The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12

PriceySOS

22 please, Shaggy, thanks. And 20 target for Feb, please.

I filled out my units on the 'Drinkaware' website for the first time this month and ended up with 'low risk' so really, really pleased about that. :j

Rachel - poor you, sending hugs to you. Seems far too young - I was 22 when I married Mr Wrong, 25 when divorced But it does work out for a lot of people.

Best wishes to everybody.

Lovely sunny weather cheering me up today :T

41_and_i_know_it

Rachel, it is true you can choose your friends but not your family.
We're your family now too, and we'll build you up so that their unacceptable behaviour goes over your head and they realise that they have to change not you. No making allowances, they have taken advantage of you cos u drank and now you're not they don't like the new improved stronger you. Tough t-tty I say.
Jak well done. You are gonna give yourself a big Valentine heart more special than anyone else can give and you deserve it too honey.
Jak I agree with maman I'd tell the truth. If they have a problem with that then they are the problem. You have come this far without any help from them, don't let them stop you from being who you want to be. They should accept you whether you want to drink or not, sorry but I believe the truth will out and the sooner you tell them the quicker they will get used to it. And better that you are an alcoholic like your dad if your mum thinks that than someone who pleases others and then ends up dead, ill or wrecking their life.
So if tonight goes ok i mean AF it'll be 27 AF days and 4 SNC.
Dryathlon for January is finishing, Nobrewery February is beginning, bring it on.

41_and_i_know_it

warbonnet wrote: »

AF- 30/31

I am sure now that the drinking every night is a habit. I am quite happy to have an AF beer or ginger beer at night.


So hopefully if I don't buy any wine then the habit will be broken and my new habit will be the AF option. I was pregnant the last time I went 30 days without a drink - that was 19 years ago!


I now feel more in control of everything and able to cope better with the stresses of life.


Looking forward to a meal and drinks out on Friday.


Julie

Well done Warbonnet, I'm going out Friday night for a meal and hopefully will be AF and drinking.
Yes it is a habit and sociably acceptable, I agree with everything you say, it makes a lot of sense.

41_and_i_know_it

rachelww1 wrote: »

It seems that my eldest daughter is getting married in May, and couldn't even be bothered to tell me. She will only be a week over 21, and she is far too young (been there, done that, got 3 t-shirts!). We haven't spoken for nearly a year, after she did something that I found despicable a couple of weeks before my mum died. She hasn't bothered to invite any of my family. I phoned my sister and she knew about it but not when it was. I'm not bothered if I don't get an invite (I would only go as a guest anyway, and not the mother of the bride), but what about her little brother who she hasn't bothered with in a year.....no birthday or xmas presents or cards, or even phone calls. How do I explain that one to him, or should I even be bothered to tell him.

No-one wants their daughter to make the same mistakes, unfortunately the more we try to dissuade anyone the more they are determined to do something. If you voice your concerns she will just tell you that you haven't spoken for a year so its none of your business. If you go along with it she will say you should have tried to stop her or you don't care and let her mess her life up.
You are important too, if you stay off the booze then when she decides to talk again you won't say anything you don't mean to say and you will be able to think clearly.
It hurts I bet, you are left out of what should be the most special day of your daughter's life. Society makes marriage a spectacle full of shoulds and should nots, at the end of the day whether she marries or not speaks to you in a month or a year or whenever, you will always be her mum, she knows that and its hard to admit you're wrong when you're trying to convince everyone and yourself that you're right. She'll come round so just take this time for yourself and heal yourself, when we give birth they don't tell us how to deal with things like this, but we know that one day they will be adults and have to find things out for themselves.
Sorry, I don't mean to sound harsh. I hope this helps.

Barny1979

And it's bingo!!! Full-house for January, 31/31 and 4 SNCs met.

mackeroo

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gien

A quick hello to all and reporting a final AFD for January, yesterday was AF too - I gave bad cold so am in bed already!

41_and_i_know_it

tomorrow is a new day, one which we will face together

41_and_i_know_it

gien wrote: »

A quick hello to all and reporting a final AFD for January, yesterday was AF too - I gave bad cold so am in bed already!

Get well soon love. Here's some smilies to make you feel better.:T:rotfl::rotfl::j

Lilith1980

I'm off to bed soon and had an AF day so I have reached the 31 AFD for January please Shaggy

Can I have a dancing banana pleeeeease?