Weekly Flylady Thread 14th January 2013

dancemum

Took Ds2 to paediatrician then back to school. Went to my course and Mr A's to buy 2 books

Basics done plus lots of worrying and phone calls to school re snow.

Ds2(10) has been crying lots today about having no friends. He says there aren't enough children at his new school to make friends with. There are 5 children in his class. We tried a youth club but it didn't work out. It is heart breaking. He says his brother is too old (16). He has been trying to teach our cat to perform tricks but she wont so again the tears flowed. We do play games with him.

I have just heard that my dancing school is closed tomorrow so we are having a jemina day (pjs) so lots of extra flying time.

skint_breeder_5

Evening flyladies, thank you all so much for your posi-vibes and good wishes....must have helped as I just let out a dignified whimper today with the second lot of steroids. Got home from hospital just after 5 after being there since 11am

Nasty evil steroids have played havoc all day, I had nap very late with DS early this evening and my sugar levels had barely moved from lunchtime, so though sheer hard work, flying like a demon, and adjusting like clockwork I was finally at target to cook at eat dinner at 10.30pm :mad::mad::mad:

So I am likely not to get any sleep again tonight while I keep trying to get back into target.

DD2 not going out tonight, so needs her bed back, so transferred all my medication and gibble to DD1 room, but had to get everything straight, so spent awhile searching for a missing pillowcase for DD1 room that DD3 was supposed to make the bed with when she was asked to bring in Mt Washmore two days ago when the snow came down, so I didn't break my neck trying to carry awkward baskets.

Unknown to me, EX MIL got the sheets in yesterday bar one pillow case and made DD1 bed and told DD3 not to do help out and to leave the clean washing.....for me to deal with when I came home from hospital as "children should be children" - I went out to utility to find all the clean washing exactly as DS and I left it on the side ready to be brought it - so to prove a point I dragged in through across the snow and ice in 8 manageable loads dumping it right in front of the TV so EX MIL could see nowt :mad::mad::mad::mad: then spent 2 hours sitting cross legged on the floor sorting Mt Washmore while she said there hurumphing like Marge Simpson.

When I asked DD3 to take her pile up and put it away, DD3 snorted at me and said "nanny said you can't make me it is Child Abuse!" I would like to have reported that I took EX MIL to the kitchen for a quiet word at that point, but I would be lying - I exploded and asked EX for back up on this point:mad: and he made DD3 apologise to me and take her clothes up for putting away. So top marks to the EX for showing a united front :D:D

I told her that this house now runs by my rules, not hers,not the EX's because they don't work. And it runs by my rules when my back is turned, if I am on the loo, hospital or Timbuktu! DD3 is 13 years old and not 13 months, and if DS can sit there and match up his coloured socks with a smile on his face then he is not being abused, and I refuse to tolerate being undermined in my own house. If a teacher asks my 13 year old to do homework while I am in hospital are you going to tell her not to do it and disable her education for life? Why should I allow you to disable my DD3 in vital life skills she is going to need to use to function in cookery class, textiles (what was sewing in my day:rotfl:) woodwork, metalwork, resistant materials when I ask her to pick up after herself, sort out recycling into basic material groups and neatly fold her washing away - never mind in 5 years I hope to be sending her out into the big wide world to University and she needs to know how to function with poisoning or electrocuting herself, never mind following explicit instructions to reasonable deadlines in a mature and grown up manner.:mad::mad::mad:

I don't quite know where that backbone materialised from as it has been MIA for quite a number of years, but it just ended up with her getting hysterical saying that it never did the EX and her DD any harm.

