Hoarding - A New Start

Florenceem

whitewing wrote: »

Thanks Florenceem, I may try chocolate yoghurt - I hadn't thought of that.

The cakes are actually lovely.

I made peanut butter myself once and it was lovely.

Do you reckon I could make my own version of nutella with it?

Sorry can't help with that one.

This_Year

Sounds great progress LIR! I think I would save for the bookcases I wanted rather than get anything and then change them later.

Jojo you're right about the thread - I look for it now to catch up and it does inspire me to do something more than sit down and do nothing while complaining the house needed tidying.

We now have a clear dining room floor too, daren't think how many bags are in the CS corner, luckily BHF shoved a sack through the door and will hopefully collect that on Tuesday - if not, the Asda clothes bank will get lucky with most of it. I've tried freecycling magazines (like Woman&Home, Marie Claire) all recent ones (dam those subscriptions with more cashback than the subs cost ) but no-one seems interested. My GP surgery won't take or have any mags on grounds of potential infection :huh:, dentist are inundated with them and refused them - what to do? Loath to give them to a nursery school for cutting up as W&H have some picture ads at the back for very personal products May have to just bin the lot.

I just realised what I put.

May have to bin the lot. :eek: I've changed!

Oh and we found the xmas tree lights spare bulbs in the dollshouse. Would have been handy about 7 weeks ago lol

GreyQueen

:j Hooray, changed my chosen freecycler and the Item is gone to a good home where it will be used, instead of squatting on my premises not being used and taking up valuable space.

(((Catriona))) talk is cheap but wishing you well at this difficult time.

Good luck with your job interviews, gingernutty.

Well, my aspirational craft activity (candlemaking from re-purposed old candles) has provided entertainment. And even candles.

I've had the wax, all shredded and ready to go, for over a year. Probably two years. And bought the wicks in Dec. I guess I was scared of melting wax following an incident as a child where I tried to make candles by melting a whole load of wax crayons. They went into a chocolate-coloured stinking mass, stunk the house out and caused one of the rare incidents of being yelled at and called stupid by my lovely Mum.

So, successfully making candles after having them at the back of my mind as something I wanted to do has also laid a small ghost. Very small potatoes compared with the difficulties many others of you have, but an example of how you can aspire to do something and be scared to do it at the same time.

I think I have actually turned into my Dad, in one respect at least. As long as I can recall, you can ask him what he'd like for his birthday or for Christmas and get a baffled look and a I can't think of anything I want, dear.

I am becoming a female version of this, but a generation younger. Can't think of anything I want at present, which must mean that someone, somewhere, is tearing their hair out in Adland. On surveys, I come up as a "maverick consumer" as I don't fit into neat little boxes.

It's a relaxing place to be, I find.

JayneC

hello everyone

((Catriona)) Look after yourself and keep looking forward. I found when I split with my ex I went over and over old stuff and it didn't really help. I just felt exhausted!

Gingernutty -good luck with the interviews.

Lots of hugs to everyone, there's a lot of emotions to deal with.

I had a realisation at one point that most people worry about what others think, about being good enough and want to be liked. It made me realise that if everyone feels like that then I don't need to worry about it too much as if everyone else is worrying then they're probably not waiting for me to 'trip-up' or the like and if I'm reasonably nice to them they'll probably just be relieved and if people are not nice it's because of them and their shortcomings, not because I'm not good enough, Not sure if that makes any sense?

I had a lot of negative feelings about my mum for a long time as I felt she let me down when I needed her, but I realised that she has her own issues and difficulties to deal with and we now have a much better relationship, ironically after I moved to the other side of the country... I also realised that I was so determined not to turn into my mum that I became my dad without noticing:p

On a positive note I Freegled more stuff and have sold quite a few bits on ebay. Also booked a table at the tabletop sale, though have to confess to making some purchases whilst there... Only a bag for work (which I'd decided I did need), 2 pairs or trousers and a black top (which I've also been looking for). So I forgive myself.

Got round to scrubbing the bathroom sink and bidet. Have also cleaned the tiles (half way up all the walls all round the room), so doing ok.

