Hoarding - A New Start

This_Year

Catriona, so sorry to hear your news, I don't know if it was on the cards or out of the blue but my heart goes out to you. xx

This_Year

Today I've cleaned the kitchen so it's absolutely spick and span. We had an argument late last night as I asked a question, (something trivial occured to me) OH misconstrued my intent and took it the wrong way then it all went pearshaped We've talked it over today and we both where we're coming from but there's still an odd feeling in the air and my pet hate we went to bed not having made up

I always get a cleaning urge when we argue so it might not be a bad thing though!

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

blossomhill wrote: »

is this thread dying a death? It's usually on page 2 now and altho getting 10+ thanks per post, the postings are slowing down ... are we so buried under our piles we can't even find our PCs, I wonder?

Tough on hoarding ... tough on the causes of hoarding

I don't think so.

For a start, it's normal to have ebbs and flows in life - sometimes people are lacking in energy, sometimes they are full of it.

Some were rather busy dealing with difficult stuff away from the computer, some were making their homes nicer, some were actually out enjoying themselves because they aren't so held back by the things anymore.

Sometimes it can be easy to hide in the laptop rather than do anything, so it's an avoidance strategy or displacement at times.


Lots of different reasons. And a natural lull in proceedings isn't a reason to discard the thread (in favour of something new and exciting perhaps? A bit like a new ......... when the person already has five ............s, for example? )



Give it a little while and things will be coming back up in energy - Spring is nearly here, after all.


And I, for one, can hardly wait.







I've been out a fair bit in the last couple of days, one rocky/bluesy gig with friends, one folk one, one set of blood tests, etc. Plus I've been getting to grips with playing the new guitar, which reduces my online time significantly.


Oh, and I've applied for another job. :eek:

Granny28

All recent posts seem to resonate so strongly with me - although I want to hug everyone for pain they are going through or have been through - it helps that I am not alone in feeling the way I do. I have never been able to talk about the way I feel, but the wise replies to peoples' posts have helped me think about things and not just 'hoard' them.
I have filled 3 more bags for the cs from my hoard of too-small clothes and now I have just one skirt left! I now have to sort the ones that fit into the ones I like/think I look ok in and the ones I am hanging on to because they are serviceable and fit me. This morning I put a top on and wore it for an hour and then asked myself why I was wearing it as I didn't like the colour, the style or anything about it really. It's now by itself in the 4th bag I am going to fill this week.

Gingernutty

Hi everyone! :hello:

I've been lurking for a while, but keeping up with the thread.

It's not just material things that need decluttering, is it? There are a fair few emotional cupboards to sort through as well. Dodgy looking :grouphug: for everyone who needs one.

I've been decluttering, I've even decluttered my job......:o :eek: :dance:

Here's a tip. Don't get into an email flame war with your boss criticising her communication and management skills when you are on a fixed term contract. :doh:

It doesn't matter how big the backlog or how short staffed they are - if she doesn't like you then you're going to go regardless.

On the other hand - my leaving do choked me up. My office colleagues had gone around the hospital and got signatures from all the Wards I've worked in for my leaving card, one ward also gave me a present and a leaving card and at the leaving lunch in the local greasy spoon, I was given nearly £100 as well.

I had no idea that I was that liked.

I've been eating chocolate cake for breakfast for the past couple of days.

I've got two confirmed interviews next week (Tuesday and Wednesday) and, maybe, a third.

The invitation for the third interview came with nine documents/questionnaires and instructions including a form for someone who's known me well for one year to fill in. They've also got to sign the back of two passport photos.

That'll be the boss who fired me then. _pale_

I've got to get the photos done today and try to get them signed on tomorrow for the interview on Thursday.

Wish me luck.

tattycath

Gingernutty wrote: »

Hi everyone! :hello:

I've been lurking for a while, but keeping up with the thread.

It's not just material things that need decluttering, is it? There are a fair few emotional cupboards to sort through as well. Dodgy looking :grouphug: for everyone who needs one.

I've been decluttering, I've even decluttered my job......:o :eek: :dance:

Here's a tip. Don't get into an email flame war with your boss criticising her communication and management skills when you are on a fixed term contract. :doh:

It doesn't matter how big the backlog or how short staffed they are - if she doesn't like you then you're going to go regardless.

On the other hand - my leaving do choked me up. My office colleagues had gone around the hospital and got signatures from all the Wards I've worked in for my leaving card, one ward also gave me a present and a leaving card and at the leaving lunch in the local greasy spoon, I was given nearly £100 as well.

I had no idea that I was that liked.

I've been eating chocolate cake for breakfast for the past couple of days.

I've got two confirmed interviews next week (Tuesday and Wednesday) and, maybe, a third.

The invitation for the third interview came with nine documents/questionnaires and instructions including a form for someone who's known me well for one year to fill in. They've also got to sign the back of two passport photos.

That'll be the boss who fired me then. _pale_

I've got to get the photos done today and try to get them signed on tomorrow for the interview on Thursday.

Wish me luck.

Good luck hun xx

Gingernutty

tattycath wrote: »

Good luck hun xx

Thanks. I need it.

whitewing

Gingernutty, hugs to you.

I nearly decluttered my son this morning. He was just packing his bags when DH put his foot down with us both, he knew neither of us would back down.

DS has decluttered a load of paper etc from his room now, though.

Had some really good times lately and some bad bits. My father told me that I was a bad parent on Friday night. It's a complicated situation that I don't want to go into, but runs a similar theme to every issue we have - he wants to do whatever the hell he wants without any regard for anybody else. When he realises there are consequences to his actions, he gets very nasty and wounds people verbally which for most other female family members is enough to make them shut up and retreat. He was shocked though as I tackled him about it in front of someone else, which he never in a million years would have thought I would. This is the first time that I haven't felt overly suicidal after a verbal tussle with him, so I am making good progress.

Work is mostly looking up at the moment. Had to travel for work yesterday and had a great time, but was very tired last night and there is nothing worse than being tired for the silly doubts to start creeping in.

Money isn't. Still not really getting this as under control as I would like, despite our mortage payment dropping as we have come out of a fix. It stops us making some of the changes that would get the house looking and feeling a lot better. Never mind, our time will come, I hope.

Decluttering is getting done bit by bit. House is okay enough to have some work-associated people in. The thread helps. Sunny weather helps too. I think DH is going to go through his bin bag of paper today. I really need to go through my lockable cupboard.

This_Year

Good luck Gingernutty xx

You're getting there, Whitewing!

Byatt

VJsmum wrote: »

Catriona - missed your post last night; So sorry for your news. My sister is going through the same.

Byatt - my post wasn't to say that everyone should feel that. My mother's mistakes were not so severe as some I've read about on here. It was just my take on my upbringing. I adored my mum and would never be angry with her, but that doesn't mean I think she was perfect. I realise that it is a fortunate position for me to be in.

Oh I didn't think that, your post helped me more than you can know, which is very much appreciated. :A Thank you. x

Ginger, lots of luck for the interviews...:T

Whitewing, what can I say, I am so pleased for you, and so very happy your dad didn't decimate your soul, with his verbal attack. x