The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12

Lilith1980

Hi 41, in the days following after I found out about my dad, I had a couple of dreams about alcohol. The first one was being around different men who were drunk - I have no idea who these men were, but in the dream they seemed to be film-stars or something like that. But none of them I recognised. I couldn't get a decent conversation out of any of them.

Like yours, my second dream involved me being round someone's house and drinking. I was drinking bottles of Smirnoff Ice (one of my *previously* favourite tipples).

Mid-way through the second bottle I realised I wasn't meant to be drinking. My friends didn't seem to understand my horror and I wondered how I was going to tell my OH about it.

The mind is a weird and wonderful thing. I always feel that dreams are the mind's way of processing things that are going on for us.

Lilith1980

mackeroo wrote: »

...kept repeating my mantra of 'Focused Februaury' so i resisted:A

That's easy for you to say lol

Imagnu_2

Lilith1980 wrote: »

I always thought my dad had died through no fault of his own and now I know that wasn't the case. I always thought he just went to the pub on a Sunday, I had no idea it was every night.

He couldn't see the harm, until it was too late.

has made me realise how much it can ruin lives.

:wave: been lurking for a while, and this post really hit home. Over the last couple of years I have got into the habit of having a couple of glasses of wine at night (half a bottle really, and often a whole bottle on a weekend night) not seeming to get tipsy or hungover, but something in this post hit home hard. We have a new addition to the family and the thought of not being there to watch them grow up fills me with utter sadness.
So thank you Lilith for this, the scales have fallen from my eyes and I hope it is not too late for my health.

Imagnu

maman

satchmo1 wrote: »

4/24 AF

41, I find chamomile tea a good option instead of tea or coffee, and I've also switched to de-caf for both tea and coffee.

I was feeling incredible anxious today, all because I'm procrastinating about a big paperwork exercise I need to do. It's stupid, and I keep telling myself off, but I'm still avoiding it.

At this time of the year I have hot squash (Ribena preferred) to keep the caffeine down. I find a hot drink better as I have to sip it comapared with a cold soft drink.

I'm feeling edgy today as have a complicated work phone call to make. I'm procrastinating by being on here but thought I deserved a break.

Strange article in my newspaper today as it seems to recognise that women are having drink issues but seems to recommend that you switch to different wines! Maybe it was the way I read it?

http://www.thetimes.co.uk/tto/life/families/article3677967.ece

Got off the blocks last night so

1 AFD please Shaggy.

tracy_36

Hi all

2AF please Shaggy

I wasnt tempted last night as my lad was being sick everywhere!
Just made me want to be sick lol

Fella coming over for tea and to stay tonight, was thinking about getting some wine, but as he doesn't 'home' drink, I won't bother!

She says now....:)

Tracy x

41_and_i_know_it

Well done Imagnu I'm so happy for you choosing to improve your life, like we all are. Anything you want to say or ask, feel free and remember no-one's perfect. If we were meant to drink alcohol we would have been born with a bottle of vodka not milk lol. Actually I don't drink vodka but....lol

Lilith1980

Imagnu wrote: »

:wave: been lurking for a while, and this post really hit home. Over the last couple of years I have got into the habit of having a couple of glasses of wine at night (half a bottle really, and often a whole bottle on a weekend night) not seeming to get tipsy or hungover, but something in this post hit home hard. We have a new addition to the family and the thought of not being there to watch them grow up fills me with utter sadness.
So thank you Lilith for this, the scales have fallen from my eyes and I hope it is not too late for my health.

Imagnu

No worries, I think this has helped me learn about myself too, and the reality of how things can creep up on you when you don't think any harm is being done. I had got into bad habits, not getting drunk but drinking regularly, and now that I have been off the alcohol for about 6 weeks I feel so much better.

I am having regular thoughts about drink and how much I used to like it, and how *nice* it would be to be to be able to just have one glass at a time, of a night, like other people seem to. But that is not possible for me and I feel ok with that realisation - it just means that I am better off without it

41_and_i_know_it

Yes Lilith it does sneak up on you. I still think I can handle just one drink, but I KNOW that I can't. If I was able to just have one drink, I would have done it a long time ago, well before now and without being asked or forced to.
I drink to experience a feeling to cope with my emotions and feelings, if I'm happy I drink to celebrate, if I'm in a good mood or something good has happened, I drink to celebrate. If I'm feeling sorry for myself I drink, if I feel lonely, sad, neglected, ugly, unhappy, too old, too young, too fat, too anything I drink.
I DRINK BECAUSE I DRINK BECAUSE I DRINK BECAUSE I DRINK ETC.
There is no reason.
There is no excuse.
There is no hiding.
I'm not going to stop unless I STOP I STOP I STOP I STOP ETC.
Drink exacerbates my situation, instead of helping it, it makes it worse and the temporary feeling/relief I experience is short-lived and makes it harder to cope the next time I want to drink to numb or get away from my problems.

CuppaTea

3/20 AF's and 2/4 SNC

Sorry i'm not posting much at the moment, its so busy at home i get so tired that its hard to keep up with everything. I am reading all your posts though, even if i can't reply.

This thread is keeping me on track. xx

jak

41- I feel the same way about drink. I drank because it was Monday, is my new fav. saying because lets face it, you do regardless of the situation! I'm on day 38 af now. Today I got an appointment for my initial assessment with the alcohol and drug people. Can't remember what theyre called! I go at half nine of Thursday.
5 af for me xxx