If your husband had exchanged 62 texts with another woman...

Welshwoofs

poorlittlefish wrote: »

Yes, he's a security guard but he's not from the UK, which is why his employment options were limited. I do feel like I was coerced; I give in far too easily and end up paying the price. Ho hum.

Sounds to me as though he simply wanted into the country and you were a marriage of convenience. Presumably with all the church going he's from some African country?

As for your pre-nup - they not actually legally binding in the UK, however things seem to be moving that way:
http://www.wrighthassall.co.uk/blog/2012/11/20/are-prenups-legally-binding/

MrsTinks

Welshwoofs wrote: »

Sounds to me as though he simply wanted into the country and you were a marriage of convenience. Presumably with all the church going he's from some African country?

Or Russia? so many forget that Catholicism is actually very big in at least some parts of Russia... Or even South American countries...

balletshoes

The OP's husband is Romanian.

skintchick

If he is African it is entirely possible that he is at church for hours. They often do spend all day at church. Doesn't explain the texts though.

MrsTinks

balletshoes wrote: »

The OP's husband is Romanian.

I was close then

Mrs.W_2

If you cannot see your relationship ever taking off, then divorce him. I've heard that the shorter the marriage term, the easier it is to divide assets. That in short term marriages it is possible for both parties to leave the union with whatever they brought to the marriage.

I'm sure there are knowledgeable bods around who'll confirm/deny that.

Wishing you a better 2013!

busiscoming2

I'd say he was guilty. Divorce him and move on.

If there is ever a next time, think hard before saying yes!

Mojisola

Mrs.W wrote: »

If you cannot see your relationship ever taking off, then divorce him. I've heard that the shorter the marriage term, the easier it is to divide assets. That in short term marriages it is possible for both parties to leave the union with whatever they brought to the marriage.

Definitely. The sooner you act, the better.

poorlittlefish

Pollycat wrote: »

If you are not living together - and are happy with that arrangement - why is it bothering you about these 62 texts, 3 long phone calls and a church visit that lasted 8 hours?
Have you decided to move on but don't want him to?

We've been living separately but still speak on the phone and he's been up for long weekends etc, when work permits. He still claims undying love for me so it's the deception I dislike so much, particularly when we've had umpteen conversations where I've stressed the importance of trust and honesty. I've always been honest about my feelings and completely faithful. He turned up out of the blue a few weeks back, just to see for himself that I was living alone and there wasn't a man hiding in the wardrobe etc. That made me wonder whether those were the actions of a man with a guilty conscience and I now believe I was on the right lines.

inmypocketnottheirs

busiscoming2 wrote: »

I'd say he was guilty. Divorce him and move on.

Judge, jury and executioner then!!!!