Social services onto me about not having child in nursery! Advice needed

System

i wonder what the outcome was...

POPPYOSCAR

bagpuss38 wrote: »

Yes nurseries can be great places for those children who are in families with "don't give a damn" parents but those with loving parents can gain more by being at home both educationally and scoially.

Excuse me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So anyone who sends their child to nursery doesnt give a damn, ooooh theres alot of us about then :mad:[/QUOTE]




That is not what she said.

I read it as nursery is a good place for children who have parents that do not really care, as being at home with those kind of parents would be a disadvantage.

However, if children have loving caring parents at home then not going to nursery will not be of detriment to them.

Nowhere did she say that if you send your child to nursery those parents are un-caring and unloving.

bagpuss38

Ok i ill concede the point that she may not have said anyone who sends their child to nursery doesn't give a damn.
She does though infer that those with "loving parents" can gain more being at home educationally and SOCIALLY.
So are we to surmise that if you send your child to nursery instead of keeping them at home you are not loving?

bagpuss38

I totally agree that for children who are disadvantaged at home nursery is fantastic.
I just don't agree with the way the poster has stated her comment.


I hope the OP is going to come back on and update us and answer the questions raised on this thread.

365days

bagpuss38 wrote: »

Ok i ill concede the point that she may not have said anyone who sends their child to nursery doesn't give a damn.
She does though infer that those with "loving parents" can gain more being at home educationally and SOCIALLY.
So are we to surmise that if you send your child to nursery instead of keeping them at home you are not loving?

I wouldn't get het up over it. I think it can be read the way you have read it and the other way too.

There will always be people who think that to be a perfect parent (they don't exsist) you have to spend every waking, breathing second devoted to your offspring.

They are often the one's who have a complete breakdown when their children fly the nest.

I contest that loving parents can offer what a nursery can. At nursery your child begins to learn that they are not the centre of the universe even if they are the centre of yours. A very valuable lesson to learn.

POPPYOSCAR

bagpuss38 wrote: »

Ok i ill concede the point that she may not have said anyone who sends their child to nursery doesn't give a damn.
She does though infer that those with "loving parents" can gain more being at home educationally and SOCIALLY.
So are we to surmise that if you send your child to nursery instead of keeping them at home you are not loving?

Not at all.

But some do infer that by not sending your child to nursery you are not doing the best by your child.

I did not go to nursery as a child and I started school at the age of 5 it has done me no harm. I did well at school.

I did send my children to nursery and they started school at 4.

I cannot see that this has made any difference to them.

There is no right and wrong, it is a choice for the parent, what works for them and their child.

bagpuss38

Absolutely!
Totally up to the parent!


I have had 3 of mine attend pre school at 2 and a half, but the last one wasn't able to attend until she was 3 and half.
Difference?
None at all.

johnnyl

miduck wrote: »

What a bizarre post. You decide that there is nothing to investigate based on a few posts on an internet forum. .

not so, I have formed my opinion on the information that is available.My view is that if the information is correct then the decision to refer is wrong.

Other people have taken exactly the same information, an think that the right decision has been made. It is this view that I am challenging. I havent at all said that that there may not be more to it. What I have said is that I do not agree with those that think opting out of nursery and a visit from a HV = suspicious. It isnt at all.

lil.smartie

My daughter is 4, she was born early and abroad, not by choice! BUT we seem to slip through every crack and I've even had to confirm to our GP she still lives here! lol
HV service round here is/was very short staffed so I had about 2-3 visits then they stopped, I've had to chase all her immunizations as she didn't get 'called' for them and I've had no letter to select her school for next September (although we do plan to home school anyway!)
I've heard nothing, GP has seen her once other than for regular check (6wks iirc) but the surgery know us so are not concerned. I think if I had a letter like the OP I too would take offence as they haven't bothered up to now (I assume OP hasn't had regular HV contact until baby was born) so why the sudden interest!?

Kate

johnnyl

Want-To-Fit-In wrote: »

Excuse me you quoted my first reply and I was replying to you. I dont get chance to sit here and reply straight away.

No Childrens Services SHOULD follow up any report. How do they get evidence without doing so?

that point has already been addressed. The HV had been visiting and therefore had access to the child. The evidence would be there.

Evidence isnt the parent deciding that they no longer need a service. There has to be a valid reason to make a suspicion to then involve SS.