Sex Texting

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All anyone has to do to find the answer is ask themselves if they'd like their granny doing it.

marathon_man_3

miduck wrote: »

Look at their other posts - Taylorcage is making random, unintelligible posts, very much like a spammer does when they are trying to up their post count so they can post links. delain's judgment was sound, they should bring the post to the attention of the forum team.

Taylorcage has made a total of 10 posts to date. That hardly sounds like a habitual spammer to me.
I also don't know where the "random" bit comes into the equation but I could certainly understand the point that the poster was making.
So what if it differs to those of others posting to the thread?

System

Well i wouldnt class it as adultery myself but if my husband had been sending them i would think there was something wrong between us that he felt he had to share himself in this way.

emsywoo123

miduck wrote: »

Look at their other posts - Taylorcage is making random, unintelligible posts, very much like a spammer does when they are trying to up their post count so they can post links. delain's judgment was sound, they should bring the post to the attention of the forum team.

But the post itself was not spam. You can't go around reporting newbies "just in case" they start posting spam! Judge & jury!

OP-adultery or not, that's just labelling what the texters are doing. It's plainly wrong.

miduck

emsywoo123 wrote: »

But the post itself was not spam. You can't go around reporting newbies "just in case" they start posting spam! Judge & jury!

OP-adultery or not, that's just labelling what the texters are doing. It's plainly wrong.

The forum team has removed it - that would make them judge and jury on their forum - seems fair enough to me?

Morganarla

I read out the OP to my OH and his response was 'Oh no no no that's completely inappropriate..!'

And I agree.

life_unexpected_2

I would be worried that things may progress from this as from what you have said it started from things they would like to do, to things they wish the could do to each other. So how long before this progresses to things are are doing.

emsywoo123

miduck wrote: »

The forum team has removed it - that would make them judge and jury on their forum - seems fair enough to me?

Enough people report it and it gets pulled automatically

Very much the approach taken on MSE these days.

*wanders off muttering about how the place has gone downhill*

stir_crazy

Idiophreak wrote: »

...but thinking about them in a sexual manner isn't adultery...

a·dul·ter·y
/əˈdəlt(ə)rē/
Noun
Voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a person who is not his or her spouse.


...is talking/texting about doing something really as bad as actually doing it?

I know its not technically adultary, but its still betrayal. Talking or texting about it is an active step where you are letting the other party know that you are having these thoughts, and judging by the OP's second post, it looks like the intent is there to go further.