What would you think?

Mojisola

Dramallama wrote: »

having time on my hands has seen me recalling events and thinking/over thinking things.

Find things to do so that you're busier!

If you are living that close, you may bump into her on other occasions. I wouldn't bring up the past if you do.

LandyAndy

peachyprice wrote: »

Why did she even have a brick in her car?

Doesn't everyone?

You never know when you might want to smash a window.

And, OP, get on with your life and let her get on with hers.

pinkshoes

Perhaps she forgave him on the basis she was hoping never to see you again, nor you to see him, so by interfering, you may stir up some buried hatred between the two of them.

(as no one every truly 100% gets over infidelity...)

Joons

If you'd done what you did to her to me, you'd be the last person on earth I wud want to hear from - you weren't a friend then so what makes you think you can be one now, unless she is desperately looking for a friend, I wudn't embarrass myself.

Pollycat

You may be opening yourself up to some pretty nasty stuff if you do get in touch with her.

Of course, she may be really pleased to hear from you.

Could she possibly find you on Facebook? If she could and hasn't got in touch, that might indicate that she's not bothered with rekindling the friendship.

Personally, I'd leave well alone.

j.e.j.

I would also say leave well alone. 15 years ago she was off with another fella, you went with her fella.. why drag it all up again. She's not going to have happy memories of that time. It's different if you bump into each other by chance, but I wouldn't go seeking her out if I were you.

shiny76

Dramallama wrote: »

The worst thing would be that she posts a tirade publicly on my wall that could be read before I got to it!!!

I imagine the worst thing for them would be you getting in contact and that stirring up old emotions and therefore causing problems between them. I'd leave them to it.

lazer

UsernameAlreadyExists wrote: »

Would you appreciate an apology from someone that you'd "wronged" 15 years ago? I wonder if you could care less, and even less accept it and then go on to rekindle the old friendship that you once had.

From a personal perspective, I would love an apology from people that betrayed me years ago - some hurts last a long time - in my case its only been about 4 years, but their actions changed me and made me insecure and to this day I would apprecaite it if they got in touch with me - I would love for them just to say they were wrong.

Joons

lazer wrote: »

From a personal perspective, I would love an apology from people that betrayed me years ago - some hurts last a long time - in my case its only been about 4 years, but their actions changed me and made me insecure and to this day I would apprecaite it if they got in touch with me - I would love for them just to say they were wrong.

Nice to have the other person's perspective - I think it really depends on what hurt they caused you, going off with your b/f behind your friend's back to me is a complete deal breaker, of course she was in the wrong, saying sorry 15 years later just doesn't cut it.

notanewuser

Ooh, tough one. It sounds like 6 of one, half a dozen of the other. You and her BF betrayed her, but that wouldn't have happened had she not been away betraying him. It wouldn't surprise me if you weren't made the scapegoat for the whole thing.

I'd leave it alone, unless as someone else said your paths start crossing more regularly.