Not 'doing' Santa

notanewuser

shegirl wrote: »

If you choose for your kids to be in the minority (which,lets face it it is) over this then at least make sure they don't go spoiling it for everyone else!

This has been covered ad nauseum.

Do you think you could just let it sink in, just once, and calm down? Nobody is saying that you can't believe in Santa.


My DD will be going to a welsh medium school - minority, has parents that are still together - minority, and a SAHM - minority, and a rear facing car seat - minority. I'm not going to go back to work, kick the hubby out and take risks with her safety so that she can be in the majority! :rotfl:

fluffnutter

alias*alibi wrote: »

Sorry, parents use the threat of telling Santa because they haven't got the balls or confidence to discipline their own children?

When your children are playing up, why do you tell them that some person who doesn't exist is cross with them? Why not just say 'I'm cross with you'? Don't they listen to you?

I take all sorts of direction from around me which I hope will help me be a good parent. IME, those people who have to resort to threats from some third party (the police, Santa, Grandma, the nasty man) etc. aren't teaching their kids to respect their decisions. Those who don't, who have the confidence to explain to their children that they, as parents, aren't happy get far better results.

Just my opinion based on my experience. If you prefer the Santa approach, then crack on. Up to you, innit.

And don't pull that hackneyed shit about 'you don't have the right to have an opinion because you're not a parent/only been a parent for two minutes' etc. The idea that only people who are directly involved with X, Y or Z can ever hold a valid opinion is one of the biggest load of bollox that stupid people trot out on these forums.

shegirl

notanewuser wrote: »

This has been covered ad nauseum.

Do you think you could just let it sink in, just once, and calm down? Nobody is saying that you can't believe in Santa.


My DD will be going to a welsh medium school - minority, has parents that are still together - minority, and a SAHM - minority, and a rear facing car seat - minority. I'm not going to go back to work, kick the hubby out and take risks with her safety so that she can be in the majority! :rotfl:

You dear are like a brick wall.

alias*alibi

Actually this thread is quite sad really. It's not really about Father Christmas or Santa is it? It's about people laughing at other people's beliefs and parenting styles. I'm guessing the non-santa's view the pro-santa's as an extension of chavviness. That's the impression I'm getting anyway. My DD believes; she got really excited hearing the 13 sleeps til Santa song on Heart radio this morning and I'm damned if I'd ever take that magic from her. She's only a child for a mere chink in time and if that makes me a sh1te chav parent then bring it on.

notanewuser

alias*alibi wrote: »

Actually this thread is quite sad really. It's not really about Father Christmas or Santa is it? It's about people laughing at other people's beliefs and parenting styles. I'm guessing the non-santa's view the pro-santa's as an extension of chavviness. That's the impression I'm getting anyway. My DD believes; she got really excited hearing the 13 sleeps til Santa song on Heart radio this morning and I'm damned if I'd ever take that magic from her. She's only a child for a mere chink in time and if that makes me a sh1te chav parent then bring it on.

Not at all. I don't care what anybody else does. Tell them Hitler comes down the chimney for all I care.

And I haven't seen anything implying anything of the sort. The word 'chav' didn't cross my mind!

geoffky

pulliptears wrote: »

Poor kid. When she gets to nursery/primary and Santa is coming round with presents and gifts how left out will she feel.

The same as poor children..Who have poor parents...

OrkneyStar

I don't think badly of those who do Santa (or any other myth/magic), what I do think badly of is them telling me I am some sort of strange person/idiot/un-caring/self-ish/spoilsport because I chose not to promote the idea.
End of. I kind of think the OP feels similarly to me on that?

notanewuser

OrkneyStar wrote: »

I don't think badly of those who do Santa (or any other myth/magic), what I do think badly of is them telling me I am some sort of strange person/idiot/un-caring/self-ish/spoilsport because I chose not to promote the idea.
End of. I kind of think the OP feels similarly to me on that?

Absolutely.

alias*alibi

I was referring to the post which criticised parents saying 'Ill tell Santa' to get their children to conform and accusing parents of having no balls or confidence to discipline their kids from a person whose been a mother less than half a year. That has nothing to do with believing in Santa but a direct criticism of people's parenting who have probably been parents for a lot longer than she has.

OrkneyStar

alias*alibi wrote: »

I was referring to the post which criticised parents saying 'Ill tell Santa' to get their children to conform and accusing parents of having no balls or confidence to discipline their kids from a person whose been a mother less than half a year. That has nothing to do with believing in Santa but a direct criticism of people's parenting who have probably been parents for a lot longer than she has.

My aims for parenting have adapted as my son has grown, though my fundamental beliefs haven't really, so the same essence is there. Some things are only learned by experience though and theory doesn't always work in practice.