Am I right to be annoyed.

poet123

ecgirl07 wrote: »

You singled handed turned this thread and opened the doors for the multi-thousand posters to jump in with their "i agree its a troll" nonsense. All you and your clique are going to do is create a closed forum where the only people posting are yourselves.

On this thread it was posters who advised contacting social services - you all love a bit of drama then call troll. Threads are getting ridiculously predictable:

My husband didnt take his turn doing the dishes - within 15 posts he is an abusive guy and the poster is advised to leave.

This forum is becoming a live time salacious gossip/problem column but in the middle of it good advice is given out.

The problem is in finding the balance between new posters with problems and troll hunting and maybe the only way forward is ignore the thread if you think it is a troll.

I just shut off when this is mentioned. It is such a cop out and akin to calling someone a troll when the reality is that they disagree with you. Most of the long time posters, probably most posters actually, say it as they see it, why would they not?

**Patty**

I don't think it's newbies.

Experience, particularly of ebay forums:rotfl:, has taught me that some people find it to their amusement to have 10-20 IDs on the go at once. Wasn't unknown for them to have a complete 3-4 page thread where they appeared to *talk to each other*

Folk are funny.


I tend to work by: Don't post anything you wouldn't say to someone's face.

ecgirl07

poet123 wrote: »

I just shut off when this is mentioned. It is such a cop out and akin to calling someone a troll when the reality is that they disagree with you. Most of the long time posters, probably most posters actually, say it as they see it, why would they not?

because the pattern is one of the multi thousand posters say it then the other all jump in in a "i thought so too" "i mean that single fact just cant be true" and start disecting the life of poster based on 300 words picking holes in everything. Look at the pattern in the thanks - the same wee group all thank each other regardless of whats posted.

End of the day most people log in here for a wee read of interesting threads about other peoples lives, to pretend that everyone on this board is here for altruistic reasons is a nonsense. Que a load of replies of people posting how worthy they really are and how upset they are posting replies and wasting time replying to "trolls".

poet123

ecgirl07 wrote: »

because the pattern is one of the multi thousand posters say it then the other all jump in in a "i thought so too" "i mean that single fact just cant be true" and start disecting the life of poster based on 300 words picking holes in everything. Look at the pattern in the thanks - the same wee group all thank each other regardless of whats posted.

End of the day most people log in here for a wee read of interesting threads about other peoples lives, to pretend that everyone on this board is here for altruistic reasons is a nonsense. Que a load of replies of people posting how worthy they really are and how upset they are posting replies and wasting time replying to "trolls".

And it couldn't be that other posters have been reading and not posting, and then when one poster comes out and says what they have been thinking they thank that post? That is how a forum works. But then you seem to be analysing thanks and attributing reasons for them.

Whether anyone is here for altruistic reasons or not (and I tend to agree with your assessment) surely no one wants to waste time responding to made up posts? That is not being "worthy" it is being pragmatic.

balletshoes

ecgirl07 wrote: »

This forum is becoming a live time salacious gossip/problem column but in the middle of it good advice is given out.

this forum, and most public forums I've seen on the internet, has always been like this - its the nature of the beast.

balletshoes

ecgirl07 wrote: »

because the pattern is one of the multi thousand posters say it then the other all jump in in a "i thought so too" "i mean that single fact just cant be true" and start disecting the life of poster based on 300 words picking holes in everything. Look at the pattern in the thanks - the same wee group all thank each other regardless of whats posted.

End of the day most people log in here for a wee read of interesting threads about other peoples lives, to pretend that everyone on this board is here for altruistic reasons is a nonsense. Que a load of replies of people posting how worthy they really are and how upset they are posting replies and wasting time replying to "trolls".

but on this thread, the vast majority of the posters were being supportive, and even when one person thought it might be a troll thread, only 2 or 3 people, of the "multi thousand posters" replied in agreement with them.

If we don't like what people post on a public forum, we have options, including ignoring their posts. But its a public forum, and that means there will be differences of opinion - its not a "whatever I say agree with me please because I need a little pat on the head" forum, and it never has been as far as I'm aware.

Nicki

skintchick wrote: »

I think that there is less tolerance generally, that vulnerable people get jumped on too quickly by a number of posters, and also that there is just less acceptance generally.

possibly it is a minority of people being unpleasant or sceptical, but they seem to be very vocal at the moment so there is an overall air of "be careful what you post and what you say".

Even people being helpful to others are getting jumped on (as seen a bit in this thread) and it's that kind of thing I'm referring to really.

And yet you recently did just that on two threads? The one before Christmas when you vehemently and repeatedly accused parents of lying to their children and causing trust issues long term by pretending there was a Santa, and again a few days ago when you posted on a thread in response to other posters that giving a child a short time out was "withdrawing love" from them.

lostinrates

poet123 wrote: »

And it couldn't be that other posters have been reading and not posting, and then when one poster comes out and says what they have been thinking they thank that post? That is how a forum works. But then you seem to be analysing thanks and attributing reasons for them.

Whether anyone is here for altruistic reasons or not (and I tend to agree with your assessment) surely no one wants to waste time responding to made up posts? That is not being "worthy" it is being pragmatic.

I exact
Y chose to read and not post on this thread until I saw this and thought....yeah, that's sort of what I am doing.

However, I decided some time ago not to shout troll on this board ever. It does seem to happen 'quite often' but one never knows if it's the case or not. When I do respond I do my best to post positively and openmindedly in the aim of helpI someone whose situation or personality I cannot imagine or empathise with because there is good chance it is real and I am naive I think.

Otherwise...I just don't post on them.

If people do post and feel cheated if the post is removed or whatever then I suggest that they too do not have the right approach to using a forum. You have to hope everyone is the real deal while maintaining the perspective that they might not be. I have worried about posters, and long term ones I continue to think about their travails , but its a lesson to learn, to know all one can do is try to help open,I deadly but with...'retaraint' if not something as hard as skeptism. It has taken me a long while to relaise this and I am sure I will fail in the future...but....it doesn't really matter too much.

parsnipnose

Boots888 wrote: »

I'm in agreement with you. Certain posts end up becoming very nasty. It's Pitiful!

You are deluded - the nasty vile posts you make.. don't make me laugh

Mrs_Huggett

Seems like it's gone and happened again, you are all arguing amongst yourselves and there is a possibility that a young woman who was in need of guidance and support has now got to face stress, upset and sadness all alone, if she was a troll then hey ho, but if she wasn't, shame on you all.