Sex Texting

vodkachick68

I also have to say that if i caught my boyfriend sex texting he would be history! It is a betrayal of TRUST which is to me a very important part of a relationship. So yes it is cheating as far as i'm concerned!

katie1812

I would definitely say cheating. It's talking intimately with someone who is not your partner. I always think if 'you' had done it and your partner found out how would they react?

fannyanna

I wouldn't be too concerned about labelling it. Whatever you choose to call it, it's clearly unreasonable behaviour on behalf of the texters.

OP, I'm sorry if your partner is one of the texters. I know I would be devastated if I found out my Husband was behaving in that way. It would raise serious questions about our relationship.

delain

marathon_man wrote: »

What a ridiculous thing to do.

This is a thread for folks to put their points of view across; as I have now done about your actions.
If you disagree with the said post by Talorcage, so be it, but it doesn't mean that the post is "spam".

It was a post by a spammer trying to get enough posts to post links, you only had to read the barely coherent pidgin english to see that.

MSE obviously agreed as said post is now gone!

ETA there wasn't a point of view in the now deleted post? Just the sort of gibberish you get in spam emails telling you you've been approved for a credit card you didnt apply for with an 'admin fee' to pay! Ie, scams. Happens here all the time.

Next time I'll just leave them to flood the forums with rubbish links!

System

Personally i'd count it as emotional cheating. Bf agrees. For me it would show a complete lack of respect and i'd prefer to be single than with someone who'd do that.

Actually my ex did it but i could never prove it (well..not without admitting i'd looked at his phone)...he eventually left me for one of the women he was sexting.

smartpicture

spender wrote: »

Smartpicture was it the same thing? I was shocked at the intensity of the text. It just that it stops for several months and then starts again.

I found multiple sex texts on my fiance's phone and challenged him. He said it 'didn't count' because he hadn't actually met up with her. I believed him when he said they hadn't met for sex (yet) because of some of the texts I'd read, but the sexual content made me feel completely sick. I said it very much did count because it was completely unacceptable to me - fantasies are fine, !!!!!! is fine, but interacting sexually in any way with a real woman who he knows in real life is cheating - and he knew it was unacceptable because he tried to hide the texts from me.

I gave him the benefit of the doubt once, on the understanding that we had now discussed where the line was drawn and there could be no misunderstanding if it happened again.

A few months later, I found he had a secret phone that he was using for more sex texts. So I finished it. And although I did consider the content of the texts to be cheating, what really finished it for me was that he was lying to me again and couldn't be trusted, and when challenged he tried to say that it was me who had the problem and made me feel like there was something wrong with me.

That is not acceptable in any relationship. If you do accept it, then you are on a slippery slope where your 'line in the sand' will gradually be pushed back further and further until you hate yourself as much as you hate what he's doing. Move on and find someone who accepts what is important to you and respects it.

borgman

smartpicture wrote: »

I found multiple sex texts on my fiance's phone and challenged him. He said it 'didn't count' because he hadn't actually met up with her. I believed him when he said they hadn't met for sex (yet) because of some of the texts I'd read, but the sexual content made me feel completely sick. I said it very much did count because it was completely unacceptable to me - fantasies are fine, !!!!!! is fine, but interacting sexually in any way with a real woman who he knows in real life is cheating - and he knew it was unacceptable because he tried to hide the texts from me.

I gave him the benefit of the doubt once, on the understanding that we had now discussed where the line was drawn and there could be no misunderstanding if it happened again.

A few months later, I found he had a secret phone that he was using for more sex texts. So I finished it. And although I did consider the content of the texts to be cheating, what really finished it for me was that he was lying to me again and couldn't be trusted, and when challenged he tried to say that it was me who had the problem and made me feel like there was something wrong with me.

That is not acceptable in any relationship. If you do accept it, then you are on a slippery slope where your 'line in the sand' will gradually be pushed back further and further until you hate yourself as much as you hate what he's doing. Move on and find someone who accepts what is important to you and respects it.

Excellent reply

Twinkle100

I would say it is cheating maybe not in a physical sense but I would consider it to be cheating. My oh would be long gone if I discovered this on his fone.

elmer

The slag who was texting my husband asking for sex told me in a huff that I made her feel guilty when "she hadnt done anything at all"

In my eyes they both had, her for begging him for sex and him for agreeing to it, even though as he put it "nothing ever happened"

I was livid, angry and v upset, he still hasnt got why????

What is it with men?????????????

They are obviously led by their d*cks

Gloomendoom

elmer wrote: »

The slag who was texting my husband asking for sex told me in a huff that I made her feel guilty when "she hadnt done anything at all"

In my eyes they both had, her for begging him for sex and him for agreeing to it, even though as he put it "nothing ever happened"

I was livid, angry and v upset, he still hasnt got why????

What is it with men?????????????

They are obviously led by their d*cks

And what was leading the lady in question?

Sorry to sound insensitive, but it really does take two to tango.