If your husband had exchanged 62 texts with another woman...

Lilith1980

If you are certain you want to go ahead with a divorce then you can normally get a half-hour free session to discuss your options.

I used an online service and it was fine - however, BOTH parties have to agree to the divorce for it to go through, and they have to agree to the conditions of the divorce (e.g. adultery etc).

My divorce was 'smooth' in that we hadn't been married long enough to acquire any assets and there was no pension-sharing orders needed. I did, however, have a 'clean break' clause drawn up as I didn't trust him not to make any claims if I came into any money. Not sure how long you have been married but if you go to an online service then they may be able to talk you through any concerns you have.

poorlittlefish

We'll have been married for 2 years on 7 January. It's been one thing after another and I never wanted to get married in the first place, but I'll try to see a solicitor before deciding on the next step. He says he loves me, but his actions often suggest otherwise.

Lilith1980

My ex and I were only married 18 months. I don't regret it as I learnt a lot about what I DON'T want in a relationship. It was painful but I am much better off now and much happier.

Only you can make the decision, I'm sorry to hear what has happened to you.

go_cat

poorlittlefish wrote: »

. He says he loves me.

he has a funny way of showing it....:eek:

Out of interest why did you not want to get married OP?

Tupperware_Queen

If you both agree to the divorce you can do it yourself, you don't need to use online services or solicitors, you download the relevant forms from the directgov website.

poorlittlefish

go_cat wrote: »

Out of interest why did you not want to get married OP?

Because I never felt we got on well enough. Unfortunately he was having problems with employment that marriage would solve. We had some massive rows about it and I ended up agreeing, basically because at the time I wasn't intending on splitting up from him and we were in a relationship anyway, so weren't doing anything illegal by marrying (ie it wasn't like a sham marriage).

philb120

Thinking of you OP, there's a lot of us going through divorce and separation at the moment x x

Welshwoofs

poorlittlefish wrote: »

We'll have been married for 2 years on 7 January. It's been one thing after another and I never wanted to get married in the first place, but I'll try to see a solicitor before deciding on the next step. He says he loves me, but his actions often suggest otherwise.

Out of interest - why did you marry him if you didn't want to?

Yorkie1

Welshwoofs wrote: »

Out of interest - why did you marry him if you didn't want to?

See post #17

dktreesea

People sometimes do stay friends with their ex partners. Just because they have split up and moved onto other people doesn't mean they can't be friends, especially if they move in the same circles.

I have friends who have always stayed alone, even though they have partners, some of them of long standing, and one of the main reasons the three of them gave me (one guy, two women) was they don't want to have to feel or be accountable to someone else when they want to see their friends as opposed to their partners.

Personally I would hate to live alone. Having to climb a ladder to do things the other half can reach, to do all the cooking, all the dishes, all of the "Please Mum, can you just take me to...." trips, would drive me mad. Plus the bed would always be freezing at night :-) But we tend not to mix our friends. He has male and female friends and so do I.