Do you feel like a "grown up" yet?

Nottoobadyet

I dont have kids / a mortgage / a marriage etc but I'd say I've felt pretty grown up since I was about 22 or so.

I'm not joyless, but I feel very independent, yet humble at the amount of things I dont know and cant do. I have people in my life who I care about more than myself and who's needs come before mine. I can manage a grown up relationship. I know what I am passionate about and have built a life / career that lets me do it, but I'd do something else if needs must. I think those are the signs that you're not a teenager anymore.

Not saying that those who dont feel grown up are uncaring or dependent, thats just how I see adulthood!

Janey1968

Im 45, we had our Christmas Office Party on Friday and it was like watching paint dry, they are younger than me and just wanted to eat and go home, I was like "what no town and disco???"
My heart is about 18, my brain is about 21, I still have to give myself a talking to when I see clothes in the "young" stores and I think "hot pants, heels and a mid-drift-no probs"
Still have "boy probs" as I did when I was 18, and still play with makeup on a boring evening!

ska_lover

dandy-candy wrote: »

I'm wondering if anyone else is wondering when they will feel like a grown up? I'm 39 and being an adult isn't what I was expecting!

When I was a kid I looked at grown ups as calm, confident and self assured people who seemed comfortable in their role. I'm still a headless chicken in times of crisis, I can never make decisions, and still don't know what I want to do with the rest of my life. Up until 30 I felt like I was still 18 inside, and now at 39 I keep thinking i'm about 30 until I look in the mirror! I'm not the wise person I thought I would be and feel like a kid in an aging shell of a body - it's quite creepy :eek:

Is it just me?

You know, I am grateful for your post because - I thought it was just me!!!! I am 37 and feel exactly like this. An waiting to become the self assured adult that other people my age appear to be! It really is creepy

LandyAndy

I'm 55 and I'm still a kid

The difference is that now I'm a kid who's seen most of it before.

:cool:

Callie22

I feel like this all the time. I still feel like there should be someone saying 'well done' when I do that boring adult stuff like finding cheaper insurance, switching the utilities or cleaning the drains out. Having said that, over the past few years I've been through some family stuff that has made me feel an awful lot older - but I still feel like I'm too young to be dealing with it!

bluebeary

the weirdest thing is seeing all these old people with white hair with pink streaks or purple streaks and piercings and then i realised, they were like, in their 20s back in the 70s/ 80s and into that back then and obviously still are, its the next generation of old people

all the youngsters at work i try to talk to but have no real connection with, they all listen to rhianna and im still into the manics etc

im still me as i was back then, except im older with a nice flowery dress on and a sensible haircut but inside i still have a long black skirt or baggies and black hair

when i hit 50 im going to let her come out again hell yeah !

bylromarha

I always thought I'd feel like a grown up when I graduated...never happened.

Then thought I'd feel grown up when I got married - still felt like a kid.
Mortgage - that'd do it. Neagtive.
First baby - obviously I'd feel a proper adult then, being a mum. Nope. Just made me even more of a kid as I enoyed life at their understanding and level.

What made me feel a grown up? Organising my mums funeral last month. That did it.

Still have the childlike outlook on life and am enjoying good times , but something has fundamentally shifted to make me feel like a proper grown up now. Don't forsee it changing back either.

System

I have come to the conclusion that in my head, i'm the same age as ive always been but kids of today are so much more immature than i was.... if that makes sense.:o

Gra76

Well I'm 36 and I certainly don't feel my age, and I'm pretty sure I don't act my age. My body is starting to let me down slightly in a few departments but other than that it's not too bad. I still find the same things hugely amusing that I did in my teens. I still listen to Radio 1. I still look forward to a good session in the pub, although it's no longer every weekend now.

I think the day I start looking at tartan blankets and wondering if I could do with one in the car is the day I'll admit defeat. Till then I'll carry on with my impending mid-life crisis (dieting, exercising, wanting a soft-top sports car in the middle of winter etc).

tiernsee

Mid 40's and eyesight is beginning to go - now have to take glasses off to read and put the on to drive or watch the tv. A "friend" suggested either a chain or bifocals the other day which made me fall off my chair - I'm far too young for either!!

Son (15) told me off the other day for laughing at an accidental suggestive remark he'd made - grow up Mum - he said - NEVER!!