I reminded her that her DD is 35 years old and has never peeled a vegetable in her life, cannot use a cooker, is too scared of the phone to make the necessary appointments to get the birth registered and claim child benefit etc , has just given birth to a baby and never changed a nappy until it was 6 weeks old and abdicated all responsibility to her and the baby's dad because the poo smelled and looked funny, didn't want to take the baby to have its injections because it would "hurt the baby and she would cry" believed that the baby should feed in 5 minutes flat then be winded and go immediately to sleep in its own cot until woken for the next feed and anything else would be letting the baby be the boss and she wouldn't have any time for herself -

I then said that is disabling a child to function in normal society and a normal family, and that is not the life I want for any of my children.

EX MIL is threatening to the EX to go home on Wednesday so it puts me up said creek without paddle, as Skint baby may still be in SCBU and not feeding properly by then. The EX would have to stay at home from when DS came out of nursery at 1.15 then stay there to declutter all the children safely home so there is a responsible adult in the house at all times.....so I would be stuck at hospital with a mountain of dirty washing and DS would be breaking his heart at home without me and his "baby".

To be quiet honest, I don't need that kind of help and emotional blackmail this close to surgery, and Wednesday is day 3 after a baby's birth, the most vulnerable day for "baby blues" so I think this is all very well thought out so that I cave in and let her destroy everything I have tried to accomplish for the Skint Ritz, myself and all my kids :(:(

I may need to make the tough choice and send her home tomorrow and just face the surgery alone on Monday, as my gut is telling me the short term discomfort, embarrassment and depression for me maybe worth it versus the effect of long term effects that mind games on DD3 and DS that I cannot not observe and diffuse.

This is not a decision that I can make tonight, so I just hope I can get some sleep in between my medication corrections and crystallise my thoughts into a clear and decisive course of action, as I do not like snapping as it's not really my way and I don't want the tiredness doing the talking.:(

Right, time to polish some spoons for you guys, and catch up with Fred and a :coffee:

kazmeister

Wow skint breeder youre having a tough time. Sending lots of spoons to help you (but they will take approx 10 hours to get to you unless of course there is a strong tail wind).

Well I was going to have a read back to see what everyone else is up to but I darent now, I'm scared of seeing what everyone else might be going through while I bask in the sunshine and you all endure the snow. So massive hugs to everyone, keep up the flying and I might pop in next week

Kaz x

bossymoo

Oh skinty, is there no one else who can help? Whereabouts are you? She sounds such a help (not!). What a worry. Glad ex sided with you, though. And a 13yo should know better!

Well, I've got in the spare bed, as tots are both in mine. Umming and ah-ing about whether to venture out to dance class and footy... I suppose we should, it's not very deep here. Just wonder if we will e the only ones there...

Jazee

Morning all. Got up around usual time even though its Saturday. Its just started snowing again here.

My Saturday listy:

Wrap & post fleabay parcels (weather permitting)
Walk dogs (weather permitting)
Hoover downstairs

MeMeMeMeMeMeMetime. Yay.

Have a great day everyone.

kazwookie

Skint~~ have a hug, not too sure where you are but if you were near me, I would offer to come over and help out.

Work has rung to say we are open as usual today, and don't be late in!!

Cat fed
Snow looked at, no more has fallen over night

xx

Dustykitten

Morning all

Back in the virtual world, no internet last night.

Helen, thanks feeling better today. I think it was a combo of DS2 walking home at 10:45 in the snow, the anniversary of Dad dying, Mum doing my head in big time, and DH being OS. None of these usually would cause me to fuss but just a bit of emotional overload with AF being in residence.

WM on, tea brewed. Not anything planned other than a bit on my list, a bit of a tidying in the DR. May go through all the games with DS3 in the next 3 days and see which we enjoy and we can be rehomed.

Dustykitten

Ok who fancies giving this a go this weekend -

Cleaning rugs with snow

cyclingyorkie

So Dusty - where do you find these things?

Dustykitten

cyclingyorkie wrote: »

So Dusty - where do you find these things?

Now that would be telling. The role of your leader is to inspire you, take you out of your comfort zone and kick butt when you are slacking - now get that rug outside to acclimatise! :rotfl: