dont feel anything for him now

mummy2lj

yes, he slept in the 2 year olds room all night and niether of them slept well, hes asked if its really what I want as he still wants to be with me, then I feel bad for doing this. Hes driven off to the 24hr tesco now leaving me with 2 kids upset since 4am.
Im not looking forwards to him being here whilst were like this

Sambucus_Nigra

mummy2lj wrote: »

yes, he slept in the 2 year olds room all night and niether of them slept well, hes asked if its really what I want as he still wants to be with me, then I feel bad for doing this. Hes driven off to the 24hr tesco now leaving me with 2 kids upset since 4am.
Im not looking forwards to him being here whilst were like this

Keep focused on why you ARE doing this.

Tiglath

OP - I admire you for taking such decisive action on this instead of dithering. Wishing you all the best and hope it gets resolved quickly.

Mrs.W_2

OP are you able to make a visit in person to the council/housing authority offices? I suggest this because seeing you when you tell them about your situation (breakdown of relationship and his extremely anti-social behaviour) will make a much greater impact than a phone call.

Your Council/housing authority will have a Neighbourhood Services (or similarly named) Team that ensures the welfare and safety of their tenants. Have you checked your council's website? It might list a contact name and number.

Mojisola

mummy2lj wrote: »

He has a 10 yr old son who behaves so badly and our 2 year old is picking up on it (trying to swear and copying him when he bes naughty) OH does nothing about any of it.

Iv got no say in his sons behaviour so just have to sit and watch it all and listen to son cry when OHs son hurts him.

Totally unacceptable! If you can't do anything about the older boy, take your children out.

mummy2lj wrote: »

he was actually quite calm and listened and said he still loved me and swore on the boys lives he did and would never go with anyone else and cheat.

But these are words which are easy and his actions have proved to you what he's really like.

Stick to your plans. Gather help from family and friends to support you so that he doesn't wear you down. These kind of people are very manipulative and he will do anything he can to make you feel you're in the wrong.

londonsurrey

I abhor people who swear on other people's lives.
Is he willing to be cut to pieces or hung as a child murderer when it's proved that he's lied and sworn on his children's lives?

mummy2lj

Il go to the offices monday morning.
Hes still blanking me and saying im throwing it all away on something stupid. Hes said I wont see him much which shows how much he cares about his family really

londonsurrey

No, you've decided NOT to throw away the rest of your life on something stupid, i.e. him.

Vixie_Pixie

Just read all the posts...

mummy2lj - He sounds like my ex when I was trying to end my relationship - he will try and throw all sorts of emotional crap at you in an attempt to make you feel bad and cave in.

If he blanks you - let him! Don't let it get you down. I think you are going to be a million times better off without him. Once he has gone, you will feel as though the biggest weight has been lifted. Yes, things may be hard now, but trust me - it gets sooooo much better. You will be able to move on, get your confidence back. You will also be providing your children with a much better environment

If he will not be around much once he leaves, then it just goes to show how heartless he is. Part of me thinks though that he is just saying that to make you feel worse.

I wish you the best of luck and like other posters hope that this all gets resolved quickly for you

dancingfairy

It sounds horendous. Do read back what you have written. He's been messaging other women, moaning he'd loose money whilst you were giving birth, his child is causing your child distress, he makes you cook and clean for him (and doesn't appreciate it), he doesn't want to support you in any way and when you bring things up he claims you are throwing things away. Errrr what things??? Not only that but he smashes the place up or has a temper tantrum if he can't get his own way. Seriously it sounds absolutely awful
What I would say is get yourself a new basic bank account set up as soon as possible and keep the details to yourself. Also get hold of copies of birth certificates, bank account details and passports. I hope and pray he will not withold these from you but if you have to go suddenly for any reason or he cuts off the money for any reason (Im guessing it's a joint account) you will be much better preapred if you have important documents stored/copied somewhere safe an a bank account set up ready to go. Perhaps your parents would look after important documents for you (or copies?).
Again I hope and pray that things go smoothly for you but he doesn't sound like a nice person at all so please take care and don't take any rubbish from him.
df