Wedding dress code and other demands!

claire16c

squirrelchops wrote: »

I don't want to divulge as think it may identify me as a guest!

Might be a good thing - would show what people think of them asking their guests to do this!

Is it a normal colour? Or have they told you to wear 'oyster pink' or something :rotfl:

Either way I just find it weird. What if you find 10 dresses that fit perfectly but none are the right colour? Plus like I said earlier in this thread, all its going to lead to is 10 women all turning up in the same dress. Then her photos will look really stupid.

mountainofdebt

I'm just wondering is this a 'late in the day' affair so that the reception is more of an evening do (if that makes sense?)

I'm just wondering as the american tv weddings (yes I know its tv land!) I've seen the guests tend to wear evening type dresses - if that makes sense.

OH and I were invited to a Ladies Night once and it was only through a chance conversation with someone else about a fortnight beforehand was a dress code (as in a specific colour) mentioned - literally in passing.

Now if I had turned up and I was the only one in a different colour dress then I would not have been a happy bunny.

OP - is it a readily available colour? I only ask as I'm quite short and being overweight doesn't help either - the thought of having to buy a dres, let alone in a specific colour is bring me out in a cold sweat!

claire16c

Even if its a readily available colour, lets say red, it still needs to be available in several high street shops in several styles - which if its floor length is unlikely.

Only a few places like Debenhams & Coast sell floor length gowns. So if theres one in there in that colour, cue several women in the same dress at the wedding looking like a secondary group of bridesmaids. Or youd have to get a dress made specially which is ridiculous.

Or what if you found a dress in the right colour, plus it was floor length but just looked awful on you?

I find it a nightmare finding a dress to fit, let alone searching for one in a specific colour!

mountainofdebt

claire16c wrote: »

Even if its a readily available colour, lets say red, it still needs to be available in several high street shops in several styles - which if its floor length is unlikely.

Only a few places like Debenhams & Coast sell floor length gowns. So if theres one in there in that colour, cue several women in the same dress at the wedding looking like a secondary group of bridesmaids. Or youd have to get a dress made specially which is ridiculous.

Or what if you found a dress in the right colour, plus it was floor length but just looked awful on you?

I find it a nightmare finding a dress to fit, let alone searching for one in a specific colour!

I totally agree with every thing you've said.

In fact I think I would be so stressed at even the thought of trying to find a dress in the specific colour that fitted me (regardless of what it looked like on) that I think I would turn down the invite.

coolcait

I don't have any difficulty with the idea of a general dress code.

Like "white tie". Or "dinner jacket for the men, cocktail dress for the ladies".

Or " no casual wear".

I'm not that bothered by a request that the guests wear "something [insert colour of choice]"

However, I strongly object to being told to wear a specific dress style, in a specific colour.

After all these years, I know the style and colours that suit me, and which I'm comfortable wearing.

If some bridezilla wants me to wear a floor-length peach gown :eek:, she can pay for it. Because it simply would not suit me - even though it might look spectacular on someone else.

As an aside, it always amazes me that so many bridezillas choose insipid pastel colours for their bridesmaid dresses/general colour scheme.

If the day is all about the bridezilla, the one in a white dress, then she will stand out much, much more if the people around her are in deeper, darker colours.

[I point this out for selfish reasons. If it's going to become the norm that a bridezilla dictates the colour/style of her wedding guests' attire - deeper, darker colours suit me much better!]

squirrelchops

[QUOTE=coolcait;59110879


If the day is all about the bridezilla, the one in a white dress, then she will stand out much, much more if the people around her are in deeper, darker colours.
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The dress code is a VERY dark colour. Hope that is a big hint to those who asked!

claire16c

So it's gonna look like a funeral then? Lol!

victory

squirrelchops wrote: »

[QUOTE=coolcait;59110879


If the day is all about the bridezilla, the one in a white dress, then she will stand out much, much more if the people around her are in deeper, darker colours.
QUOTE]

The dress code is a VERY dark colour. Hope that is a big hint to those who asked!

Black it's black:j:D

I know of a bride that got married in black the photos were more like a fancy dress theme than wedding ones but hey the bride was happy:D

adouglasmhor

I have a friend got that got married in a white latex dress, I can't remember what his wife wore at all though.

Just_want_a_house

I'm just going to slide my humble little opinion in to all this if thats ok?

As a previous bride who had a wonderful day, it was sometimes marred somewhat when little looks/glances, exchanges of emails etc come to light that people weren't happy with where I was getting married (2 hrs from where we live) the type of hen-do's/stag do's we were wanting to have etc, admittedly these were from my immediate bridal party, although some guests did put their noses up at the venue & location.

It spoilt it for me a little, knowing that people were 'scoffing' at my and my OH special day. The idea of your wedding is that you have it how you want to have it and not to try and suit every other person in the world.

As it is a work colleagues wedding ask yourself this:
a) Do you really want to go?
b) If not, politely decline, make your excuses and don't go
c) If you do go, as many have suggested on here, there are tonnes of ways of doing it cheaply without looking like you've been dragged through a hedge backwards. The bride to be will be all of a fluster as it is without having to worry about whether guests agree with her dress code or not.

Hope I dont come across as harsh, as I said merely just my little slant on things