If your husband had exchanged 62 texts with another woman...

pleasedelete

62 texts on 1 day or overtime?

miduck

Have you asked him why he lied about seeing her? I do think it sounds suspicious, but I wouldn't make any decisions before speaking to him. Granted he may lie to you, but I'm sure you'll see through him if he does?

Welshwoofs

Yorkie1 wrote: »

See post #17

Ahh eek. So basically she was coerced into marriage. Not a good starting position.

What job do you need to be married to do? I don't think even MPs these days feel they need to be married.

74jax

Welshwoofs wrote: »

Ahh eek. So basically she was coerced into marriage. Not a good starting position.

What job do you need to be married to do? I don't think even MPs these days feel they need to be married.

From previous posts it looks like a security guard???

marisco_2

Personally I think you are making the right decision in divorcing him. There is staying amicable with an ex and maybe even in contact, on a friendly basis with full knowledge of your current partner. Then there is texting and talking to them behind a partners back, deleting their messages and lying about going to church for 8 hours!

It sounds like this isn't the first time he has lied to you or given you reason not to trust him. Do yourself a massive favour and make sure it is the last time though.

Sorry I cant answer your question about online services. Try to keep things as amicable as possible as this will make parting, if that is what you are sure you want, a much smoother experience.

poorlittlefish

Yes, he's a security guard but he's not from the UK, which is why his employment options were limited. I do feel like I was coerced; I give in far too easily and end up paying the price. Ho hum.

Northern_Princess

It must be the season for finding out husbands have been texting other women. My poor sister discovered something similar today. Needless to say BIL is now at an unknown location after having his bags packed by sister this morning

I will say to you OP as I said to her. Marriage is not entered into lightly in my book, vows are said and promises made. BUT if those
promises or vows are broken then so is the marriage in my view. This is only my opinion on what I would do though.

DannyBo

Castrate the c@&! !

No need to thank me

bestpud

Are you still living separately?

Pollycat

poorlittlefish wrote: »

I have decided to divorce him. Has anyone tried one of the online services?

You mentioned in another thread about a consent order and pre-nup & post-nup agreements (are these even valid in the UK?).

I would not consider using an online divorce company unless things (especially financially) were very very simple.

I agree with this below - you are already getting comments about his behaviour which - if you are 100% sure that you want a divorce - is just muddying the waters.

74jax wrote: »

If this last part is your question, I would maybe delete the stuff before it, just because if you leave it on, people are more likely to quote and answer on that, rather than your online divorce question (if you see what I mean).

I would go for a free 30 minute advice session with a local solicitor to see where you stand.

The above advice is based purely on what you say in this thread.

However, the post below (dated 22/12/2012) seems to contradict what you have said:

poorlittlefish wrote: »

I reluctantly married my husband just short of two years ago. I didn't want to get married but at the time I wasn't planning on splitting up from him and being married would have helped his employment situation (complicated, but nothing unlawful), so I agreed. I had both pre- and post-nuptial agreements drawn up and signed by us both.

I decided I wanted to live in another part of the country and when I sold my house at the end of last year, we moved into a relative's place while I looked for a job in the part of the country where the new house is. In May I secured employment and moved alone. Since then, we have led separate lives (and we have never had joint accounts etc). I am much happier without him and now want to get divorced. He claims he still loves me but says he won't stand in my way or try to claim anything from me.

What concerns me is the consent order, which I presume I'll need to protect what I've worked so hard for. I obviously have the house, I've always been very careful to build savings and I have a pension pot from my previous job. Before I moved, he (very reluctantly) contributed towards the general joint household expenses (bills), but now we live apart, we sort them out separately. I deliberately paid for everything to do with the house sale/move.

He came into this relationship with no property, car or savings and very little in the way of possessions. Other than paying towards bills for utilities he's jointly used, he's not contributed anything financially throughout the relationship. Even though we may well agree in a consent order that we make no claim on each other and basically leave with what we came in with, could a judge disagree with what we've agreed between ourselves and force me to sell the house or give him money, to compensate for him not ever having saved any?

If you are not living together - and are happy with that arrangement - why is it bothering you about these 62 texts, 3 long phone calls and a church visit that lasted 8 hours?
Have you decided to move on but don't want him to?