Hoarding - A New Start

PudseyDB

blossomhill wrote: »

Just need to be sure they are comfy, they will be going through enough without needing to wear clothes that aren't "them" - I wore a red top to my Dad's because I could hear him saying he liked it (rare comment) and because he wouldn't have liked me spending money on something new "for him". In fact looking back ... I tend to have worn red to funerals of close ones

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Thinking of you Pudsey. I hope you find the perfect outfit for your girls that they feel really good in.
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Well, my girls are teenagers 17 and 14 so theyre always happy to buy new clothes and the dress my daughter bought she'll happily wear again if she needs to dress in black again for an even at college.

My 9 year old son will wearing his usual clothes though - dark jeans and tshirt.

blossomhill wrote: »

Ladder garden here - it's a variation on household clutter but for the garden!

(((hugs))) lir

How cool are those willow deer?! :T

Found the ladder and its a great idea - saves lots of space in the garden and looks nice too. Just wonder how much rain they get though as theyre partially covered by the step above.

Brighton_belle

sjprmc01 wrote: »

Don't think going in to work was an exceptionally good idea but it's done now and I am done in feel stuck on a roundabout I wanna jump off but can't and as in working so much I want to make the best (de cluttering wise) of the time I'm off which I don't so as I feel so darned ill. Sorted out some clothes and found a jacket I'd promised to someone but this was all stuff that was away tidy in the cupboard anyway didn get rid of much.

I echo the hugs to everyone who needs them although right now I need about a million but then I'd just cry that's the way I feel right now

OK, I am now going to have stern words with you sjprmc. You have to s.t.o.p. My life was recked by the belief I had to keep going how ever ill I felt, that I was indespensible and had to keep everyone/everything going. I kept going, got iller and iller and past the point of quick recovery. Nothing is worth it.
Your employers won't care if you are long term sick. They will replace you and forget you. As long as you can pay mortgage/rent and eat and keep warm, your kids can go without everything else for a while; better that than a long term sick mum. Go to bed. You DH will just have to step up if you don't cook dinner. He might feed the kids carp, but you have to s.t.o.p. By stopping you give everyone else in your life the chance to be creative in how they manage, may be not in the way you would like it done but too bad, you have to put your health first - it will be a growing experience for everyone else.
You were really annoyed with your DH for stopping. Now it is your turn. Stop being a hero - no one will thank you in the long run whn you are in bed for a year+ completely burnt out.
It's horrble feeling so rubbish and overwhelmed and desperate to stop so ((((hugs))).

On the declutter front - it was still worth getting rid of the clothes that were put away, because that means you have spare space now. Don't fill it. Allow yourself to have spare space

blossomhill wrote: »

Oh yes BB I even decorate from my bed too, I can't count how many times I have papered the cracks and painted the ceiling in the 15 years I've been here, but in reality - big 0

Good luck to everyone with their chipping

I think there can be value in imagining things - I find they can be a first step towards action...but not in every case obviously:D I have rebuilt the knocked down wall of our open plan 'dining room' as a stud wall on numerous occasion - I'm quite a good carpenter in my head.

Unexpected snow day today so lots of options on how I will spend the day. A mix of making stuff and perhaps a little more decluttering: I have a growing inclination towards clearing out old course paperwork from the attic and re organising all the diy stuff so it is in one easily accessible place up there - bit scattered to the 4 winds at present.

sjprmc01

BB thanks for the stern words I know you are right but I honestly only have a 6hr shift to get through tonight then I can recover instead of decorating eldests bedroom or anything else that was in the pipeline for being done!

I NEED the OT money, ok I probably don't need it ALL but we are having to pay back a huge tax credit over(sight) payment and, most probably stupidly, I decided it wasn't worth the bother claiming any longer so now my OT is covering what tax credit would have in the past. I was lucky that my boss didn't ban me from OT (if you don't show up for any you can be banned for a month) as I already missed out on 2 lots I had applied for at the weekend when I was off, ill (on top of my normal shift) I actually don't even know now, with all the changes, whether we would still qualify if my OT dried up but I'm not that stupid that I wouldn't reapply when necessary

And it's not the work I can't cope with its the travel, if I could do my job from home I'd be fine, lol!

Tbh, when I'm working granny feeds the kids their dinner and when I'm not its generally daddy anyway as I'm rubbish in the kitchen! It's all the other stuff, like he couldn't notice we were out of bread last night before the shops shut despite him finishing it and the kids get packed lunch every day so he knows we need it in for mornings the fact that he does things that he thinks are helping but its just worse (and I know that's not something I should grumble about, at least I have people who are willing to help)

I really don't do well at being ill I really don't do well at letting other people look after me and I really don't do well at delegating I'm too set in my ways in an almost OCD kinda way. I've curbed that a bit now in that I don't re-do things he/his mum when she is here have done unless its a 'reject' from the 'clean' dishes

I've pottered about this morn, ironed the girls vests and pjs and nothing more I'm currently sat with a blanket over me, resting till its time to leave for work

whitewing

Still working hard. Still shredding and sorting as I come across anything quick. Got rid of some out of date coupons today. Amazing how things just hang around.

katep23

Have done some job-hunting this morning (including 2 temp agencies as I reckon if I could get a couple of days a week temp work that would take the pressure off). Had lunch then decided to start painting.

