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The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12
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Great news tracy, I'm so happy for you both, satchmo thx honey for your lovely words of comfort. Welcome back gien and idris I know you from when I first joined the thread and hoping you can help me from your experiences.
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AFD 2 for April today0
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I've been a bit absent too idris! The Past couple of months have been terrible for drinking - back to daily consumption, sometimes quite a lot! We've had visitors a lot and if course then it feels like you're on holiday.
So, back on the wagon - yesterday was AF and I'm aiming on the rest if the week being AF too.
lift my mood and help with the desire to have a drink to take the edge off the day.
Idris and Gien, that is the crux of my previous bad habit drinking. Any reason justified it, bad weather, good weather, holiday, friends round, kids annoying me, celebration etc. Then it got to the point where I was drinking everyday, then I felt hard done by if I didnt have any or run out, then I would engineer shopping trips. For me it was bad habits running rapidly into more. And its so easy, at first you don't notice those few drinks in the afternoon turning into sessions.
I used the drink/fizz to fill me up so I could eat less and control my weight. I also wanted to drink more so wanted to eat less to make room for it.
I used to worry that I was drinking too much, that any ailment was due to alcohol, that my liver was being pickled, that I loved alcohol more than my family....but i'd justify it as I was still fully functioning and apart from my DH, no-one else really knew what I was regularly getting up too, and I am not entirely sure he really knew. Awful.....shocking really.:eek:
I am not saying that is you two at all, its just I can really relate to what you both have said and explaining why.
Now I am eating way too much chocolate instead, just swapped alcohol for sugar..........ahhh there has to be a little vice in there somewhere.
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Hi Shaggy
Can I have 11 days for April please
I have sorted things out with my fella, it got to the point where I was physically hurting about it, no wine to knock me out Friday so I was fretting all night, stomach cramps etc
So, am over the moon that we are back on track, he was right, we are to good together to lose it - am gutted I fell straight back into the wine trap, think I will try another month off again soon - makes me more in control
Hugs to one and all x
Glad its all sorted for your tracy, love is pants at times eh? So tell me more about this chap, last time I regularly posted you were still on dating sites hoping to meet someone nice. I think?Live for the moment and plan for the future0 -
Ohhh and the reason why i logged on:-
2/24 please shaggy.Live for the moment and plan for the future0 -
I've just been reading the alcohol thread on the families board. Someone posted this:-If you are truly addicted to alcohol its a physical dependency. You can't go without drinking for days without having unpleasant withdrawal symptoms.
I'm not sure how true that is, I don't think I ever had the physical symptons, it was more cravings like you crave chocolate or cake or whatever your treat food is.
Lately i have found myself trying to work out how bad things actually got, I guess I am linking it into reasons why my marriage failed and blaming myself with the excess drinking (which has never been mentioned as a reason). Then I read something like this and I get all confused..........Help!!!
I suppose it doesn't really matter, that past has happened that wont ever change. But the future?? Do I need a benchmark of severity as a warning?Live for the moment and plan for the future0 -
Cuppa Tea, I wouldn't pay any attention to that quote. You know why you drink, and that quote just enables people to keep drinking as they think that just because they don't have the physical symptoms after a few days without a drink that they are not an alcoholic. What a load of codswallop! If it was that simple, then there would be no alcoholics left because the solution would be to imprison them all until the physical symptoms subside. We all know that even after years of abstinence that alcoholics drink again, and it is not to do with a physical dependency. Cuppa Tea I am not saying you are wrong, and maybe that quote is right and I am wrong, and if I am I am so sorry as I am not an expert by any means. I am so glad you posted this because other people are obviously reading it and should be on this thread, it is all good and well reading a book, but when you start talking to people that is when you realise that it is a lot more complicated when you relate science to a real human being and not a test subject. Cuppa Tea thankyou for your post, I like to see things on other threads as I only post on this one. Hope everyone is ok, and I would love to know what others think of the quote, I am probably wrong but I am entitled to an opinion and I would love to know more, so please inform me, I have a lot to learn. By the way 2 AF days, no physical symptoms and I am eating to substitute also especially sweet stuff, whatever works as long as I don't drink.
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2/30 AFDs for me. Paying the IBS price for having pizza on Sunday night, bloated sore tum.What would you get if all you got was what you were thankful for?0
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I've just been reading the alcohol thread on the families board. Someone posted this:-
I'm not sure how true that is, I don't think I ever had the physical symptons, it was more cravings like you crave chocolate or cake or whatever your treat food.
It certainly is an interesting quote but I think a lot of us are in a position where we can see the above actually being something that could happen if we were to continue with our drinking to the levels we may well have done in our lives before MSE alcohol forum. Stitch in time saves nine - if you like! Well done CuppaTea in spotting this! I don't know about you but I felt like I'd been told off when I read this!:rotfl:
Anyway, 2 AF night for me!
And 3rd night with other half and myself barely grunting at each other. We went out on Saturday night with 4 friends to celebrate someones birthday. We'd all had wine +++ with dinner and at some point OH got quite snarly towards me across the table. I responded fire with fire and snarled back. Since then we have barely spoken. Last night I went to speak to him - as it was clear that I would have to make the first move again - and as is customary he managed <in his head at least> to turn it all around and stated that the only time he got !!!!!! towards me was as a response to me being unpleasant towards him. At that point I just walked out as I couldn't believe that as usual he was the innocent party even though he was the aggressor, yet he manages to justify it in his own head that it was me at fault. Grrrrrrrrr
Sad Times!
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Morning :hello:
2 AFDs for me.
ShaggyxWhat do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.0
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