Sex Texting

balletshoes

spender wrote: »

I just want to harness peoples views on this. Is sex texting between friends akin to adultery? I am meaning really dirty explicit text between a female who is married and a male with a girlfriend even if nothing has occurred or likely to occur?

Interested to see what people thinks. These are text sent every few months for a few days.

do we mean they are both sex texting each other? Or is one of them sex texting the other?

balletshoes

spender wrote: »

The text go into great details of what they would like to do with each other I mean real detail. Then one backs off citing guilt and there is no contact until some months later when it all starts again?

so this isn't really fantasy either then - the intention is there until one of them backs off. I'd be very upset to see texts like that on my husband's phone. There would be ructions.

*Louise*

I wouldn't class it as adultery per se but I would see it as being emotionally 'unfaithful', and from the description of the texts it sounds like the intention and want is there but the guilt is all that's holding them back. It would certainly worry me and I would want it stopped.

Seanymph

it's 'non contact' adultery.

As committed individuals we expect our partners to remain faithful to us sexually. In this case they aren't. They are using another to seek their sexual stimulation - albeit non contact stimulation.

That HAS to leave the partner feeling inadequate and betrayed whatever way up you put it.

Stephb1986_2

I would class it is cheating. I think sex is something sacred that a couple should have together and not anyone else out of the relationship.

If you want to be with another person I think the relationship you're in should be finished and then if you wish start a relationship with the person you want to be with.

Steph xx

ognum

OK my question is why do you do it? The answer to that is your answer to if it's cheating!!!

daisiegg

It is definitely cheating. I can't see how anyone could think it wasn't!

thehappybutterfly

It's cheating in my book and as much as I love my husband, he's be dumped if he did this.

smartpicture

thehappybutterfly wrote: »

It's cheating in my book and as much as I love my husband, he's be dumped if he did this.

Completely agree.

And I did.

marisco_2

Something must be lacking in a relationship to decide to go behind your partners back and send sexually explicit text to someone else. For someone to choose to do this instead of talking to and trying to resolve any issues with their partner suggests they dont value them. A relationship without mutual trust and respect is not worth having and this kind of behaviour would finish any relationship I had.