If your husband had exchanged 62 texts with another woman...

Mojisola

poorlittlefish wrote: »

He still claims undying love for me so it's the deception I dislike so much, particularly when we've had umpteen conversations where I've stressed the importance of trust and honesty.

Words are very cheap. Judge him on his actions.

scooby088

OP from what I have read you didn't want marriage, and you don't mention love from yourself, that you have been living seperate lives since marriage, for the life of my why has this lasted two years????

OP you need to forget what he says and move on, anyone can say i love you, but meaning it is another kettle of fish.

poorlittlefish

Mojisola wrote: »

Words are very cheap. Judge him on his actions.

I found out later this afternoon that not only had my husband been texting, ringing and "going to church" with this ex-girlfriend, but they'd been making arrangements to go out for a meal together too. He may have deleted all his messages, but the contact history showed the first few words of each text and the evidence was all there in black and white. Had he left the house when I told him to yesterday I wouldn't have known this final part.

I'VE KICKED HIM OUT OF THE HOUSE NOW AND I'M SO RELIEVED!!! I WISH I'D DONE IT A LONG TIME AGO!!!

FBaby

Did you tell him that you are much happier without him and wanted a divorce? If not isn't deception too?

poorlittlefish

I told him I wanted a divorce, of course! I've told him both those things until I'm blue in the face!

sharnad

See a solicitor start divorce proceedings

Charliezoo

I would steer clear of online divorce services - the divorce needs to be very straightforward for them to work well. I know a couple that had quite an amicable divorce and divorced online but for anything remotely complex or with potential problems I would advice you see a solicitor.

I'm sorry you're going through this, try and keep a level head and start proceedings soon if you can.

benjus

What exactly do these online services offer? If it's a simple, amicable case with no complexities, why not just get the forms yourself and submit them to the court?

If it's not a simple case then you really need proper advice from a solicitor.

poorlittlefish

Yes, I've already found the forms and filled them in. He is coming tomorrow to collect the rest of his things so hopefully he can agree to us each leaving the marriage with what we came into it with.

Pollycat

poorlittlefish wrote: »

Yes, I've already found the forms and filled them in. He is coming tomorrow to collect the rest of his things so hopefully he can agree to us each leaving the marriage with what we came into it with.

So you're doing an on-line divorce despite the potential financial complications there may be that you mentioned in another thread?

Despite advice to the contrary from a number of posters?

Pollycat wrote: »

You mentioned in another thread about a consent order and pre-nup & post-nup agreements (are these even valid in the UK?).

I would not consider using an online divorce company unless things (especially financially) were very very simple.

Good luck with that. :cool: