MOOLOO'S Muddling on into 2013

Savvy_sewing

Molly41 wrote: »

Oh well - we will always be friends in real life and on the internet x

Certainly will. Xx

Savvy_sewing

geminilady wrote: »

I am sure lots of us read without posting,I love reading your updates good or bad.I am glad your daughter got to see her boys and it did not upset her,although a little surprised that they have been adopted locally.

The Super bikes can attract people from outside of the county, but local authorities organise adoptions so they tend to be within their counties area. So was aware that the adopting family was from the county, but think they are from Corby way where the boys were fostered out.

This weekend I have been making some bunting for a good bye gift for one of the girls at work who is leaving to go to university. Then yesterday I made a huge pompom type bow to go on the front of BF's car today. Friends are using it for their daughters wedding. Alas DGD and I are home alone, as we weren't invited in the end. At one stage I thought I was going to the reception with BF but then on Thursday we found out I couldn't go due to size of the venue. Was a little hurt at being told, but BF has said that he won't go now. He is driving the campervan so is there this afternoon still.
It's just started to rain so DGD and I won't be going to the park now.
I have done the ironing instead! What fun.

Savvy_sewing

DS has just found out that the pub he has been working in is closing at 4pm today. No more work. Pressure is now on to get him sorted out, but not sure what I can do to help. Him as am away on Thursday for two weeks.
He will have to push himself to find something that pays rather then is voluntary. As my purse strings are going to be going through changes with my work changing etc. have committed to afterscho club for DGD from my return.

thorsoak

Well Mooloo, maybe this is what he needs to actually sort himself out - are there any facebook local pages where he can advertise his services for casual work - and maybe pick up a pushbike so that he can get around a bit? With you not being around, and not being able to leave much for him, he will have to shape up a bit - and I'll bet he manages it ok!

minimoneysaver

What happened to his last motorbike? I think I remember you buying one, but I've gone blank after that. Are there any of the big supermarkets in your area? The university students will be shortly getting ready to return and hopefully leave some jobs behind. Failing that, would he be up for some call centre work or anything else like that?

Savvy_sewing

He left the bike in Oxford 3 years ago at a so called friends and then told me after the insurance ran out that it had been stolen. I had gone with him to sort it out but had a mass of trouble with the family at the time and we never saw the bike again, nor his passport etc if you remember.
I am not prepared to buy him another one. same happened to his bike and mine, taken by people who were supposed to be his friends when we lived in Oxford when babies were tiny.
He has an interview for a volunteering job but nothing paid as yet.
He will have to reassess his attitude to working, and I hope he comes up trumps sooner rather then later, as things are not ideal.

Savvy_sewing

His dyslexia means he is not a candidate for call centre work, and he is terrible on the telephone. He wouldn't survive as he gets tongue tied. Just wish the blacksmith could be a goer. He is going to really struggle as there is not much work in Brackley or Towcester at all.

thorsoak

Mooloo wrote: »

He left the bike in Oxford 3 years ago at a so called friends and then told me after the insurance ran out that it had been stolen. I had gone with him to sort it out but had a mass of trouble with the family at the time and we never saw the bike again, nor his passport etc if you remember.
I am not prepared to buy him another one. same happened to his bike and mine, taken by people who were supposed to be his friends when we lived in Oxford when babies were tiny.
He has an interview for a volunteering job but nothing paid as yet.
He will have to reassess his attitude to working, and I hope he comes up trumps sooner rather then later, as things are not ideal.

Mooloo - I'm not suggesting that YOU BUY him a pushbike - I'm suggesting that he uses his "ciggy money" and buys a second-hand one - there must be a freecycle/freegle site near you - or even a free/swap/sell facebook page for your area ....your contribution should be limited to driving him somewhere (in a reasonable vicinity) to pick up a pushbike! You've already got enough on your plate!

minimoneysaver

Thanks for filling in the gaps in my terrible memory Mooloo! Was your son doing a computer course too?

Savvy_sewing

minimoneysaver wrote: »

Thanks for filling in the gaps in my terrible memory Mooloo! Was your son doing a computer course too?

Yes he started a computer course, has racked up a huge debt that the bailiffs are supposed to be coming to get and as far as I can see, dispute giving him my old laptop he has not been doing. I am so angry with him about this and am struggling to get through to him about his debts mounting. Several thousand pounds, no longer sure of how much exactly. Kick, touch and similar words spring to mind.
Am going back home this morning and will be having words with him before we go on holiday on Thursday.
I have been throwing my money at the credit cards over the last few weeks, and this has kept the bank balances quite low. I do still have my £1,000 emergency funds but the demands on my purse have risen with in the same period which is nerve wrecking. My sewing is ticking along and when I return from holiday I will be having to work at least 30 hours a week with the recycle company and have the increased costs of childcare with the change of carers.
I will also have to work out the funds and change my tax credits claim as if income is going up then that will of course go down, as will my little but of council tax and rent benefit. Probably loose all of it now. Time will tell, but am conscious of times changing and income sources changing and the reduced money deadline for March of £120 and in May of another £40. So am well aware of the changes about to happen.
DS doesn't have Any income now what so ever. There is no way he isn't going to impact on the household, as he is going to need feeding, should be at home more as no work on the Friday, and that means he will not be able to go to the blacksmith on the Saturday, and no caught money at all! Which will be the biggest problem he will have! More time on his hands and nothing to do means it will take its toll on him. ( And me).
But what can I do but plod on, and keep pushing him.
My summer of stopping with BF and his family is over really, as going home today to go to work the next three days and then the holiday and when we come back school will have started and my new hours will start. I wonder if when I do go home it will give BF food for thought or if I have tried to fit in for nothing, so to speak. Going to be strange being at home after the last month. Oh well he can't say I haven't tried. Next move is his I suppose. Time to get up and have my shower before we leave.