It's one of those "where do I start" jobs in that one job will inevitably lead on to another and once I have started it will show up how bad the rest is :rotfl:

So I have sanded down all the chipped paintwork and started on the glosswork. As predicted, the bits I have painted look lovely and white and the rest of it looks yellow

Have finished for today as I know I need to pace myself. Tomorrow will started on the walls I sanded today then Thursday will be the other door frame in the hallway - that will be all the damaged stuff done then I can start on the bits which are just yellow!

Am having a break before tackling my book-shelves. I have decided to move all my cookery books (of which I have many and they are used frequently!) from the shelves in the kitchen into the dining room. Freeing up shelves in kitchen for things which are on worktops.

This means I need to de-hoard my bookshelves in the dining room - in all honesty I used to re-read favourite books regularly but since joining the library I rarely get time to so I think it is time to let (all of) them go but that's a bit scary so I might pick a couple of authors to keep and then see about getting rid of some of the others.

Hmmm, this might be a bit too much of a leap :eek:! But I have to thin down the shelves enough to move my cookery books.

Wish me luck :A

Brighton_belle

katep23 wrote: »

Hmmm, this might be a bit too much of a leap :eek:! But I have to thin down the shelves enough to move my cookery books.

Wish me luck :A

Good luck - even if you only achieve half of what you want to today, this will still be great progress. Books can be really hard to get rid of, but this is a great idea to create better space for your stuff n the kitchen and making it easier to clean and feel a relaxing space.

Ok sjp...just you keep working on those issues: got my eye on you

minimoneyme

Brighton belle, wise words, thank you. Something I think i should also take note of.
I'm at the stage where I'm praying for heavy snow tonight so a workshop I'm due to deliver tomorrow will be cancelled. Not a flake in the sky though I asked my employer not to schedule it for me and find someone else instead. But because they know i'll always fill in when needed and I don't complain and I just keep plodding on, they didn't look very hard for anyone else. Being out of the office means I'll fall behind with other work and it all starts pilling up.
I've also taken a bit of a bash to my confidence lately so I'm dreading doing the assembly and workshops. Even though once I get over the initial nerves i'll probably enjoy it. - still hoping for snow though!

De cluttering has halted, but at least we have a plan for the pile (over 100 :0) of books that are currently sitting sulking in the kitchen. It took a lot for us to actually agree to let go of these books so I know it is important to get them out of the house before we have regrets. So over Easter hols they will go to a charity book sale.
Good luck katep23 hoarding books is one of our "issues" so I sympathise with you.

I imagine de cluttering, decorating and rearranging in my head too! It's so frustrating when reality doesn't match the picture in my head. My imagination is a beautiful place!
Hope you will soon be feeling much better sjprmc01.
Wrap up warm everyone!

Brighton_belle

minimoneyme wrote: »

Brighton belle, wise words, thank you. Something I think i should also take note of.
I'm at the stage where I'm praying for heavy snow tonight so a workshop I'm due to deliver tomorrow will be cancelled. Not a flake in the sky though I asked my employer not to schedule it for me and find someone else instead. But because they know i'll always fill in when needed and I don't complain and I just keep plodding on, they didn't look very hard for anyone else. Being out of the office means I'll fall behind with other work and it all starts pilling up.

Good, very happy if anything I say helps someone else avoid long term health issues. Believe me, any wisdom I may have is from painful hard experience.
It's ok to say no, it's good to value your self. It's ok and normal to need to recharge your own batteries and the sort of dread you are talking of is your body shouting loud and clear at you that something needs sorting.
Two years down the line today, how important will it be whether you did that workshop or not? I suspect non, therefore it is not important enough to put your self through this stress to do it in the first place.
You never know, sayng no may mean opportunities opening up for someone else secretly gagging to get in to doing workshops! Or someone else being forced to do it and discovering they love it and it transforms their whole career plans: there's always a bigger picture. In that sense we are not that improtant.
I hope the workshop is sucessful today and it is the last one you dread.:)

guinea_pig_girl

sjprmc - aye, take it easy and give yourself a wee break. No need to be so hard on yourself and keep going, going going until you break.

Hugs to you, and everyone else who is struggling

It is a bit funny now, after reading this thread, to be looking at all objects in the flat and seeing them with potential to be disposed of, rather than as things that are fixtures and their prescence is never questioned. Got them shaking in their wee boots now, except don't want to personalise things and make them even harder to bin....

whitewing

All my paperwork has been dropped off at the accountant's. That's a good big pile out of the house.

The house is an absolute tip though - we've been really busy since the weekend so chores has been left, and DH has had to rush off to work.

I have to do some preparation for a meeting tomorrow, which is at my house, so now it is just a question of what to do first. I think perhaps I'll do a quick tidy up. The house is a bit chilly from us being out this morning so housework may warm me up before I sit down and work hard.

It is definitely a 'chipping away' kind of day. Righty-ho, off I go!