Take care all x

blossomhill_2

I went to buy a present for an old friend today

We've been friends since ... well over 40 years and she is an absolute gem
I usually buy her a main thing then 2 or 3 other things because I don't think the main is adequate
Her house is complete, she doesn't need things
We've had decades of exchanging gifts so have covered most things
She has loads of friends so always has loads of books, planted baskets, toiletries which I think mainly get cs'd

So I bought her one single, beautiful, perfect flower stem

Just one

I think my changed thinking has allowed me to do this - of course it is "good enough", it is just what I want to give her, along with a lovely card - there isn't a set value for birthdays and this sums up our friendship perfectly

GreyQueen

JayneC, as a very shy and sensitive child, I suffered torments of self-consciousness and was convinced that everyone else was better than I was in any category you could name.

Then I got a few more years under my belt and discovered that being scared of being unpopular/ left out/ un-cool/ whatever is the universal human condition.

I found people who appeared from the outside to have had very privileged and fortunate lives would bewail their continuing bad luck, the attractive would focus on a tiny little physical imperfection which no one else would ever notice, the clever would sniffle about getting the A grade when they wanted the A* and so on, ad infinitum.

It was helpful to understand the concept of the "spotlight effect" whereby the self-conscious think they're being watched and judged all the time. Very few people are even noticing what we do, never mind judging us on it.

Getting older is marvellously-liberating in this respect as you come into your own character and get to the point where you know that you can be your own person and if others don't like it, well, it's not the end of the world.

lostinrates

whitewing wrote: »

I agree with saving up for bookcases that are both beautiful and functional. (Can't suggest what you should so in the meantime though, unless you want to post a photo).
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It's too dark to get pictures for you, I tried and they are all grainy.

So I will do tomorrow.

We cannot find the rug, but did find a plastic shelving unit for some of the boxes. (:j).

The two arm chairs are very big and dark in the room, and don't look very stylish, but they are very comfortable and here.

whitewing

I made one of my most sensible decisions today.

DH got his bin bag of paperwork out to sort through in the dining room. I was thinking what shall I do while he's doing that? I decided that I would actually plan to do nothing specific. This meant that when DD threw up all over her clothes and chair, I could deal with the change and the cuddle and the washing.

It also meant when we found a whole lot of paperwork relating to grandparents' funerals, and finance issues from years ago, and other very intensive situations we found ourselves in, I could go ahead and shred it all, while he carried on sorting through. All these issues are resolved now but it was a horrendous few years where we more or less went through the whole list of top ten most stressful life events.

So we were finished in time to sit and eat and watch Call the Midwife. DD has a raging temperature. I'm very tired from travelling yesterday. But the house is reasonably tidy, stuff is ready to go out tomorrow and I'm ready to face a new week.

Catriona, how are you actually feeling now?

katep23

Hi all,

Firstly Catriona (((hugs))), take care of yourself at this tough time.

Whitewing, you always seem so centred, sorry to hear of your relationship issues with your dad but it sounds like you are learning to deal with them.

Ginger, you sound very up-beat, good luck for the interviews.

Byatt, hope you are well and looking after yourself :A

Have not done much at all, if anything have brought more in that has gone out

I am bad that when I feel low I go into hibernation instead of posting on here for help.

OH has just bought another car (that makes 5 between 2 of us :rotfl:) He is worse than me! To be fairm it is for a banger rally do hopefully not a permanent fixture (she says with fingers crossed).

Less than 2 weeks at work until I finish then I have a couple of weeks to try to sort this place out - we rent but since we will be here for another couple of years have decided to do the place up at a bit, even if it just a couple of coats of magnolia to freshen the place up.

Emotional buying struck yesterday, OH and I had a big row on Friday night and yesterday I was off with a vengeance, luckily couldn't get into town but hit a few shops. Only bought store cupboard stuff, dread to think what I would have come home with from town :rotfl::rotfl:

Patchwork_Quilt

This Year if it is any help, you could ask if any of your neighbours would like your magazines. I take mine to work and leave a carrier full in a neighbour's porch from time to time. Is this catflapping? You could ask at the library too. To cut down on the subscription costs, you could find a friend with similar tastes and get one magazine each, then swap.