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WelshWoofer

Wahini Betty (fab name!) - welcome!!!
Seize the day and all that!

Well, it appears the swimming pool is shut or no-one's answering the phone anyway so rather than be deterred I've just got back from a 5k run:jActually still feel ok so may do some other form of exercise later too.
Been to the greengrocers and bought 2 carriers full of fruit and veg and some nice free range local eggs so I have no excuses for not eating healthily now.

Going to have a nice bath with some new smellies now and de-stinkify myself:p

mineallmine

Hello all

Done a bit of meditation today, found it hard to switch off but will persist with this.

Switched to a richer moisturiser.

Will go out for a walk later.

Not feeling great today. Have a lot of worries swirling around and its drowning me today. So I'm climbing into a nearby boat for a respite

Hewie29

Well today feels like one step closer to losing my mum. Dad called this morning to say she had wet herself in the night, and could I bring some spare sheets round and then said that he didn't know how much longer he could cope. He says this at every set back and then picks his self back up again and soliders on.

Anyway I get a call this afternoon from dad saying that she'd had another accident while the nurse was round, they have decided that mum would be better off in a home and was I happy with this. Of course I am, but it just feels like were are getting close to the end. I have worried for a while about dad, he has a dicky ticker and has not been well himself and worried that all the lifting of mum would be too much for him.

It just feels like everything is happening so quick. If you saw mum in Setpember you wouldn't believe that 3 months down the line she wouldn't be able to walk or talk and had to be cared for 24/7. Life is crap sometimes.

I just need a big hug and cry, but I have a houseful of kids and hubby is at work. Sorry only place I can let it out right now.

mineallmine

Oh god Hewie here's a huge hug :A

Life is utterly crap. Unfair. Horrid. Your poor Mum. Your poor Dad. Hopefully hubby will be home soon for you xxx

Keep talking on here and letting it out xx

lessonlearned

Hewie - So sorry to hear that your mum is deteriorating so quickly and that your dad is struggling. Perhaps a nursing home would be best. Your dad could visit whenever he wanted, staying as long as he likes and even sleeping over sometimes.

He can be with her as much as possible and be spared the most back-breaking physical caring.

I wish my dad would agree to this but he is really stubborn. Like your mum mine has started having regular accidents and dad is really struggling but won't give in. He looks like a ghost.

Have you had any input from the Macmillan team. I understand they are very good and can help with all sorts of issues.

I do feel for you, sending you a virtual hug. Take care. X

Went to the chiropodist this morning, so no excuse now for me to start walking. Not today though. Furniture removers took the first load today. I'm exhausted. So I'm it's just bits and bobs and snacks today, using up Christmas leftovers and then pizza for dinner. Not very healthy but it's all I can manage today.

Time for a nap....

SAVVYJADE

Hi all

Used to follow this thread last year, then one thing after another happened and it all went out the window! thought I'd try now as why wait till January?

please can i come back? lol

hope all is well with everyone, i havent had chance yet to read the previous posts.

hope everyone had a merry christmas

Jade x

lessonlearned

Hewie - meant to say - do keep posting if it helps. I just wish there was more I could say to comfort you.

Life can be so harsh at times, words can be so inadequate. Hope your husband is home soon to comfort you and support you.

WelshWoofer

Hewie - I don't have any words of wisdom but just wanted you to know that we're all here to listen. Don't worry about using us as a ranting place - we all understand.
Is OH home yet?

xxxxx

Hewie29

thanks for all the quick and caring replies - oh and the hugs they have helped.

Hubby not home til 9.30.

Well hats off to the nhs. mum is being taken to hospital in the morning where they will access her needs and then decide on a care home to suit her. Didn't think it would be that quick being the holidays. Dad sounded relieved when he called to tell me. I have to take him down there so we can get her settled.

Thanks once again xx

Rummer

Hewie as others have said please keep posting here if it helps as we are all here to listen. Sorry to hear your mum has dipped. It is comforting to hear that her care team are moving quickly to support you all.