Am I right to be annoyed.

mountainofdebt

Yorkie1 wrote: »

I've been a member on MSE for some time now, and generally it seems increasingly intolerant on all boards.

But the other side of that coin is that there have been some threads (and I can think of 2 on this particular board) produced a massive response and then died a sudden death ....abit like a book where you felt the author went oh well written my 300 pages better end it now regardless of how daft the ending is.

I very rarely start a thread but when I did recently I appreciated the responses that I got - even if I thought that they didn't quite understand where I was coming from. However in my case I kept my replies polite and alot of originators don't .....they get nasty themselves especially when they don't get the responses they thought they were going to get or deserve. (that goes for people who post on threads as well and again a particular poster springs to mind).

Mind you some of the threads on here has made me wonder whether the scriptwriters of corrie / eastenders are trying out plots!

bestpud

mountainofdebt wrote: »

But the other side of that coin is that there have been some threads (and I can think of 2 on this particular board) produced a massive response and then died a sudden death ....abit like a book where you felt the author went oh well written my 300 pages better end it now regardless of how daft the ending is.

I very rarely start a thread but when I did recently I appreciated the responses that I got - even if I thought that they didn't quite understand where I was coming from. However in my case I kept my replies polite and alot of originators don't .....they get nasty themselves especially when they don't get the responses they thought they were going to get or deserve. (that goes for people who post on threads as well and again a particular poster springs to mind).

Mind you some of the threads on here has made me wonder whether the scriptwriters of corrie / eastenders are trying out plots!

I agree.

We all have the potential to be defensive but some are definitely worse than others and seem to think MSE is a little club of like minded people. Of course it isn't anything like that - there is a massive variety of people and posting styles on here.

bestpud

skintchick wrote: »

I have noticed this too. I took a break from MSE last year because of personal issues and since coming back I have noticed a definite change in how people are spoken to on here. Maybe it's because it is so much bigger than it used to be, but it's definitely not a particularly nice place to be any more. Mostly I just lurk and only post on TTC and the miscarriage threads these days but I think that by the end of this year I'll have stopped using MSE completely. It's just not a safe place to ask or discuss anything any more, for some reason. Maybe there's been loads of trolling that's made people suspicious and a bit more aggressive than they used to be, I don't know, but it is very different to how it was before.

People have been saying that for as long as I can remember.

If it really was sliding that badly, MSE would not be here any more.

I think the way we view MSE or any other forum has a lot to do with how we are feeling at any one time.

skintchick

bestpud wrote: »

People have been saying that for as long as I can remember.

If it really was sliding that badly, MSE would not be here any more.

I think the way we view MSE or any other forum has a lot to do with how we are feeling at any one time.

Doesn't make it any less true.

And your second statement isn't necessarily true. People can put up with a lot of crap in relationships, and forums are no different. Plus, people who like aggro may be attracted here in the same or more numbers as those who leave.

The third thing you say is true, but I don;t think especially relevant.

poet123

skintchick wrote: »

I have noticed this too. I took a break from MSE last year because of personal issues and since coming back I have noticed a definite change in how people are spoken to on here. Maybe it's because it is so much bigger than it used to be, but it's definitely not a particularly nice place to be any more. Mostly I just lurk and only post on TTC and the miscarriage threads these days but I think that by the end of this year I'll have stopped using MSE completely. It's just not a safe place to ask or discuss anything any more, for some reason. Maybe there's been loads of trolling that's made people suspicious and a bit more aggressive than they used to be, I don't know, but it is very different to how it was before.

I am not sure where you are coming from with this; by safe do you mean that everyone will be nice regardless of what you post and whether they believe it to be true? Or that those who are vulnerable can post without being ridiculed?

I think that the few ( but still too many) have spoiled it for the majority. I think those few deserve to be questioned and shown that they are not pulling the wool....it does not have to be done rudely.

skintchick

poet123 wrote: »

I am not sure where you are coming from with this; by safe do you mean that everyone will be nice regardless of what you post and whether they believe it to be true? Or that those who are vulnerable can post without being ridiculed?

I think that the few ( but still too many) have spoiled it for the majority. I think those few deserve to be questioned and shown that they are not pulling the wool....it does not have to be done rudely.

I think that there is less tolerance generally, that vulnerable people get jumped on too quickly by a number of posters, and also that there is just less acceptance generally.

possibly it is a minority of people being unpleasant or sceptical, but they seem to be very vocal at the moment so there is an overall air of "be careful what you post and what you say".

Even people being helpful to others are getting jumped on (as seen a bit in this thread) and it's that kind of thing I'm referring to really.

Own_My_Own

skintchick wrote: »

I think that there is less tolerance generally, that vulnerable people get jumped on too quickly by a number of posters, and also that there is just less acceptance generally.

possibly it is a minority of people being unpleasant or sceptical, but they seem to be very vocal at the moment so there is an overall air of "be careful what you post and what you say".

Even people being helpful to others are getting jumped on (as seen a bit in this thread) and it's that kind of thing I'm referring to really.

Totally agree.
I can't remember what thread it was on, but one poster got a bashing simply for thanking another post.

poet123

Own_My_Own wrote: »

Totally agree.
I can't remember what thread it was on, but one poster got a bashing simply for thanking another post.

I have seen that several times, but to me it just shows that whoever does that is not suited to a forum.

gregg1

poet123 wrote: »

I have seen that several times, but to me it just shows that whoever does that is not suited to a forum.

Don't know whether anyone else feels the same but I personally have noticed a far higher number of newbies on here lately who immediately go on the attack and generally give the impression that they are more likely to be posters who have been PPR'd previously.

Just my observation.

ecgirl07

bestpud wrote: »

People have been saying that for as long as I can remember.

If it really was sliding that badly, MSE would not be here any more.

I think the way we view MSE or any other forum has a lot to do with how we are feeling at any one time.

You singled handed turned this thread and opened the doors for the multi-thousand posters to jump in with their "i agree its a troll" nonsense. All you and your clique are going to do is create a closed forum where the only people posting are yourselves.

On this thread it was posters who advised contacting social services - you all love a bit of drama then call troll. Threads are getting ridiculously predictable:

My husband didnt take his turn doing the dishes - within 15 posts he is an abusive guy and the poster is advised to leave.

This forum is becoming a live time salacious gossip/problem column but in the middle of it good advice is given out.

The problem is in finding the balance between new posters with problems and troll hunting and maybe the only way forward is ignore the thread if you think it is a troll.