Would love to be debt free but budget is a nightmare

worried48

KiKi wrote: »

I fully respect your not wanting to walk out (although I find your comment about 'Christian women shouldn't dominate' interesting - I don't remember anything in the new testament about women submitting)

I'm afraid you need to read in the Epistles a bit more, then

I also suggest you may benefit from speaking from someone in the leadership of your church and ask for advice, because they will be able to direct you Biblically to how relationships should be if that's what you want to role model.

My church regard me (with affection, I hasten to add) as a feminist

exarmydreamer

worried48 wrote: »

I'm afraid you need to read in the Epistles a bit more, then

That's a bit insulting isn't it. I believe you have been offered so much help and understanding.

My church regard me (with affection, I hasten to add) as a feminist

Feminists class themselves as equal and indepentant, neither of which you are by all accounts.


Maybe you should seek some advice from your church. No one is bothered on these boards about who has what religion and it should not be, the be all of this thread as you have asked for advice on budget.

You have been given loads of very good advice, like others have said you may end up alienated by excuses. I hope you find strength to cope and good luck, i'm out of here.

carrielovesfanta

Apologies if I am now off topic...

I think that the "submission" passage that the OP was talking about refers to Ephesians 5 vs 22

"Wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord"

However, the passage does go on to say:

"Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the Church...men ought to love their wives just as they love their own bodies"

Also see colossians 3 vs 18-19

OP perhaps you could set some time aside with your husband for prayer together?

whiteguineapig

i am going to try to stop reading this thread

i can't for the life of me understand how a deeply religious person can live with someone who has thrown a kitten down the stairs

telboyo

Why not move his books into storage and put the stock in the house. Let your husband pay for the storage unit from his "wages".
Job lot the stock you have got on ebay at whatever price you can get. Once the stock has gone give your husband the option to return his books to the house.

worried48

telboyo wrote: »

Why not move his books into storage and put the stock in the house.

Makes much moire sense, I agree. But you see I'd have to get him out of the house before I could get the books moved, then he would hit the roof when he came home and found I'd moved them.

worried48

carrielovesfanta wrote: »

OP perhaps you could set some time aside with your husband for prayer together?

That's another thing he hasn't done for more than a decade.

bluebag

It seems your husband is evading his responsibilites in a lot of areas of your married life. You seem content to allow this. This is a major part of your financial problems.


It may be best to work on sorting out these relationship problems before enbarking on a debt free plan.

In your current marital arrangement there are joint finances that require both parties to consent to and work towards changing.

dorisday

ha ha ha this all has to be a wind up

worried48

Not at all.