Am I right to be annoyed.

Hazel_

I am serious, Do you want the police log numbers so you can call them and check?

They have a landline, they call my mobile.

Tiglath

I think it's a genuine situation, obviously been brewing for a while with the sister's behaviour.

Yorkie1

OK, how about this for a plan or structure to think about? There are 3 elements: keeping your number, blocking hers, and the police warning.

As you say that our nieces need to be able to continue to contact you (and I don't disagree with your assessment), there's little point in changing your mobile number because you'll have to give it to them. This makes it highly likely that their mum - your eldest sister - will get hold of it.

It simply causes hassle to you because you have to tell everyone else of your new number too, with no way of stopping your sister.

You can ask Orange to block your sister's number if she is texting you from a mobile phone. That would have the advantage of you not receiving the texts / abuse. But it would mean that you do not know what she is thinking or planning. You'd need to assess which is the lesser of the two options for your peace of mind.

Your sister could still ring you on the landline, but you can just hang up straightaway. You can't prevent that without cutting off your nieces too.

I suspect that your sister made those threats in the heat of anger. I suspect too that she may have calmed down now and be less likely to carry anything through. People often talk 'big' and rarely carry out their threats. Only you are in a position to assess whether, realistically, this is the case with your sister.

The way that the police work with harassment cases, generally, is to give the alleged offender a warning after the first set of conduct - i.e. what they've referred to as the intial set of texts. This puts the person on notice that if they re-commence the conduct, they will be arrested for committing the offence of harassment. It isn't a legal requirement for the warning to come first - so if there's no warning and the conduct restarts, it isn't fatal to a prosecution - but it helps to disprove the defence that the person didn't realise that the conduct was harassing, threatening etc.

It's up to you whether you therefore ask the police to visit your sister to give her the harassment warning. We can't predict whether it is likely to escalate the situation again, or whether it will just make her realise exactly the mess she is potentially in if she doesn't start behaving.

bestpud

Hazel_ wrote: »

I am serious, Do you want the police log numbers so you can call them and check?

They have a landline, they call my mobile.

It's that kind of post (overly dramatic and a bit childlike really) that is making me suspicious.

More so given you have 3 fairly lengthy hand wringing threads under your belt and you haven't been a member for long.

Just my thoughts obviously.

Yorkie1

Bestpud, you're of course entitled to your view. This is an open forum and anyone can post.

However, some of us choose to give posters the benefit of the doubt. Please don't allow this thread to be derailed.

Mojisola

Yorkie1 wrote: »

Bestpud, you're of course entitled to your view. This is an open forum and anyone can post.

However, some of us choose to give posters the benefit of the doubt. Please don't allow this thread to be derailed.

Agreed. If you don't believe the OP, don't continue to read the thread.

The OP doesn't have to prove anything or justify herself to anyone else.

bestpud

Mojisola wrote: »

Agreed. If you don't believe the OP, don't continue to read the thread.

The OP doesn't have to prove anything or justify herself to anyone else.

One person can't derail a thread and I have as much right to give my opinion as anyone else.

My other thought is the OP should change her username if she is telling the truth but there you go.

Anything else you want to add, or have you finished going off topic?

Boots888

Hazel_ wrote: »

I've been thinking, Maybe someone can correct me if I'm thinking wrong. If I get a new number and pass it on to my younger sister, Surely she might pass it on to my eldest sister. even if I ask her not to.

If I was to give a number to my younger sister. I was going to get a new phone and just get a sim for my old one, and give her the spare sim number if that sounds ok?

I think you're now regreting reporting her. I agree that you should be angry with your sister, it was out of order for her to take you for granted like that and dump her kids on you.

I thinks you should trust your instincts in that what you did was the right thing to do though you've, potentially, opened a can of worms.

We've all done things in anger and maybe SS will see it as one of those family moments, but it's clear that only a 3rd party can make that judgement.

You need to stand up to what you have done and be strong in your convictions. If you waver on this, your sister will always use it against you but if you stick to your convictions, in the long run she should respect you for it.

Good Luck

gregg1

bestpud wrote: »

It's that kind of post (overly dramatic and a bit childlike really) that is making me suspicious.

More so given you have 3 fairly lengthy hand wringing threads under your belt and you haven't been a member for long.

Just my thoughts obviously.

I agree with you. The OP has only been on here a short while and has already been pretty inflammatory on some of her other posts so attention seeker is exactly what I am thinking as well (and I am always ready to give newbies a fair go, this one pushes her luck though!)

Yorkie1

Perhaps this poster just thought that this place was a helpful place to turn for these type of issues?

Increasingly, it appears not. Someone always comes out of the woodwork sooner or later to doubt threads these days. And someone else then takes it further off topic by agreeing (as has already happened on this thread).

If this thread helps the OP, I'm pleased.

If it helps others in a similar position, I'm pleased.

If it causes you to be suspicious, I frankly don't care. This is a forum for helping people.