teach son about his background?

mumps

Hi OP, I hope the meeting with the teacher went OK and your little boy is OK. It is sometimes very hard to see them taking this sort of abuse, it is important that the other child realises that this sort of language is not acceptable. I hope the school deal with it well.

sweetsheep84

Hi mumps. Thank you. We had a little chat with the head and the class teacher. Class teacher was shocked about this. But did say she will have a word with the whole class (son could not point out who it was when teacher took him back in class and asked him. Tbh, i do not blame him coz he is being put on the spot yet again which he hates but OH is fuming as us parents looked like a fool at that point and we still do not know who said it!!)

Going back for another chat again and see if they found out who (I did inform them about which child as son told me what the other child wore but it is important for my son himself to learn to deal with it.) Hope this gets sorted and he can happily go to school everyday without fuss.

Thanks again.

Mojisola

sweetsheep84 wrote: »

Going back for another chat again and see if they found out who (I did inform them about which child as son told me what the other child wore but it is important for my son himself to learn to deal with it.) Hope this gets sorted and he can happily go to school everyday without fuss.

As a first move to deal with this, I would make it a whole class lesson and not single out any particular child.

That would be followed by close observation of interactions between the children to see if the name calling starts again. If there are future examples, then the child doing it would be spoken to individually.

sweetsheep84

Son gave me a clear detailed of how the stinky clothes calling happened yesterday (when and where). He then also said the other child said it quietly to him when no one was next to them.

I told him to report it to the teacher if anything like this happens again and do not make himself uncomfortable coz he has done nothing wrong. I agree with your view. Hope my OH sees it this way too (he is still stewing about son not pointing the other child out)

Thanks for your advice.

balletshoes

your OH needs to calm down and let the school deal with it at the moment. Him being angry in front of your child because he didn't/wouldn't point the finger is not going to help your child, he's going to feel pressurised both at school and home.

The school has just been made aware of this issue in your child's class, so you (and your OH) need to give them time and opportunity to resolve it. You've done the right thing OP, telling your child to let the teacher know every time something like this is said to him.

sweetsheep84

OH was on the phone. He could not be present at that time and frankly, I was glad he was not there lol

Joons

If you're child is upset, then you are upset. Go have a word with the teacher, make her aware of what is happening, it's not bullying no but surely she can help him if she knows he's struggling with this.

Ames

Seriously? You don't think it's bullying?

SuzieSue

Ames wrote: »

Seriously? You don't think it's bullying?

I assume that Joons has only read the first post, so doesn't know the full story.

Joons

Oh dear, no, I had only read the first post. It's bullying alright, poor wee lad, I hope you get it sorted, see no reason why they wouldn't sort it out, they won't want angry mums at the school gates. Just made me think tho, when I was a kid, I had a squint eye and wore specs, the amount of name calling I had was unbelieveable (bullying wasn't a word used back then)....it was almost like, you had to put up with it, nothing was done about it.....glad to see times have changed. I had quite a miserable childhood because of other kids, they can be so cruel, even though I was unhappy I stood my corner every time, I reckon that's why I'm so bolshy nowadays, I don't take crap of anyone!