is anyone else feeling the strain of "habits/hobbies/pastimes" in common changing with their significant other or is it only me???


Stupotstu X

Stu,

You're doing really well, I'm rather envious.

In regard to others; my wife admitted she has been wanting me to cut down my drinking for quite a while. However, there are times when she only seems to encourage me, even when I say I wish to not have a drink.

jess_the_cat

Having a few cans tonight but so pleased no drink thurs & friday so 5 afd so far this month woo hoo . Well done to every one the help reading everyones comments realy helps .

AlexLK

OK it's twenty-past nine, I'm declaring an AF Saturday. So that'll be 5/18 for me.

mrsdee

Hi everyone
Calling in with 8/25 thanks Shaggy.
Hope everyone is doing ok. I have some planned drink nights this week as visiting some friends and family and have accounted for them in my target this month and plan to be moderate! Hope so anyway!
Good night all!

Flat_Eric

I had intended to give up booze last month but bad planning on my part and a holiday mean I don't have any total to report. I didn't go mad but did find myself drinking more than normal.

This month I haven't been keeping tabs/haven't set a total but most if not all school nights have been AF and at a firework party last night, I limited myself to just one glass of wine and a brandy when I got home. Thus I wake this morning feeling fine and ready to battle the housework or the shops!

I'll be drinking this evening as having family coming over for dinner but then no booze till next weekend (if at all). Have a lovely day all :T