The Realtives are Coming / Oh no I have to visit the Relatives - Xmas Vent Thread

Mojisola

WISHIWASRICH wrote: »

Are your parents still alive?

Mum died this summer so Christmas is going to be a bit strange this year without her.

WISHIWASRICH_2

Mojisola wrote: »

Mum died this summer so Christmas is going to be a bit strange this year without her.

Oh that's a tough one - I'm sorry about that

Mojisola

WISHIWASRICH wrote: »

Oh that's a tough one - I'm sorry about that

Thanks.

Just from watching the posts on MSE, there's going to be a lot of other people in the same position.

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Mojisola wrote: »

Thanks.

Just from watching the posts on MSE, there's going to be a lot of other people in the same position.

Do you have young kids? (When my Mum died 13 years ago my kids were young and they kept me going....)

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kelpie35 wrote: »

Have you not heard of the word NO.

I do not do anything I am not happy with.

I only visit people who invite me and I enjoy their company.

I only invite people to my home who I like and we can have a laugh and enjoy each others company.

Well you are very lucky to be able to do that:)

I guess you are an only child;)

Mojisola

WISHIWASRICH wrote: »

Do you have young kids? (When my Mum died 13 years ago my kids were young and they kept me going....)

No, grown-up kids and no grandchildren on the horizon yet!

I've got the comfort that my parents have had good, long lives and seen all the next two generations make their way in life.

It must be so hard for people whose parents die relatively young.

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balletshoes wrote: »

I agree, whats all this "invited themselves"? I have pretty much free reign to stay at my brother's with my DD and my husband on our school holidays etc, but I always ask in advance, and if its not suitable, I have no problem booking into a premier inn nearby so I can still do family christmas with them (in fact I've just this morning sorted that out).

Just joking but maybe you are brother's unwanted guests lol? Even though they said they were busy - you still booked yourself into a hotel so you could be with them. Bless.

You see it's not so easy to say no when people are so persistent....I mean what's balletshoe's brother supposed to do

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pelirocco wrote: »

I have 15 for dinner , my siste and Bil for the first time , my brother sil , neice and sil mum , my mum , my kids ..........I cant wait

We lost our wonderful dad in September , so the only thing i could vent about is he wont be here too

Count your blessings OP

I do count my blessings - it's just that "my family of origin" don't count as one of life's blessings:rotfl:

(I've put all items that are breakable and precious away....)

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...whoop whoop they're still not here True to form she's always hours late....

Person_one

If you really don't like your family, just stop.

I have family members I barely see and wouldn't cross the road to say hello to, DNA is not the be all and end all!

You can do it without cutting all ties, just back away, always be busy, say no to things, before you know it you'll be on Christmas card terms if that's what you want.