What do you do in the evenings?

mel48rose

Could it be that he finds it difficult to relax and unwind at the end of the day? How about a nice warm bath? I agree its easier in summer when you can get outside etc. He could try some relaxation techniques to help him.

bestpud

We only have 3 weekday nights free as youngest daughter has activities and I'm usually working at least one of those free nights.

However, when we are all home, we have tea around 5.30 then DH falls asleep for an hour or so (he gets up before 5am) while the girls and I play board or card games. Around 7 ish, eldest daughter goes up to her room and youngest daughter and I watch TV.

Between 7.30 and 8.00, youngest daughter goes to bed and DH and I wash up and have a quick tidy up.

After that we watch TV or sometimes put funny YouTube videos on and laugh a lot! Lately our entertainment has been clips of people slipping on ice - we have a warped sense of humour!

He usually goes to bed around 10 and me around 11.

I agree it's not your responsibility to entertain your other half - I'd be telling him to sort something out or shut up moaning!

pigpen

I can't just sit either, I get all twitchy and fidgetty and then start the pacing and huffing. I usually sit and knit or fold laundry or read while faffing online and watching brain rot DVD's (currently working our way through Smallville)

My OH plays games online, browses facebook, reads, watches the same rubbish I do. He makes cheesecakes and bakes cakes and is after doing candle making.

It sounds like he is just bored. Why can he not go for a cycle ride in winter? Or to the gym or swimming? Or how about an OU course or crochet?

red_devil

boring people get bored.

Tish_P

I find it odd that VestanPance thinks that the female equivalent of "why not do DIY?" is "why not do housework?", when the female equivalent of "why not do DIY?" is "why not do DIY?". DIY is more fulfilling than housework because you don't need to do it all again in a day or two, and many people do enjoy it as a hobby. My partner went to woodworking class for fun a while back; I've yet to see any washing-up classes advertised. That said, I also think anyone, male or female, complaining about being bored while there's housework that needs doing should be sweetly handed a duster so at least they can be productively bored.

To answer the actual question, I work fairly late as does my partner so there aren't long evenings to fill. But I sing with a choir one evening a week, probably go for a drink with friends once a week on average, and am happy to chill the rest of the time (I include reading and knitting in the "chill" category). People differ, though - your husband isn't wrong for needing a bit more mental stimulation. He's just a bit more extraverted than you. Help him find a hobby and in the meantime don't let the pacing get to you.

Reggie_Rebel

I think a visit to the dressing up box may be in order

VestanPance

Tish_P wrote: »

I find it odd that VestanPance thinks that the female equivalent of "why not do DIY?" is "why not do housework?"

Because despite the fact that some men and women enjoy DIY, a great many view it as a chore or something they hate doing.

It sounds like a very generic get the guy to do some stuff about the house if he's bored comment to me, but that may be just because I hate DIY with a passion.

SuzieSue

red_devil wrote: »

boring people get bored.

A few of my teachers used to say this and I have to say that I agree with them. I can honestly say that I have never been bored in my life - there is always something to do, no-one has read every book that has been published or watched every film made etc, so how can anyone be bored?

scooby088

DIY is best carried out by people who know what they are doing, well thats my excuse anyway.

I finish work around 7ish, I like to chillout and my hobby is rather noisy for the time of day anyway.